Sadists Love Mirrors

This woman has been punishing a submissive man by locking him in bondage on the bed and giving him a spanking.


That mirror tells a story. She is a sadist. She enjoys spanking and discipline men so much she wants to see as much of her own performance as she can.

Any submissive man who wants to spend time with her must understand this. She will spank and hurt him just for fun. He does not have to offend her or merit a beating. She whips him just because of the excitement and energy.

She Dreams of Spanking Her Boyfriend

How many young women are latent Dommes? Men have girlfriends who enjoy secret dreams of punishing their boyfriend while he services her sexually.


You would not be here if you were not hoping that there are many such women. Females soon to be released desires to dominate and discipline. Most especially one who will become your Mistress.

Spanking Toys Are Where You Find Them

Spanking implements are often at hand even when away from home. This wife and husband were visiting a river near their home. She found his behavior offhand and inconsiderate.


Without much effort, she grabbed a branch and created a good old-fashioned switch. A corporal punishment device not sold in fetish catalogs.

Ordering her husband to strip and hold on to a tree limb she have him the spanking he so badly needed.

She enjoyed using the switch and will take this home where her husband will receive additional discipline.She’ll enjoy the evening much more than the trip to the river.

Boyfriend Becomes Kitchen Slave

This Domme has turned her boyfriend into a kitchen slave.


Not only does he wash dishes and scrub the floor and walls, he is also cooks all of her meals. She has ordered him to learn how to cook like a gourmet chef.

She demands perfection. A spot on a counter or anything imperfect about the food he prepares for her results in instant corporal punishment. She regards failure as disrespect. Since she is so demanding his punishment are frequent.

Never permitted to eat what he cooks he is permitted three bowls of slave gruel a day eaten from a bowl on the floor.

Women Training Men As Slaves

What does female training of the male to serve as her slave entail? There is no universal agreement. A women will use what experience has taught her will effectively condition a man to accept status as owned property.


  • Rules: Every enslaved male has rules that govern his life. Flawless obedience should be the goal of every slave man.
  • Pain. Only a man whose natural submission to women is perfect might escape the occasional need for corporal punishment.
  • Posture. The male may be required to keep his head bowed, forbidden eye contact, curtsey: move and hold his body in a way that reinforces submission.
  • Protocol: A slave man may be obliged to use address his Owner with a title. Ritual phrases may be part of any words spoken to her.
  • Bondage: Perhaps the most controversial aspect of male slave control. Physical restriction can keep a man out of trouble or mindful of his status as chattel.

These are elements train and maintain a man in slavery.

Women new to slave ownership may seek the advice of other Dommes. Each woman will evolve her own refinements and ramifications.

What are your thoughts? Do you have any advice to offer?

Consensual Temporary Mistress / Slave Contract

This contract is provided as a secure and binding agreement which defines in specific terms the relationship and interaction between two individuals, hereafter termed the slave and the Mistress (both terms are intended to be independent of sex). This agreement is legal and binding. This agreement must be entered voluntarily, but cannot be broken except under the conditions stated herein, afterwhich certain precautions shall be taken to protect those involved. (See section 7.0.0)

1.0.0 Slave’s Role

The slave agrees to submit completely to the Mistress in all ways. There are no boundaries of place, time, or situation in which the slave may willfully refuse to obey the directive of the Mistress without risking punishment, except in situations where the slave’s veto (see section 1.0.1) applies. The slave also agrees that, once entered into the Slavery Contract, their body belongs to their Mistress ,, to be used as seen fit, within the guidelines defined herein. All of the slave’s possessions likewise belong to the Mistress , including all assets, finances, and material goods, to do with as they see fit. The slave agrees to please the Mistress tothe best of their ability, in that they now exist solely for the pleasure of said Mistress .

