Male Chastity: Because the Woman is in Charge

There are many justifications offered to justify proscribing male orgasms. Men are depicted as universally licentious and depraved. A harsh and untrue judgment: there are many kind, faithful and good men.


Chastity gives loving men the control they are unable to maintain by will power alone. I.e., that preventing masturbation often makes the man – when release – a more passionate lover.

That chastity can be used to refocus men on useful tasks is surely true of lazy and thoughtless males.

The real value is not as a lifestyle enhancement.

Accepting a woman’s control of your sexuality and pleasure is true submission. A man who consents to be kept chaste seeks to honor and please the woman who controls him. He deserves credit.

Chastity is loyal and humble obedience to women’s authority.

Small Penis Humiliation Stories 4

More men write of Small Penis Humiliation:

Don’t understand the anxiety of little dicked guys. I’ve got a 3 inch hard dicklette and couldn’t be happier. I love sph and get off on it: i’m jerking off 4,5,6xx day /night watching real well hung men fucking beautiful women on porn sites. Being sexually inadequate and sexually dysfunctional, feeling humiliated and embarassed keeps me in a constant state of arousal. Just thinking about a huge cock fucking gives me an erection. I have no desire to participate only to watch and jerk off. It’s great! Is there something wrong with me?

I too get really aroused when my wife tells me I’m too small to satisfy her. Thing is, I’m average to above-average in size (6.5-7″), so the key to making it ‘real’ is to encourage comparisons to bigger dicks. A lot of people have asked how to get their partners to ‘play ball’. Here’s how I pulled it off: 1. I started by telling her that one of my fantasies has always been to see her dominate a huge dildo…that it would be a real turn-on to watch her. She was surprisingly receptive to this idea, and so I got her a large, thick, life-like vibrator that was a good 2 inches longer than me. 2. Once I had the vibrator, I tied her up and orally got her right to the point of orgasm and stopped. Repeated this a few more times. While I was doing this, I told her I wasn’t going to let her orgasm unless she told me about the biggest guy she ever fucked and made her tell me all the details. Made her compare him to me… “So, he was huge, yes?” “Yeah.” “Much bigger than me?” “Yeah.” “Made it real easy to come?” “Yeah.” “Harder to come with my dick, yes? It’s ok…you can tell me…” “Mhm”… you get the idea. 3. At this point, she’s on the brink of cumming and primed for size. I lubed up both my dick and the larger vibrator. Put myself in first for 30 seconds, then withdrew. Then I put the vibrator in slowly to let her feel the difference (hint: warm it a bowl of warm water while you’re having foreplay…nothing worse than a cold dildo to kill the mood). Asked her if this filled her up more…if this was more like the guy with the huge cock…if she wished mine were this size. Gave her the vibrator until she was on the brink of cumming again, then withdrew it. 4. At this point, I slid myself back in, and I could really feel the difference now that she had been stretched open. I know she felt the difference too. I said to her, “So mine’s not as big?” “No” “You can have the big dick again, want it?” “Yes” “Why?” “It’s bigger.” “And it’s harder to feel my lil dick after having that huge cock?” “Mhm” “Ok, well I like fucking you with my smaller dick, so if you want to cum and want the big one, you’re going to have to force me out of you. Otherwise, you’ll have to make due with my smaller cock.” And this is where I hit SPH nirvana…her response: “Get your pathetic little dick out of me, untie my arm, and give me the big cock.” I obliged, and she got herself off something fierce. When she finished, I asked her if I could cum, and she threw in one more zinger…”Little dicks don’t get to cum in me. Jack yourself off and show me how little boys cum.” I came in about 10 seconds.

I visit a clothing-optional beach a few times each summer. Since I was raised to be modest, it usually takes me a while to get comfortable enough to go comletely nude. But once I finally strip down, I love to go walking along the water’s edge with the other nudists, especially if there are a lot of women there. Like many of the guys here, my little member is only about one inch long when it is soft. And what I enjoy the most is how some of the ladies react when they see it. Most don’t seem to notice or they look the other way. But sometimes, when two or more are together, I hear a little laugh after they walk by me. And occasionally, one will simply stare down there as if in disbelief, or perhaps remark about how the water must be especially cold that day. But I have to wonder what they are really thinking. Are they amused or repulsed? Do they think it won’t get any longer than their pinky finger? Or are they considering painting the head with nail polish so that it might more closely resemble one of their big toes? Whatever it is, they should tell us. We love to be teased about it!

It seems there really is a lot of guys into SPH judging by all the responses. At least a lot of you have wives and girlfriends. That never happened for me. Finding women willing to do SPH is extremely hard unless you’re willing to pay for it. I must say that a lot of the stories regarding so called real experiences sound more like fantasies to me. Nothing wrong with that I suppose.

