Breadwinner Wives

Female Financial Superiority.

Breadwinner Wife Female Led Relationship

I suspect some of you – guys – dream of being married to a breadwinner wife.

… A recent breakdown of census data showed that in all but three of the 150 biggest cities in the United States, young women age 30 and under are making more money than young men. Even if that changes when the women have children, such a vast shift in earning power suggests that the next generation may make different decisions about whose salary counts more and who should be the family’s primary breadwinner. …

She Makes More Money Than He Does. So?

Originally posted 2011-02-19 09:21:44.

Never Again Will You Orgasm!

If a dominant woman chooses to keep you chaste for life could you accept your decision?


If she ordered you to give up orgasms, for ejaculating becoming a faint memory from the past would you agree?

Would you accept lifetime chastity as her rightful decision for you? Or would you end the Femdom relationship because lifestyle orgasm denial is unacceptable?

Tone of Voice

By Her Bootlicker

Margaret Thatcher, a consummate dominant in Her public and vanilla-world way, said once that Being powerful is like being beautiful — if you have to say it, you aren’t.

The essence of civilized domination is that a a true Dominant Woman never has to raise Her voice or scream at Her slave (Think of The Godfather — speaking softly!).

The contrast between a Mistress’s soft allowing a slave to serve Her, permitting it to debase itself at Her feet, contrasts all the more with the fact that She will be obeyed.

Her power is enough that She never has to lose Her temper. She gives a quiet suggestion, and if Her slave hesitates before obeying instantly, She doesn’t have to say a word: one cruel lash across the slave’s naked back, or face or whatever part of its anatomy is convenient, is all that’s needed.

In Middle Eastern cultures where real slavery is genuinely practiced, not for the sake of BDSM, but that’s the way life IS, the custom is to speak politely, even request, as Richard suggests his Lady Alexandria might do. Well-trained slaves know what will happen if they don’t give 150% obedience at once. So, too, with our BDSM world.

Both Mistress and slave can be happy with such an arrangement: One knowing that She has actual power, and the other reveling in obedience and submission.

That’s why, when a command is carried out, Mistress can say that She is pleased by Her slave, and the slave, in turn, thanks Her for the privilege of serving Her (with, in this house, a warm kiss on Her toe).

This was a comment on A Spoken Collar.

Originally posted 2011-01-14 20:45:16.

Be Happy!

Remember: consensual erotic power exchange – whatever phrase or group of initials you use to describe it – is about self-fulfillment. Fulfillment for two or more people.

If the bottom, submissive person, slave isn’t happy then he or she will leave. Or be as sad as anyone forcing themselves to stay in a failed relationship.

Likewise the top, mistress, dome must feel that the specific exchange going on with the other person makes her life better and complete.

People who try to live in terms of sexist propaganda, silly sociology, rotten history, idiotic politics and damnable anthropology will be miserable.

There is no one true way. No right way. But any way that is honorable, honest and satisfying can work.

Originally posted 2008-01-17 14:24:50.

Desirable Submissive Men

So many desperate submissive men write to dominant women on the dating sites offering themselves as worthless worms who’ll do anything.

Dominant women aren’t looking for worthless, inferior men:

Dominant women often look for highly intelligent men, someone they can talk to and discuss things with. Often men who are fairly assertive outside of the home, but have a gentle and submissive side too. A man who’s ok with showing his feelings. Physical appearance really depends on her individual taste… some dominant women like strong and masculine looking men, others prefer more effeminate men.

So give her a reason to think she might want to have dinner with you. Then she’ll be willing to consider whether or not she’ll enjoy controlling you.

In a female led relationship what is the woman looking for in her man?

Originally posted 2013-09-10 14:44:36.

Feminization & Female Superiority

A man makes an effort to link his desire to be feminized to female superiority.

As a sub who is strongly attracted to this, I’ve thought about it a good deal. It doesn’t make sense. :-) I am an ardent worshipper and obedient servant of women, and revel in the occasions when a woman has dressed to the nines to be with me, either in public or in private. I feel especially lucky on such occasions. Nevertheless, when I am ‘forced’ into wearing female garb, I am especially aroused, and very vulnerable to humiliation. And, of course, that’s part of the turn on. But yet I’m supposed to be a worshiper of the creatures that wear these silky clothes.

After hashing this out for a good deal of time, I think that the humiliation comes from the American male’s usually unspoken (and perhaps buried, as well) feelings of superiority…leftovers from the once established male power structure.

In my case, I can remember watching TV that always had that unspoken (or spoken) “I’m the dad/husband/boss, and I’m in charge” attitude to it. Women were sometimes entirely absent from the picture. I can remember similar attitudes prevailing in the structure of virtually everything I was exposed to, my friends families were structured that way, and my house too – until my dad died, and mom is suddenly totally responsible.

Taught me a lot of lessons about women, none of them incestuous. Sorry to ramble, but I wanted to give a tad of background.

So, to encapsulate the above:

  • I *know* that women are superior…
  • I’ve been ‘indoctrinated’ to believe that they are not, in the face of convincing evidence to the contrary.
  • So when I am dressed in female clothes, whatever they are, I am acting the role of the ‘inferior’ sex. That is humiliating to that 50’s role model living inside me.
  • Now what I can’t figure out is why the humiliation is a turn on. Or pain, or why performing orally on a woman is more of a turn on than
  • intercourse. And on one level – it doesn’t matter, because I’ve come to terms with it, which is all that really *does* matter. Finding a
  • psychological root for everything may be less rewarding than sitting back and enjoying the ride.