1.0.1 Slave’s Veto

The slave, where appropriate, holds veto power over any command given by the Mistress , at which time they may rightfully refuse to obey that command. This power may only be invoked under the following circumstances, or where agreed by both Mistress and slave:

a) Where said command conflicts with any existing laws and may lead to fines, arrest, or prosecution of the slave .

b) Where said command may cause extreme damage to slave’s life, such as losing their job, causing family stress,etc.

c) Where said command may cause permanent bodily harm (see 4.0.0) to the slave .

d) Where said command may cause psychological trauma to the slave, such as a rape scene for a slave that has been raped in the past.

2.0.0 Mistress’s Role

The Mistress accepts the responsibility of the slave’s body and worldly possessions, to do with as they see fit, under the provisions determined in this contract. The Mistress agrees to care for the slave , to arrange for the safety and well-being o f the slave , as long as they own the slave . The Mistress also accepts the committment to treat the slave properly, to train the slave, punish the slave, love the slave, and use the slave as they see fit.

3.0.0 Punishment

The slave agrees to accept any punishment the Mistress decides to inflict, whether earned or not.

3.0.1 Rules of Punishment

Punishment of the slave is subject to certain rules designed to protect the slave from intentional abuse or permanent bodily harm (see 4.0.0). Punishment must not incur permanent bodily harm, or the following forms of abuse:

a) Blood may not be drawn at any time. Punishment must stop immediately if blood is drawn

b) Burning the body

c) Drastic loss of circulation

d) Causing internal bleeding

e) Loss of consciousness

f) Withholding of any necessary materials, such as food, water, or sunlight for extended periods of time

4.0.0 Permanent Bodily Harm

Since the body of the slave now belongs to the Mistress , it is the Mistress’s responsibility to protect that body from permanent bodily harm. Should the slave ever come to permanent bodily harm during the course of punishment or in any other slavery related activity, whether by intention or accident, it will be grounds for immediate termination of this contract, should the slave so desire. Permanent bodily harm shall be determined as:

a) Death

b) Any damage that involves loss of mobility or function, including broken bones.

c) Any permanent marks on the skin, including scars, burns, or tattoos, unless accepted by the slave .

d) Any loss of hair, unless accepted by the slave .

e) Any piercing of the flesh which leaves a permanent hole, unless accepted by the slave .

f) Any diseases that could result in any of the above results, including sexually transmitted diseases.

5.0.0 Others

The slave may not seek any other Mistress or lover or relate to others in any sexual or submissive way without the Mistress’s permission. To do so will be considered a breach of contract, and will result in extreme punishment. The Mistress may accept other slaves or lovers, but must consider the slave’s emotional response to such actions and act accordingly. Under no circumstance should the Mistress allow such actions to unbalance the slave emotionally, or allow such actions to result in ignoring the slave . The Mistress may give the slave to other Mistresss, provided the rules of this contract are upheld. In such a situation, the Mistress will inform the new Mistress of the provisions stated herein, and any breach by the new Mistress will be considered a breach by the Mistress as well, subject to all rules stated in this contract.

6.0.0 Secrecy

All physical evidence of the slavery will be kept in total secrecy, except where both Mistress and slave agree. Any violation of this clause shall be cause to terminate this contract, should the injured party wish it. The materials and physical evidence shall be kept under lock and key in a place acceptable to both parties.

7.0.0 Alteration of Contract

This contract may not be altered, except when both Mistress and slave agree. If the contract is altered, the new contract shall be printed and signed, and then the old contract must be destroyed.

8.0.0 Termination of Contract

This contract may be terminated at any time by the Mistress , but never by the slave, except under special conditions explained within this contract. Upon termination, all physical evidence of the slavery, including this contract, will be destroyed, and all materials and belongings shall belong to the Mistress , to be shared or kept as they see fit. The slave , owning nothing and having agreed to give up all worldly possessions and body to the Mistress , shall once again own their body, but nothing else, unless the Mistress decides to give back their possessions.

9.0.0 Slave’s Signature

I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to give everything I own to my Mistress, and further accept their claim of ownership over my physical body. I understand tha I will be commanded and trained and punished as a slave, and I promise to be true and to fulfill the pleasures and desires of my Mistress to the best of my abilities. I understand that I cannot withdraw from this contract except as stated in this contract.