Reader, what do you think?

Originally posted 2012-05-06 20:00:05.

The Triumph of Female Supremacy

This appeared on an abandoned blog a few years ago.

Most of the predictions of gynarchy in the early phase of the genderquake came from men, indulging sexual fantasies about all-powerful women who reduced men to being their slaves. In a lurid and often confused imagery, women were dressed in business suits one minute, in alluring negligees and heels the next. Women were goddesses before whom servile men knelt and worshiped; they lashed the male into submission with whips; or even forced males into changing sex.

This was a variety of male Femdom fantasy which some enjoyed taking seriously as the shape of the future. The course actually taken by history was of course different. We must always be able to tell the difference between the fantasy on the one hand, and historical reality on the other.

The same applies to the propaganda turned out by the dominant sex. A good example of this dichotomy can be seen in the 21st century conviction, taken as common sense by both sexes, that women were more intelligent than men.

Neither sex is in fact more intelligent than the other. Society reached a point where the particular qualities required for success were much better supplied by females than by males. Girls outperformed boys in school, not because they were brainier, but because they were raised with a positive ambition to succeed, whereas boys were trapped in an outdated mindset which told them it was uncool and unmanly to stick one’s head in a book. The more girls empowered themselves, the more masculinity was pushed into a cul-de-sac, to the point where it broke and required a massive reinvention.

This did not stop a huge number of scientific studies trying to prove that women must be innately more intelligent.

Early on, this simply seemed like a redressing of the balance, a challenging of sexist myths. Later, it became an orthodoxy. Every schoolboy and girl by the 2040s believed it indisputable that girls were mentally superior in almost every way, barring a few characteristics such as boys’ fractionally better spatial ability that stemmed from the ancient past. Only the oppression and lies of male rule had kept girls’ superiority from being discovered earlier; once a level playing had been created, women rose rapidly to their rightful place at the top.
Observation of society seemed to prove these assumptions correct — girls vastly outperformed boys in education, and vastly outnumbered them in university. Women dominated not only business but academia, scientific research, engineering, the arts, medicine and every other intellectual field. (Though for that matter, they also dominated the sporting world too.)

In reality, this was no better than the old sexist myth that men are cleverer than women because on average their brains are bigger. The prejudice had been reinvented, but it was no more true than before. Women dominated because they were the sex that benefited from new social conditions, not because they were innately smarter. But the ‘common-sense’ belief in female superiority was repeated so often that everyone assumed that women were indeed born superior. And with scientific research completely controlled by women, there was no strong incentive for those in a position to debunk it to actually do so.

Another argument popular with the new, female-dominated scientific community was that it was ‘natural’ for men to be the decorative sex, because this was a pattern seen very often in the natural world. Just as peacocks and other male animals put on a splendid show to attract females, so the human male was happier in a pretty dress, makeup and jewels, anxious for the attention of the alpha females around him. Such arguments served to legitimise forcing men and boys into skirts. But a century or two before, of course, men had enjoyed saying similar things about women on equally bogus pseudo-scientific grounds.

All sorts of dubious new movements arose in the wake of female power. Male rule had never really been consciously organised, in the sense of men conspiring explicitly to work out how women could be oppressed. It arose organically out of historical conditions. Because of women’s different history, however, consciously supremacist movements did arise for women. These pursued a variety of ideologies, and in their search for a non-male discourse often drew upon pseudo-pagan mystical conceptions. They preached the victory of matriarchy over patriarchy, the triumph of the Goddess, women’s divine right to rule as embodiments of the eternal creative female principle, etc, etc. They spread unscientific but fashionable theories about how men were dangerously predicated upon violence and abuse, rape and exploitation, and how women must keep them in their place to ensure order.

The most aggressive of these groups, such as the notorious Daughters of Lilith, used straightforward intimidation. They stormed meetings of the men’s rights movement and shouted down men’s hesitant representatives in television studios. This was interpreted by many observers at the time as the advent of an extreme anti-male militancy. But the main goal of these movements, the dominance of women over men, had been achieved, so their more oddball ideas became influential in only the vaguest way. Many women joined the Daughters of Lilith not because they believed in a mystical female destiny but because they believed the very common (and false) argument that men needed to be removed from power so that war, rape, and other evils could be ended. That was no consolation to a would-be male activist afflicted with aching testicles and a split lip, but it showed that these movements were complex and sometimes self-contradictory.

