By Her Bootlicker
Margaret Thatcher, a consummate dominant in Her public and vanilla-world way, said once that Being powerful is like being beautiful — if you have to say it, you aren’t.
The essence of civilized domination is that a a true Dominant Woman never has to raise Her voice or scream at Her slave (Think of The Godfather — speaking softly!).
The contrast between a Mistress’s soft allowing a slave to serve Her, permitting it to debase itself at Her feet, contrasts all the more with the fact that She will be obeyed.
Her power is enough that She never has to lose Her temper. She gives a quiet suggestion, and if Her slave hesitates before obeying instantly, She doesn’t have to say a word: one cruel lash across the slave’s naked back, or face or whatever part of its anatomy is convenient, is all that’s needed.
In Middle Eastern cultures where real slavery is genuinely practiced, not for the sake of BDSM, but that’s the way life IS, the custom is to speak politely, even request, as Richard suggests his Lady Alexandria might do. Well-trained slaves know what will happen if they don’t give 150% obedience at once. So, too, with our BDSM world.
Both Mistress and slave can be happy with such an arrangement: One knowing that She has actual power, and the other reveling in obedience and submission.
That’s why, when a command is carried out, Mistress can say that She is pleased by Her slave, and the slave, in turn, thanks Her for the privilege of serving Her (with, in this house, a warm kiss on Her toe).
This was a comment on A Spoken Collar.
Originally posted 2011-01-14 20:45:16.
Submissive Male Penis and Genital Torment
Cock and ball torture (CBT) is an activity that I find I have an attraction for even though I have yet to experience it in a meaningful way. I actually was pretty confused about exactly why I would want to experience this or find the thought of it erotic given the fact that I am not really much of a masochist and CBT is actually a pretty intense sadomasochistic practice, especially in the more intense ways it can be accomplished. For those not familiar with this activity, here is a definition excerpted from the Wikipedia online encyclopedia;
Definition: Cock and ball torture (CBT) is a sexual activity involving torture of the male genitals. This may involve directly painful activities, such as wax play, genital spanking, ball busting, genital flogging, genital bondage, urethral play, electrical play, or tickle torture. It may equally consist of the use of cock harnesses, testicle cuffs, parachutes, prolonged stimulation (teasing), metal cages, cock rings, English cages, not necessarily leading to orgasm. Erotic electro stimulation may also be used in CBT. The use of ball bags, ball stretchers, various kinds of chastity devices and the humbler can also be regarded as forms of CBT. A ball lock may be used for prolonged entrapment, providing an interesting predicament associated with not knowing when padlock will be unfastened, releasing the testicles.
This is rather comprehensive listing of the possibilities included in the universe of CBT activities offered by Wikipedia. One of the most simple forms as illustrated in the above photograph, is simply the binding of the cock and balls (genital bondage) using small diameter rope or cord. As evidence of my own attraction to this practice, I really find the change of color of the balls when tightly bound, extremely erotic and arousing. Similar to the use of urethral sounds, insertion of penis plugs is also a form of CBT, as would be the application of clamps on the cock and/or balls and the use of permanent penis jewelry after having either the shaft or the scrotum pierced.
What you ask is it that would cause a submissive man to feel an attraction for this practice, especially in the more extreme and painful forms? First I think it can be explained by the simple male fascination with his own penis, which I have already discussed at length previously in this blog. There is a good deal of excitement associated with another person focusing so much careful attention on this particularly intimate part of a male’s anatomy, even if that person is inflicting pain while doing so. Should one be given to Masochism to a much more profound degree than I am, a person who truly derives pleasure strictly from the level of pain, then enduring the torture of their genitals while experiencing CBT in its most painful machinations would be satisfying for them for the obvious reasons.
From the purely submissive perspective I actually feel that CBT appeals to me for two main reasons that are closely aligned with many other activities in which I find meaningful and intense expression of my submissive nature. Assuming a dominant woman enjoyed inflicting CBT on me, which would of course imply that she was something of a sadist, then of course I would receive emotional pleasure from the act of pleasing her by allowing her to inflict CBT on me. There is no doubt about it, I am a complete pleaser type personality and truly do derive a great deal of satisfaction and fulfillment from pleasing someone else on many levels. Also, since I enjoy being controlled by an assertive dominant woman, then there is also the gratification I would receive from CBT due to the quite obvious and overt loss of control over this rather favored and valued part of my male anatomy to a dominant woman.