9.0.1 Mistress’s Signature

I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to accept this slave as my property, body and possessions, and to care for them to the best of my ability. I shall provide for their security and well-being and command them, train them, and punish them as a slave. I understand the responsibility implicit in this arrangement, and agree that no harm shall come to the slave as long as they are mine. I further understand that I can withdraw from this contract at any time.


Originally posted 2014-01-16 14:49:50.

Rituals & Female-Led BDSM

Ritualizing Submissive Male Behavior

By Kane

Here are some musings I will just toss out, since I’m tired of them kicking around in my head they can now kick in yours… ;)

What are kinky rituals and why use them? Elements of BDSM can be used to set a mood, a tone, to control a sub, to elevate a Master (both flip sides of showing differences in station) – to introduce or reinforce training. To move play into the theater of the mind, or out onto the physical stage.

To give focus for discipline of self…. I receive a beating routinely every morning after I spend the night at the house of a woman I sub to. It is a reminder of my place. This also puts me in mind that even after a recent phenomenal, very heavy scene that left me caned bloody and extremely bruised – I woke up to her caning me where I was already badly beaten, leaving me nearly in tears to start the day.

I loved it. (OK, so I’m a pervert ;) Someone making free with my body that way makes me feel very possessed and used. And controlled. And that is very much the cornerstone of my kink (being controlled, and used). So this is a Good Thing to experience, not to mention it builds a bond between top and bottom, dominant and submissive. And the experience comes about through the pointed application of ritualized play in BDSM.

Rituals can be as simple as formalized methods of greeting a dominant or presenting one’s (sub) self; they can be as elaborate as offering extended service like a formal tea, leather, boot or high heel care, having a routine around ordinary daily events (rising, dining, bed-time come to mind) or similar events which lend themselves to structure and ritualization. Persons who want to really get their hooks into their submissive, pushing erotic as well as control buttons, would do well to contemplate what kinds of rituals can be incorporated into their interactions.

Perhaps the sub must dress a certain way; perhaps orgasm is controlled, and relief only allowed in certain settings, or after particular service is rendered. Perhaps a routine beating of the sub – as with the dominant I enjoy subbing to, her standard ritual is that her subs bring her her cup of morning coffee and an implement for her to beat them with. Or as one dom I know treated his slave, three brutal slashes with a quirt, nightly, upon his back before he was allowed to go to sleep. After each stroke he was required to thank his Master, of course.

How does one create rituals? *Anything* can be made into a ritual – simply codify how and when and why it is to be done. Any activity set out in “required steps” becomes ritual, when it is done mindfully.

Raise an activity from the mundane to the ritual by making it a formal event to which special attention is paid. Set it off by recognizing – in words and deed – that this activity has special significance, and is required from the sub because it pleases the dom. In this way, an act as simple as combing one’s hair a certain way can take on ritual significance – if, say, the grooming occurs at a specified time, and the results inspected by the dom, with approval as a reward, or disapproval shown through punishment. Not that grooming need be ritualized – that is for the individual dominant (and perhaps submissive) to discuss and determine for themselves, what activities would be meaningful or have charge to them.

For myself, some things I like to interact with in a ritualized way are: service to my domme in kinky social environments (where I stand and how I sit around my domme; how a drink is served to her, etc); daily beatings; orgasm control, with masturbation being permitted only in specifically-defined ways and circumstances. I also like to create rituals around something that might only be important for a finite period of time: for instance, in striving to get a project done in the household, a ritual to start it out with, and to conclude it with when the work is complete, is both motivating and puts one in a particularly “meditative” headspace during the project.

