Male Initiative

Something that often struck me when I was reading the FLR themed blogs was how often the woman said that she’d never entertained the concept of ruling her husband until he introduced it.

Understandable. Liberal humanists tend to think of pure gender equality. Socially traditional people want the male to be an aggressor. And fundagelicals like Mike Huckabee think the Mrs. should submit herself to the Mr.

Another proof that lust keeps the world spinning on its axis. Much better to accept that than to pretend we are genital-less Ken and Barbie dolls.

Originally posted 2008-02-07 15:52:35.

Female Led Cuckoldry

Cuckoldry Is a F/m Retish

If you are a conventional wife (girlfriend) and your husband (boyfriend) as begged you to cheat on him and have sex with another many and you are confused and horrified you might find the following useful for context.

Cuckolding among female-dominant couples differs from the original definition of cuckolding in that many of these men are voluntarily “cuckolded” by their wives, sometimes as part of the husband’s sexual fantasy and sometimes because they gain genuine sexual arousal through being humiliated by his wife being better sexually fulfilled with a potentially superior male. In some cases the husband may instigate and nurture his wife’s sexual infidelity.

The husband usually finds pleasure through that of his wife (or what he perceives to be her pleasure), and they (the wife and extra-marital participant) may both enjoy attempting to actively include him in the act of cuckolding as much as possible through serving her. Some common themes include praising her appearance, attempting to stimulate her sexually at the same time as the additional participant, and generally being engrossed in her enjoyment, usually while masturbating or involving himself in some sexual act with his wife during their activity.

Some less-common themes might include grooming his wife for her “date”, homemaking, or oral sex following the conclusion of sex with the other man. When this oral sex follows ejaculation, it is termed a creampie or cleaning up.

You can find additional information at Wikipedia: Cuckold.

Originally posted 2014-01-12 23:31:40.

Real Dommes Don’t Switch

Switching is Inauthentic

A switch is a person who enjoys being both dominant and submissive and/or sadist and masochist.

Many silly, foolish, idiotic people – mostly submissive males – say that a real dominant woman can’t switch. That if a woman can enjoy submitting as well as controlling she’s a fake, phony domme.

From a very, very long discussion of “real femdom:”

I’ve gotten so sick of being looked down upon as ‘not a *real* femdom’ because I also happen to have a masochistic streak. Part of the pleasure I take from switching, too, comes from the sense of *balance* it gives us. All the responsibility for making our sex life exciting doesn’t just rest on one of us. I don’t get feelings of guilt for being the dominant/sadistic one, because I know I can take exactly what I dish out. I just take it less often. And, oh yeah, it’s fun.

I Guess I’m Not a Real Femdom

Originally posted 2009-03-06 01:00:41.

Gender Parity & Female Domination

I’ve seen it said that as one of the main goals of female liberation is met there be more female led relationships.

I.e., that as women and men are able to live as socioeconomic equals more women will come to be or – or accept that they are – dominant in their marriages, romancing and dating.

I could also imagine it argued that as the sexes become social, political and economic equals some of the forces that make some men submissive and others dominant will diminish.

Reader, what do you think?

Originally posted 2008-04-23 19:00:56.

Boy Adores Girl

There have been times when fashion photographers have toyed around with an impersonal kinkiness. I think the photos reproduced below are more affecting, more touching if you will than the usual sort that are thought to imply or hint at female domination and male submission.




The models are João Zavaski And Bruna Erhard. The photographs were taken by Hugo Toni.

Originally posted 2010-09-09 09:51:06.

Maledom vs. Femdom


Now, clearly it *does* matter to some people whether the person who’s dominating them is male or female, and the question is, why? Is it only because their sexual preference is one way or the other? If so, then again there should be just one domination, and anything that was valid for male domination would be valid for female domination, for the most part.

Intuitively, I don’t feel this is true, but I’m a horrible test case. Still, at least one person has looked explicitly at this question, and produced a short article on the difference in *style* between female and male domination. (I think his nick is “Master Kinx.”) As well-written as it is, though, it’s only one viewpoint. I’m interested in what people on this newsgroup think are the major *inherent* differences.

This is a complex question; there are lots of possibilities and issues to consider:

  1. Take heterosexual relationships: maledom/femsub on one hand, and femdom/malesub on the other. How do “typical” approaches differ? How are they affected by the presence or absence of simple vanilla sexual desire? (People and relationships being what they are, there is bound to be a huge amount of scatter, so any distinction will be of course very general and very broad.)
  2. Take malesub relationships: maledom/malesub vs femdom/malesub. How do *these* differ, assuming the participants are homosexual in the first case and heterosexual in the second?

Male vs Female Domination

Originally posted 2009-03-11 17:15:57.