Lacking a significant masochistic kink, I think I would most enjoy some of the milder forms of CBT, such as wax play, genital spanking/flogging, genital bondage, urethral play (penis plugs), cock harnesses (e.g. Gates of Hell), parachutes (ball stretchers), prolonged stimulation (teasing), cock rings and chastity devices. To date I have only experienced cock rings, self-inflicted genital spanking, genital bondage, and some degree of ball stretching by way of a crude homemade weighting apparatus. I found I definitely liked all of these although I am quite certain self-inflicted CBT is never going to approach the intensity of someone doing it to me. In addition I have just recently ordered a Gates of Hell cock harness and a beginner’s penis plug, and am anxiously awaiting the arrival of these new toys to continue my CBT education.
For dominant females: Does CBT appeal to you? If so do you feel that it appeals to you from a sadist perspective (enjoyment of inflicting pain), from a control perspective, or some other reason? If CBT does not appeal, why not?
For submissive males: Does CBT appeal to you? If it does, is it for one of the reason I offered, a combination of those reasons or for some other reason entirely? If it hold no appeal for you, why? Also, for anyone who may have experienced CBT in any of its various forms please share a little from your own personal experience with it.
(From a defunct female-led blog by a guy named Joe.)
Originally posted 2013-05-10 19:11:24.
Anal Ginger Insertion
I actually love using this punishment when my submissive man has been naughty. I always make sure to carve the biggest piece he can take, because the tighter it fits inside the anus, the more intense the sting. We’ve found that the burn fades in about 15-30 minutes, but if he’s been an especially bad boy, there’s a new piece waiting when the old one wears out. I always have him nude for a figging, and always over my lap. One of my favorite parts is seeing him shudder when I first touch it to his opening… the anticipation of what’s to come is a hugely enjoyable part of a figging punishment for me, so I always draw out the insertion for as long as I can.
Once it’s in, I also love seeing his reactions as it starts to work. At first he tries to keep still, but before long his toes are curling, his fists are clenching, and he’s wiggling just a little. It’s an intimate punishment to be sure. I always use one hand to hold the ginger as far inside of him as it will go, just resting it there against his cheeks, and usually his anus is spasming so much from the burn that I can feel it right through the end of the ginger.
Just when he’s finally begun to be able to stand it a little, I use my hand to wiggle it, press on it, pull it out a little and push it back in, anything to increase the burning. By then he’s begging and pleading to have it out, just for a minute, telling me it hurts, he can’t stand it, he’ll never get through it… But he always does, and the punishment isn’t over til he’s slumped over my lap, perhaps even shed a tear or two, while I thrust the ginger in and out of his sore, burning, very raw little anus.
If you fig your sub, don’t forget to admire your handiwork afterwards. There are few things that give me more satisfaction than when my very contrite submissive is sniffling face down on the bed afterwards and his little anus cherry red and sore and clenched up tight. With just the ginger he’s back to new in under an hour, but if I make sure to fuck him with it extra long and extra hard… Well let’s just say I definitely see a little wince when he sits down for the next few hours.
A comment on F/m Punishment: Anal Figging
Indifference is the ultimate form of humiliation. You, the slave, are not held in low esteem — you are held in no esteem. You are not just lowly — you are nothing!
Even if it’s just a game (as most of the scene actually is), it’s a potent game.
To be expected to lick Her boots or shoes clean. for instance, then not to have that service even acknowledged, is far worse than not to be thanked (Note: imho, a Mistress should NEVER “thank” Her slave for anything; service is what a slave does, self-abnegation is a slave’s career, and it is the least to be expected. In the rare event that a slave performs far above what Mistress expects, Her response should be limited to saying that She is pleased — whereupon it is the slave’s cue to thank Her, profusely and with long kisses on the toe of Her boots, for the honour of being allowed to serve Her.)
In general, using a slave as furniture or carpet, with no recognition that a slave is a person, is the best way, in my humble opinion.
In fact, being a voluntary slave means just that: surrendering, within the castle, 100% of one’s rights, dignity and self-respect to Her.