The main thing that kept such sects in check was actual experience. It came as a great surprise to many that with women in charge, wars were still fought, politicians still took bribes, spouses still nagged each other, the inferior gender was still exploited for sex and profit, etc. The era of universal Mother love simply didn’t happen. There was, finally, a revolution in childcare, but not a very enlightened one — childcare was pushed onto men. It turned out that women were in fact human beings and prey to the same temptations and failings and personal faults that men were. This was only surprising to people who had starry-eyed notions about women, notions whose true origin lay in the sexist stereotypes of caring and benign femininity smeared by men across previous centuries.

How then may we characterise the relationship of the sexes in the middle to late 21st century? The closest parallel would be to the 1950s. Women at that time had the vote and had entered the workforce to a modest level, and voices were being raised calling for more rights — but women also were urged to play the housewife, draw fulfilment from family and home, and dress in elaborately feminine clothes. Politics, education and popular depictions of heroism remained firmly male preserves, though positive models and opportunities for women did exist.

Reverse the genders and this was broadly the position of society by the 2050s, with the obvious difference that women in the 1950s were on the brink of a great emancipation, whereas men had just suffered their greatest defeat. Boys were raised to play with dolls, to prefer pink, to love dresses and looking pretty, to obey female authority, and to limit their ambitions to being, at best, menial workers such as secretaries or cleaners. During the marriage ceremony it was the man who wore the beautiful white gown and vowed to obey his wife. It was the man who did the housework and was expected to have his hardworking wife’s dinner on the table when she came home.

This was of course a profoundly humiliating fate for the sex that had once boasted of its explorations, inventions and conquests. But it was a far cry from the ranks of kneeling slaves, the husbands strapped in dungeons, the boys raised as sex toys or transformed into females, and all the other lurid imaginings of earlier male fantasy. Although the most remarkable reversal in human history had taken place, the world of the subordinate male and dominant female was, like everyday life everywhere, mostly banal.

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Breadwinner Wives

Female Financial Superiority.

Breadwinner Wife Female Led Relationship

I suspect some of you – guys – dream of being married to a breadwinner wife.

… A recent breakdown of census data showed that in all but three of the 150 biggest cities in the United States, young women age 30 and under are making more money than young men. Even if that changes when the women have children, such a vast shift in earning power suggests that the next generation may make different decisions about whose salary counts more and who should be the family’s primary breadwinner. …

She Makes More Money Than He Does. So?

Originally posted 2011-02-19 09:21:44.

Never Again Will You Orgasm!

If a dominant woman chooses to keep you chaste for life could you accept your decision?


If she ordered you to give up orgasms, for ejaculating becoming a faint memory from the past would you agree?

Would you accept lifetime chastity as her rightful decision for you? Or would you end the Femdom relationship because lifestyle orgasm denial is unacceptable?

Tone of Voice

By Her Bootlicker

Margaret Thatcher, a consummate dominant in Her public and vanilla-world way, said once that Being powerful is like being beautiful — if you have to say it, you aren’t.

The essence of civilized domination is that a a true Dominant Woman never has to raise Her voice or scream at Her slave (Think of The Godfather — speaking softly!).

The contrast between a Mistress’s soft allowing a slave to serve Her, permitting it to debase itself at Her feet, contrasts all the more with the fact that She will be obeyed.

Her power is enough that She never has to lose Her temper. She gives a quiet suggestion, and if Her slave hesitates before obeying instantly, She doesn’t have to say a word: one cruel lash across the slave’s naked back, or face or whatever part of its anatomy is convenient, is all that’s needed.

In Middle Eastern cultures where real slavery is genuinely practiced, not for the sake of BDSM, but that’s the way life IS, the custom is to speak politely, even request, as Richard suggests his Lady Alexandria might do. Well-trained slaves know what will happen if they don’t give 150% obedience at once. So, too, with our BDSM world.

Both Mistress and slave can be happy with such an arrangement: One knowing that She has actual power, and the other reveling in obedience and submission.

That’s why, when a command is carried out, Mistress can say that She is pleased by Her slave, and the slave, in turn, thanks Her for the privilege of serving Her (with, in this house, a warm kiss on Her toe).

This was a comment on A Spoken Collar.

Originally posted 2011-01-14 20:45:16.

Be Happy!

Remember: consensual erotic power exchange – whatever phrase or group of initials you use to describe it – is about self-fulfillment. Fulfillment for two or more people.

If the bottom, submissive person, slave isn’t happy then he or she will leave. Or be as sad as anyone forcing themselves to stay in a failed relationship.

Likewise the top, mistress, dome must feel that the specific exchange going on with the other person makes her life better and complete.

People who try to live in terms of sexist propaganda, silly sociology, rotten history, idiotic politics and damnable anthropology will be miserable.

There is no one true way. No right way. But any way that is honorable, honest and satisfying can work.

Originally posted 2008-01-17 14:24:50.