I knew a dominant who joked about subs who said they would do anything to serve her – until she got to the line where she retorted, “So, would you put a butt-plug up your ass and weed my back yard?” Yet even this kind of activity could become eroticized as “the weekly weed-cleaning ritual”, if the dom/me wished to ritualize such an event. And I have no doubt there would be subs who would be eager for that day of the week to come around, and be in a very meditative (and erotic) head-space for the duration of their hillside labors. Ritual is a powerful tool, but not every dominant knows how to (or cares to) use it.

One of the more frustrating persons for a ritual-oriented sub to interact with is not the simply ignorant dom/me, who we presume is still learning the “tricks of the trade”, but the more experienced players who may talk much about BDSM ritual but in fact make little or no use of it. This kind of dom/me is more than a lazy Master/ess. That is a person acting with something of a willfully misleading dominant tone, as well as apparent ignorance of the power of the psychology they are playing with (or not playing with, more properly speaking).

A dominant has the power to open doors of compliance and eroticism in the sub’s mind, invites the sub to follow on the journey that she (the dom) can take the sub upon. One who speaks those words but seldom acts out their intent is someone to avoid, if the sub is looking for meaningful play that incorporates ritual. The dominant who does not know how to play counterpoint to that willingness risks being a very one-dimensional player indeed.

Pure Happiness of Submission

My Pleasure in Being Submissive and Masochistic

Individuality – we each express who we are without regard to the bogus conventions, sham rules and kindred nonsense that is often propounded as truths on the web.

Erotic Beauty – Ordinary people they say have fifteen minutes of sex a few times a week. Pneumatic action followed by sleep. In our power exchange “sex” can last for hours and the afterglow for days. (Yeah, this is two words.)

Pet – I’m in love and on my knees. Resting my head on her knee and waiting for her hand to brush the back of my neck is one of the happiest spaces I can go to.

Creature – (Not really explored. But I want ten.) Less than human object. Existing to be used: inarticulate, obedient without thought.

Slave – My will vanishes. There seems to be an invisible wire that leads from her brain to mine. My brain becomes quiet, if I think it is only to make sure I obey.

Helpless – How odd it is to be a man who must struggle to reach these states. Thankfully chains and cuffs can help me find my way there.

Pain – I almost laugh as I type that word. My mind harks back to being bound at the dining room entry as she hit me. Would that next blog of the quirt be too much or not enough? Before she comes back I will go to my rose garden and cut a thick stem.

Suffering – As she hurts me it feels as if she is eating my heart like it is a rare delicacy. There is more than mere physical suffering to be explored.

Surrender – I prefer this word to submission. (And despise “sub” and “subbie.”) Doing what I’m told or really merely asked meshes deeply with my needs.

Worship – this is where the surrender is purest, becomes beatific. When this overcomes me I wish I were telepathic. There are no words, is no action with which I can really let her feel what is flowing through my heart.

(I got a note saying that someone on Informed Consent swiped this without credit. Rereading it I find I still enjoy it and thought I’d repost the list here.

Originally posted 2014-01-14 14:29:18.

Service Submission

Service submission implies performing functional tasks like household chores, running errands, acting as a waitress or waiter.

What role has service submission played in your dominant/submission relationship?

How do you see it fitting into D/s relationships into which you might enter?

  • Is it the basis?
  • An important component?
  • Normal part of the arrangement?
  • A minor aspect?
  • Not interested in service?

Some submissive people are only interested in service and want to perform it without a more formal relationship: they aren’t looking for a lover or fulltime D/s bonding. They enjoy cleaning house, doing shopping for the top.

Their only reward is the performance of the tasks. Perhaps spiced with a bit of arrogance, cruel manner or even a little punishment for jobs not done to perfection.

Are you this kind of service submissive?

  • Yes
  • No
  • Not sure

Some bottoms feel that they’ve been exploited by tops when rendering service with no additional reward, e.g., play. How about you?

If you were rating utilitarian service duties on a scale of one to ten how would you rate these tasks?

  • Laundry
  • Cooking
  • Housecleaning
  • Yard work
  • Shopping
  • Errand Running

Or some useful act that you perform or would like to under the control of a dominant person.