There was the movie:
… when the friends discover the joys of sexy older women, they turn their passion into a hot business. Pairing young men with older, sex-starved women proves profitable –
…
You must be ready and willing to accept this reality if you are going to get romantically linked with an older woman. This is not to say that you will be asked to deal with these issues per sé ; rather you must realize that an older woman generally has more to worry about than that bushy-tailed co-ed at your dorm
Pros & Cons Of Dating Older Women
My idea of a cougar is a 40+ woman that has it going on and is a player. It’s an experienced woman, who is sexually confident, but all around confident in general.
Cougar Definition
Seems normal enough for F/m.
Originally posted 2008-06-15 19:52:14.
What makes for the most satisfying male genitorment?
I find CBT incredibly erotic, and frightening and thats the point I believe.
I find the interplay and balance of pleasure and pain to be deeply satisfying personally( being forced to the respective “edge” at both extremes.. not allowed to release of course for literally hours and then if I suffered amusingly enough..mmmm) BUT the pleasure I see in my Mistresses eyes is all the reward I could desire (not that I don’t take the occasional orgasm when it is offered.. I’m submissive.. not stupid 
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Anyway, I find the slow progressive abuses the most satisfying.. testicle presses of several designs (I make most of the instruments used “against” me.. believing it is part of my duty to willingly and actively “betray” myself to Her in any manner that gives Her more insight to my fears, tolerances, pleasures and nasty imagination), weights, tight cord bondage, testicles positioned so each step causes them to be crushed against each other or my thighs.. things like that, things that take time.. allow me to soak in the eternal moment and suffer slowly for Her amusement and satisfaction. Sorry to ramble.. but like most things it isn’t the “tool” used but the manner and situation that makes it an effective means to a mutual end.
I’ve seen it said that as one of the main goals of female liberation is met there be more female led relationships.
I.e., that as women and men are able to live as socioeconomic equals more women will come to be or – or accept that they are – dominant in their marriages, romancing and dating.
I could also imagine it argued that as the sexes become social, political and economic equals some of the forces that make some men submissive and others dominant will diminish.
Reader, what do you think?
Originally posted 2008-04-23 19:00:56.
A couple of weeks ago I saw a photograph of a shrine a man had erected to a ProDomme he often sees.
The other night I ran into one of the wackiest websites I know of: Woman Thou Art God.
The Cbelians are big on woman as divine (and piss in their men’s mouths daily to prove it).
And let us not forget the Service of Mankind Church, on some level part of William Bond’s feverish female supremacy fantasies.
So there are plenty of examples of the divine feminine in a crass and amusing sense. (And I’m not even mentioning the more obvious commercial goddess sites.)
What would you do if your wife – or girlfriend – that you should now pray to her as a deity. If she told you that he was literally a goddess and holy?
All manner of males claim to embrace this belief. What do you think of it?
Originally posted 2008-03-08 16:12:06.
Do you feel that men exist solely for utilitarian purposes? That women should feel free to treat men as if they were, say, furniture?
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Originally posted 2010-03-06 20:32:26.
As some of you know I’m suffering from the complications of heart failure and other medical problems. Hence, the neglect this site has seen.
Mule, well known for his writings on F/m topics from the days of usenet has kindly agreed to help out by posting here.
I strongly encourage you to show your appreciation by continuing the topic in the comments.
Guest posts are always welcome. Just send what you would like to see published under your name.
Originally posted 2008-08-26 14:26:43.
Submissive Men: Clear Your Mind
If you are a submissive or masochistic guy there is something you should really consider doing just before you sit down and try to compose your profile or personal ad.
You should masturbate.
No, I’m not kidding. The principal source of the confused profiles and emails produced by the average submissive male ISO a dominant woman is sexual desperation. Frustrated lust can be like madness.
The intense longing impedes -for many men – completely blocks – the ability to discern what you are really willing to do and suffer from the acts that are best left to fantasy.
If post-orgasm submission doesn’t still excite you, nag at you then maybe you aren’t as submissive as you thought. In the way you thought. You don’t really want to live in a 24/7 Femdom Hell.
No, a chastity belt, isn’t the answer.
There’s nothing wrong with a submissive man having fantasies. He should be open about it, ask for it even but without being childish.
Expressing a fantasy to a trusted partner is, IMO, never wrong. Whining or wheedling or coercing that partner to enact that fantasy is, IMO, pretty much always wrong. These statements are true regardless of the orientation of the participants.
D/s involves more than one person:
One of my most frequent bottoms is simply not interested in bottoming unless the scene ends with an orgasm for him. I have no problem with this — I can either play with him or not, as I choose. What I *would* have a problem with would be if he didn’t express that need, did the scene anyway, and then was left feeling bad because he didn’t get his needs met. My job as a top is to make *both* of us feel fulfilled and happy, and I can’t do that if I don’t know as much as possible about both of our needs and desires.
(Old newsgroup posting.)
Originally posted 2009-03-01 06:41:21.
I read that Gloria Brame said the professional dominatrices are a plague. I guess like the locusts Moses sent against the ancient Egyptians but in this case money making women devouring the fields of femdom.
I can’t imagine Gloria Brame making a generalization like that. Besides the place where I saw the remark provided no context, no all important details (not faulting the person).
I doubt many people engaged in BDSM or the like – since many people abhor that acronym – regard say Mistress Matisse as a ravaging force. Not to mention SadoMasoKitten and other women who dominate for cash (and perhaps fun).
Regardless of the annoyingly necessary disclaimers professional dominatrices are sex workers. They provide a service for remuneration. And all service providers of any stripe can be divided into those who are:
- Talented
- Capable
- Incompetent
Perhaps what Gloria was thinking of is the rapid spread of women who go online and declare themselves dominants. Most notably the money mistresses and financial dominatrices who are under the illusion that easy wealth will be theirs if they say “ha ha wanker” often enough.
While Princess Melissa Pentauk at Humiliatrix may use that sort of patter there’s more hard work than many would think in successfully creating such an enterprise.
The faux-dominants who think putting up donate buttons is an easy path the money will quickly find that getting someone to click on them isn’t just plucking a sucker. The women that stay in the trade and profit by it provide a good deal more.
People in the loving female authority subculture have other objections to professional dominatrices but that is a matter for another time.
Originally posted 2008-05-06 14:24:14.
I can’t imagine pain being used to make me a better person. I like getting whacked for the sheer pleasure of it.
Spankings: punishment / behavior modification or just for fun?
Originally posted 2008-12-27 09:30:55.
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