(From an old Usenet posting.)

My Wife Discovered I’m Another Man’s Slave

Maybe they are watching you!

My wife of 25 years came out of the blue after Christmas this past year and requested a divorce without much explanation. I was devastated, so I purchased your product. It only took two days to find out she has been living a dark secret life for several years as a submissive love slave to a dominant male partner in the BDSM world meeting him at least once a month. She was blown out of the water when I told her everything I knew about her lifestyle even down to the name and email address of the person she is involved with. Answered all my questions. She has no clue and thinks I spent $$$$$$ on a private investigator.

Spying on other people’s computers

Have you ever been outed as person with atypical sexual needs? Or has your relationship with someone been used as a weapon during a divorce?

Personally or indirectly has your pleasure in BDSM led to the embarrassment of yourself and others?

Originally posted 2012-11-10 07:29:07.

Forced Feminization

Some people who want to be turned into sissies want someone to force them to be sissyfied. To force them to do what they want to do. But how to achieve such contradiction?

There’s always blackmail:

I share your interest in forced feminization and I have to say that to truly force someone to do something he or she doesn’t want to is probably beyond the scope of bdsm or at least most bdsm relationships.

Someone suggested taking poloroids of you all dressed up. However unless she would actually show them around and you are truly frightened of her doing so, pictures don’t sound like much of a threat.

There’s always reality:

A friend and I played with this once. We went to the mall, picked out a pair of panties for him, Had him change in the men’s room there and wandered around the mall for a while. It was really intense for him – he’d never done such a thing before. He was embarrassed and self-conscious, seriously blushing and this isn’t the kind of guy who blushes. And hard as a rock the whole time.

On the other end of my experience is the guy who wanted me to throw out all of his male things and make him live as a woman. The twist there, I thought, was that he was trying to force me to feminize him. That was weird. Not my kink.

I also met someone who said he was into forced fem, but on talking to him, there was nothing “forced” about what he wanted, but that’s the only name that fit most of his kink. He wanted to be the femsub of a femdom.

Forced feminization questions

Originally posted 2009-02-28 10:55:24.

Taking a Man’s Strap-On Sex Virginity

F/m Strap-on Sex as Humiliation

Sooner or later .. a submale in training must face the sacrifice .. or earn the glory .. depending on one’s perspective .. of being taken by Mistress. To put it, not indelicately, to be fucked like a whore .. by his Mistress.

You see .. he does not truly belong to me until this happens.

Is it fair? Of course .. why not?

I require him to send me in advance a new base mount dildo .. you see he selects the size. My only requirement is that it be at least as big as he is. Perhaps this isn’t too much. But whatever he has .. he has never hesitated to use it .. or dream of using it .. on any women dumb enough to allow him to! Therefore it is only right and just .. that he has the privilege of knowing the feeling and terror of rape … himself. Now who could argue with that logic?

So here is how it is done.

When I fuck a submale .. I put a leather cock ring harness on his cock (it has a D-ring at the tip) and snap a leash on him. Then I put on my strap-on and equip it with the new dildo which he has previously provided me with.

I bend him over and position him just right .. take the leash and run it between his legs and back behind me .. and then pull it up over my shoulder .. and cinch it tight. It locks him into place and holds him steady .. for mounting and fucking as long as I want.

There are some variations .. but it’s much like tightening the cinch on the horse’s saddle.

A hard cock doubled back is very compromising. So compromising, that I do not even need to otherwise restrain him. Although I do gag him with my panties .. just removed.

How long .. well at least through several orgasms for me. If he flinch .. hops .. or struggles .. well I just haul back on that leash even harder .. and RIDE him hard and long .. until he’s more than just worn out .. he’s used up .. whipped down.

Do I really whip him? Yes, and even more if he cums while he is being fucked .. or afterwards without permission.

Does he cry? Usually .. though his screams and sobbing are muffled through my panties-cum-gag. I like to see him cry though. Its good for a submale to be broken to tears .. because I never allow a sub to hide emotions .. any emotions .. from his Mistress. Lubrication? perhaps .. but did he ever lube the women first?

This is where I let him dwell on the mental terror of rape .. At the most .. I let him do sucking drills first .. and he is allowed to suck and wet the dildo .. as much has he can or wants, but only with his mouth and tongue.

His mouth? Yes .. he has made or dreamed of making a woman suck him .. has he not? Good that he realizes just how big that dildo is .. after all he picked it out .. didn’t he?

Is this a big event for him? Yes it is .. only the whippings required to break him and bond him .. and his later moment of being branded (if he ever earns the privilege) .. and one other event (which must be left untold for now) can match this occasion for sheer emotion .. humiliation .. and degradation.

And when it is over, he is bonded ever closer .. and he will beg for more … crawling .. walking may be difficult for a while :) to me .. kissing my feet .. and figuratively clinging to my skirt ..

He IS mine.

Oh, I should add .. that he has been cleansed and purged by one or more warm soapy humiliating enemas in preparation for his taking by Mistress. Yes, I lube the dildo .. but out of his sight or knowledge.

You see, I want that feeling of the terror of rape to permeate his mind as I take his submissive virginity. Well, actually, maybe I do … but maybe I forget sometimes … in all the pleasure and power.