Originally posted 2009-11-06 14:50:36.
Usually they look so sour. Of course she is probably just a hired model.
Originally posted 2008-04-05 16:22:17.
Panty Boy’s Shame & Humiliation
The young man’s life changed forever on this day. He’d long had a covert passion for fondling, sniffing even wearing women’s lingerie. His conventional shame kept this pastime he most deeply buried secret.
His redheaded girlfriend was shocked. While she found him handsome he’d always seemed a pedestrian, almost boring male. Her nude girlfriend merely had ancient suspicions conformed.
After the girls’ phone camera created documentary proof of his panty fetish it was time to talk to the abashed man.
Preservation of his privacy had a cost. Submission. He would obey both women’s commands. Wait on them continually. Run errands for them. Provide them with a life of lazy ease.
And he would forever more wear only their used panties under his pants. And the skirts they would force him to wear when they were home alone.
Needless to say his former girlfriend never had sex with him again. And ruled that no other woman would as well. What female would want to humiliate herself with such a wimp.
The two women became lovers. His sex life was jealous observation of their affectionate lovemaking.
Illustration © Alazar
If you have a vanilla, kinkless marriage or relationship would you leave your girlfriend or wife for a woman who could offer you this?
By day Mistress Louise – who whips men for £100 an hour – has him scrubbing the floors, slaving away at a hot stove and tirelessly doing all her laundry, while by night he’s fed Cornish pasties from a dog bowl, sleeps in a 4ft-wide cage and endures 100 lashes… just to keep him in check.
I divorced my wife to become a sex slave
Originally posted 2009-01-24 11:11:25.
Femdom Butt Plugs
Finding that people are looking for information on the female dominant use of butt plugs on submissive males I dug around on Usenet.
First of all, there’s no such thing as too much lubricant! Start with a gloved latex finger, well lubed, then two. Once they can be tolerated easily without discomfort, move up to a small dildo or vibrator. Always put a condom over it, for two reasons, first of all, it’s easier to clean, and secondly, even the person’s own bacteria can be a problem if left uncleaned or unsterilized.
I alway make sure my subs remember to breathe through his tummy and to make sure that he is doing so, I put my hand on it and keep encouraging him to breathe. It’s more difficult to clench muscles while breathing.
After he can tolerate a dildo or small vibrator, start with small butt plugs, again covered with a condom. Again, make sure these are very well lubed. The rectal cavity does not provide any natural lubricant.
One other thing, in any anal play, the sub should present his bottom in a clean condition. Not only is it polite, but there will be less danger to him.
Should there be any fecal matter in the rectal cavity, there is a chance it can scratch, abrade or even tear the membranes lining it, resulting in a very nasty infection if left unchecked. Why chance it?
I’ve got a question on butt plugs. While I now have several different shapes and sizes, I have the same problem with all of them – they tend to fall out easily. Actually, it feels more like they are pushed out. Short of superglue, which is probably a really bad idea (kidding), is there something different I should be doing?
My first wife solved that problem for me with a panty girdle. It had a seam up the back designed to enhance the “cleavage” that held everything just nicely. She also gave me her size too small panties .. a bit uncomfortable but effective.
I was wondering.. is there such a thing as a buttplug that can also act as a device to stroke the inner walls? like getting fucked while having it in you? Hope I am describing this well..
Although I’ve never experienced it myself (unfortunately), the electric butt plugs are said to do exactly that. I don’t mean the vibrating electric kind, I mean the ones that are used for electrotorture.
You see, the electrodes on the outside of the plug send a jolt into the sphincter muscles, causing the sphincter to contract tightly and immediately. This contraction has the effect of drawing the plug sharply into the sphincter. Essentially, the wearer fucks himself with his own anal muscles, and has no control over the matter at all. You can set the frequency, and the intensity, of the pulses by adjusting the settings on the control box.
I would imagine it would tend to occupy one’s mind, to say the least. I think you can get remote control switch boxes, but I’m not certain of that. And you can use it in the privacy of your bedroom, as well – you like your slave to fuck you, but still want to maintain control of the action? Fasten him in whatever position you like, positioning him so that he can easily enter you, and start tweaking that control box. Want him to pump harder? Dial up the intensity a notch or two, he’ll be quite unable to keep himself from plunging forward with each shock. Not going fast enough? Shorten up the intervals between pulses. He’s a human fuck machine, and it’s all in your capable little hands!
