Female Led Relationships

My own feelings about the practices of feminization and sissyfication are very mixed.

There seems to be an indigestible core of sexism in making anything feminine or womanly humiliating if it is done or worn by a male. Why should wearing a dress or lingerie be a mark of inferiority, a chastisement or even humbling?

But I do understand that for some men who are barely able to deal with parts of themselves it may offer a limited release. Men who

• Experience some degree of gender dysphoria or are closeted transvestites
• Men who are not able to cope with their sexual orientation, cannot accept that they are bisexual and have find men sexually attractive.

Having to sit to urinate as a form of submission strikes me as especially laughable. I often do that so that I can read at the same time.

Are you a sissy?

Being forced to fellate another man is a common female led sex fantasy.

For men anyway. And a few women.

If nothing else it lets closeted bisexual men express their real, hidden sexuality.

Does forced cocksucking excite you? Repel you?

You’ve met the Domme of your dreams. Your days with her are satisfying. Your nights drenched in sensual sadomasochistic thrills.

Then comes the evening when she tells you that you will dress up like a girl, go to a bar with her and let the world behold you as a female slut.

Are you thrilled? Or appalled?

Do you comply or demur?

If your refusal is met with the warning that not going out en femme means she’ll never see you again do you start shaving your legs or do you walk out?

Reading on the web, comments on this site and others and the visitor stats from my assorted sites show me:

When you dream of your wife cheating on you - hmm, not sure consensual cuckoldry really could be called cheating - you claim to want:

• Be forced to fellate her “bull”
• Or at least consume his semen from your wife’s vagina
• And hugely popular is being forced to drink your own semen

Reading on the web, comments on this site and others and the visitor stats from my assorted sites show me:

Sissymaids From Beyond Infinity in the Slimeball Bowl-O-Rama

An issue of Boy Becomes Girl.

Oh, how those pink panties excite you. Even before learning about female domination I knew there was a large hidden body of heterosexual transvestite men but I don’t think I really perceived just how large it is: at least once you add in the men who probably never even try on a dress once.

That some of you have discovered the joys of anal sex strikes me as a good thing.

(MyBlogLog shows this to be the second most popular page on this site.)

Strap-on play is big on power exchange, male humiliation in female led lore. It is the Foucaultian line that penetration is domination: demonstration of superiority.

For many gay and bisexual men who (unlike Foucault) aren’t D/s bottoms this is an opinion from the planet Pluto.

The prostate gland likes being massaged: it simply feels good. Some gay male bottoms have physical orgasms when penetrated by a gifted top.

If it weren’t for the perceived power exchange in anal sex vanilla men could have a good time if their girlfriends and wives used strap-on dildos.

I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t enjoy feeling submissive. Just laughing at the conventional men who are missing potential pleasure.

Do you think of masculinity as bad: immoral, distasteful, inferior - whatever?

Or as one of the qualities with which you attract women. An attribute that is a proper complement for her femininity?

Or is it just simply something normal and conventional but of no great import.

Manliness: shameful, wonderful, unimportant?

That men enjoy wearing panties or other articles of feminine attire is probably a very widespread fetish: exceeding the realms of female domination and loving female authority.

Luckily for submissive guys it is one that women are easily persuaded to accommodate and even come to enjoy.

But adopting women’s undergarments, lingerie shouldn’t be so often treated as assuming tokens of inferiority. If you think about it that is like saying women wear the clothing they do because they are inferior.

Just be glad she lets you wear high heels, panties and the like. You have found a spouse willing to accept your atypical needs. Just be happy.

It is like the toilet: people should use it in the fashion best suited to their anatomy. Some of us sit on it because we like to read.

Feminization (or Sissyfication): some men just wear a bit of female lingerie. At the other end men dress as “sissy maids” and perform all the household tasks while so dressed. This form of role reversal is thought to focus a man on submission. For men with suppressed gender and sexual orientation issues it is probably therapeutic.

Strap-On Sex: the female penetrates the male anally using a specialized dildo. Stimulation of the prostate is pleasurable so many men enjoy this physically as well as psychologically.