There are many paths to FLR.
Some people come by it though the internet. Others are introduced by another person. Some people see it in print and media, and yet others come to it all on their own.
What’s your story?
Carrie: the girlfriend you always wished you had. But probably not dominant. Her obsessive show buying does work for me.
Miranda: the one you were most likely to know. Certainly capable.
Charlotte: her kinkiest experience was probably dating the cunnilingus addict.
Samantha: what couldn’t she, wouldn’t she do? But she wasn’t interested in that guy with a dungeon built into his closet.
Can you make any connection between female led relationships and Sex and the City?
Mule in response to my request:
One topic I would like to see is a discussion of when FLR first entered one’s life.
It has been a part of mine for as long as I can remember. There was actually a time in my life when I thought that girls were superior to us boys.
I have tons of theories as to why FLR can happen early in life and why female supremacy at certain stages in life might actually be fact.
Many of the female led relationship blogs have grown silent. The husband met frustration and failure in his effort to convince his wife to take the reins of the marriage in her hands and treat him as vassal and subject.
Some of these tales were very sad. The man would acquire, say, a CB2000 and sought to get his wife to become his chastity keyholder. Sometimes the wife might oblige but only in unimpassioned, barely interested fashion. Only to please him when he wanted control of his sexuality to please her.
Or he’d buy a collar only to discover that she remained dead to the symbolism.
The wife would be at best tolerant; at worst disgusted in the change she saw in the man she married.
He’d try waiting on her hand and foot, hoping to win her over to loving female authority by stealth submission. There are people out there who preach that as sure means of conversion. Indeed the rhetoric of FLR at times can be terrifyingly pious as if it were a religion like Scientology.
That a woman can be converted to FLR if you only find the right method is as foolish as the idea that a lesbian hasn’t met the right man.
I could never think of any way to comfort or advise these men.
Sounds like a femmdom fantasy from a female led relationships blog:
… says [Elizabeth] Halverson made him feel like a “houseboy.” … He says she asked him, “Do you want to worship me from near or afar?”
And:
Another time, she allegedly had her husband sworn in so that she could ask him under oath whether he had completed chores at home.
The first femdom novel, Venus in Furs featured cuckoldry.
For many men being cuckolded is the supreme submissive fantasy. But some of those who get to live it divorce their wives. Or their wives leave them.
If the lore that women are better and finer creatures is it any surprise that many would have no desire to pursue this?
The trauma is too awful.
How do you feel about female led infidelity?
From looking at blogs and forums it seems that most men and women who write about female led, loving female authority relationships are married. Regardless of whether they are in such a relationship or wish they were.
The phraseology doesn’t seem to have much purchase among those in, say, college?
Is there a reason for this to be an age related desire? Why don’t you see boys and girls thinking in these terms and contexts?
It has been suggested that a female led man should consider signing a so-called
The man is to sign away all his property, financial assets, control of the money he earns. It has even been advised that he destroy his personal credit as a way of insuring his dependency on his wife.
And most alarmingly that the man declare himself incompetent.
This helpless, needy male creature is created with the supposed goal of fomenting romance.
Does this really sound like the loving basis of wedded bliss?
But some men do report that after a full day of work they come home and do all the cooking, cleaning: every single household chore. And the wife merely lies back like the old-fashioned husband that she is supposedly superior to.
Like many things said on the web, this must be read with some skepticism. The amount of time spent cleaning the bathroom suggests that the home is mostly bathrooms. Judging by the quantity of ironing it sounds as if the woman must’ve gone out of her way to avoid ready to wear fabrics.
Some men probably do become fulltime houseboys if not house slaves. But most FLR couples normally perform tasks around the house. The husband’s are perhaps specified and used as part of reward and punishment games including orgasm control.
There are submissive men who say they live the life of a 1950s housewife, homemaker. Their wives earn all the money and the men are financially dependent on them.
And there are men who confess they envy this status.
But I don’t know if I’ve seen dominant women saying they want a man like this.
Have you?
Not a very deep question to be honest. But I’ve been wondering about this on and off shortly after discovering the female led relationships subculture.
There’s a word I don’t recall my parents or their peers using. None of my married friends have ever employed the term.
The word is hubby. And I’d swear that I’ve seen it used in female led writings and blogs over and over again.
I’m not saying this is a wicked thing. Just curious as to why?
How does heterosexual female domination and male submission differ from BDSM in general?
Or does it?
There are a myriad of qualities to want in another person.
What are the top three things you look for in a submissive male?
Thinking of dominant women what are the top three attributes you look for?
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