Basically, it would be something sub could use while walking in the mall (yes, I do like that image, sue me). One little push of the button and he’s having that buttplug make love to him while talking to a cashier. Stroking his insides, pumping slowly.. ahem.
There is two different kinds it seems like.. one that is an actual dildo (looks to be made of metal?) and a butt plug (nice and wide looking, metal too?) with electrical currents. Is there such a thing as a cross between a plug and dildo? something long that is gonna *reach* in and grab his attention and one that is wide based enough to keep it in place? or am I asking for the impossible?
Another thought is lube. He is gonna have to be dripping the stuff to keep it up as long as I require. How much would that interfere with the electrical current, etc?
Originally posted 2012-10-07 08:00:46.
I have only persuaded my wife to spank my ass once, and by persuaded I should say I presented her with a fait-accompli.
Having gone to bed early one night and waited for my wife to come up – my mind wandered to lustful thoughts and found my self with a raging hardon but no wife yet. I had fantasized about asking my wife to spank my ass but had chickened out but unknown to her I had fashioned a thick wooden paddle for her to use on my ass.
Unable to wait any longer I grabbed the paddle and snuck naked down the stairs to our family room where I stood in front of her (she was working on her laptop PC). My my she said as she spied my erect penis and my blushing face – what have we here she said.
I blurted out about my fantasy of wanting her to spank me and how it turned me on.
I can see that she said – and asked what I had in my hand – I’d forgotten about the paddle – its a paddle for you to use when you spank me I said. So your serious about this she said. Yes I said and so she cupped my balls in her hand and stroked my penis and said OK but no whining or complaining to me about this.
OK I said, so she said so how shall we do this and I said put me across your knee. So she di, she pulled on my wrist and I folded over her lap. She spread her legs a little and directed my erection between her thighs then closed her legs to grip me tight.
Give me the paddle she said,and I hesitated slightly but said as I handed it over, I think you need to warm up my ass with a hand spanking first.
Oh I do she said as she landed a hard smack with the paddle on my right buttock followed quickly by one on my left. Ouch Ouch I cried out in surprise and in pain. And she rubbed my ass where the paddle had landed and said wow its gone pink where It hit it, so maybe your right and hand spanking first.
I sighed a little and relaxed at that, but not for long as she lit into my ass with a series of hard fast smacks with her hand covering all of my ass cheeks – I was wondering what I found exciting as the pain built very quickly and I was soon trying to get her to slow down to stop. I blurted out about the use of a safe word and it took me some time to get her to believe me. She finally let up with the hand spanks and started into rubbing and massaging my very sore ass.
I was gasping for air at this point not near crying but certainly not comfortable.
Are you sure this is what you want she said as Im sure she could feel my erection soften a little. Yes yes please but just slow it down a little so I can adjust to the pain.
OK she said and then laid into me with the paddle – well hello! – I have never felt anything so painful – I was twisting and turning to try to get away from the blows, and pleading for her to slow up or stop but she kept on going asking me did I want to use my safe word?
I didn’t want to call a halt to the evening so I foolishly said No, so she lit me up again, a bit harder and faster than before – it wasn’t long before I was howling for her to stop and bawling out the safeword.
She put down the paddle and commented on how red and sore looking my ass was. She started stroking it softly and pressing her hand into the ass cheeks to see its impression in the blistering red colour of my ass.
OK she said after a while – Get up and stand in front of me.
I did and she looked at me a said – Honey I can see this turned you on a lot but this isn’t really my thing. and she stroked my penis and softly kissed it. slowly wanking on my cock she said – look if this is what you want – we need to find someone who can do this for you OK?
I said yes and I was sorry for asking her – she said no don’t be sorry we need to communicate these things, and she looked up at me while slippy my now fully erect penis into her mouth. She expertly sucked and stroked on me and brought me to climax and then said – right off to bed – and take that paddle with you.
It was a fantastic night – but we haven’t repeated it since – and we haven’t found anyone to put me over their knee and repeat the treatment.
Always open to ideas on how to find that someone with a wish paddle an errant behind.