Young Woman Learns How to Spank a Man

Learning to Disicipline Her Husband

There is a place where woman’s mastery of the male is unquestioned.

When a young woman has selected the male who will spend his life as an obedient and submissive slave husband she approaches an older woman. A mature dominant woman wise and experienced in the control and discipline of submales.

Often she is the young woman’s own mother or future step-mother. More affluent brides hire a professional consultant.

The professional Disciplinary Mistress teaches the young Mistress to be the nuances of F/m corporal punishment. Control of intensity and quality of punishment spankings.

With the consultant’s advice the young woman selects the male’s first chastity belt. Selects dresses, cosmetics and wigs for the sissificatiion of the groom. And if she is a sadist those special toys for evenings entertaining herself tormenting the helpless slave husband.

older woman led spanking trainer

More Jay Em woman-led spanking art.

Originally posted 2013-02-21 07:29:10.

Female-Led Punishment Schedule

Female-Led Disciplinary Punishment Notification

Feel that you aren’t getting the frequency and intensity of the punishment you deserve?

Have you been disrespectful, rude, disobedience, lazy, irresponsible, smug?

Should you be spanked, paddled, whipped, feminized?

Want to aid your Mistress – girlfriend, partner, lover, wife – in giving you the discipline that you deserve?

Click on the thumbnail below and print he full-sized disciplinary notification below.

Now present it to your superior so that you know that you understand that you should be punished and welcome her authority over you.


And do let me know how this works out.

Submissive Male Spanking Ritual

Female Led Corporal Punishment Routine

By Mistress Q

Female Led Submissive Boyfriend

I have a submissive boyfriend who struggles to maintain a properly deferential attitude and perfectly deferential demeanor.

I have improved his submission with three mandatory daily spankings.

Female Led Cane Paddle Spanking

Morning Spanking

The first spanking takes place after he brings me my morning coffee and I’ve sipped enough to wake up.
I spank my boyfriend with a paddle. It takes little effort to make him whimper a little. The first spanking puts him in his place.

Smiling Sadistic Woman Spanking

Middle Spanking

The second spanking takes place when convenient in the afternoon or early evening. I use a thick black leather belt. This spanking is for my amusement. I whip him as harshly and as long as fits my mood. The spanking might be mild or severely painful.

Female Led Caning

Last Spanking

I use a cane for my slave boyfriend’s third spanking. It is always late evening. Sometimes just before his bedtime. The intensity of this session of corporal punishment reflects his behavior for the day. If he has been submissive, obedient and pleasing he gets a firm caning of at least twenty-five strokes. If his behavior has displeased me the caning is more brutal. If I’m angry I leave him in tears before I lock him in his cage for the night.

Female Led Corporal Punishment

Recreational Spankings

I may beat him just for fun at any time during the day. Unscheduled spankings are always performed with a whip, tawse or quirt.

Female-Led Spanking Advice for the Newly Dominant Woman

How to Spank Your Boyfriend or Husband the First Time


  • Warm-up is important. Start the spanking session by slightly cupping your hands and lightly hitting each buttock one at a time, always targeting the fleshy, middle part of his butt.
  • A good way to gauge how hard you should spank is to watch your husbands reaction. If he’s having a tough time taking it, use a lighter touch. But if he tells you to spank him harder, by all means go for it!
  • Gently rub the skin after every few strokes. Rubbing creates a more sensual vibe, increases blood flow, and allows your partner to take the next stroke with more ease.
  • Lightly scratch the buttocks with your fingernails after you rub them to boost arousal.
  • Once you’ve created a nice rosy hue on the buttocks, cool his buns down with ice between smacks. The ice is soothing — but the slick surface will make your next smack sting even more!
  • Try different positions while spanking. Making him bend down and touch his toes creates a taut bottom, rendering the sting of your hand much more powerful! Have him bend over a chair or lay across the ottoman, use your imagination.
  • Put him over your knee for some good old-fashioned fun!
  • If the spanking is more punitive than foreplay, forget the above niceties and let him have it. Make sure to forgive and forget afterwards, that’s the reason for the punishment. Be sure to lecture him about what is causing the discipline while you are spanking as well.

Please free to add your own advice or suggestions for the novice female dominant beginning corporal punishment of men.

P is for Punishment (Female Led Alphabet)

Punishment: chastisement for disobedience, laziness, misbehavior is a component of most female led relationships. Pain, discomfort to make the may repent is failings and mend his ways. Corporal punishment is the most common form of discipline. Including maintenance spankings to forestall any inappropriate actions on the part of the submissive male. And of course for many couples consensual sadomasochism is play, part of the fun.


Do you think that punishment has a place in a F/m love affair? Serious punishment or play?

Why Do Men Want To Be Spanked By Women (F/m Psychology)

Female Led Corporal Spankophilia


Spanking fetishism also colloquially termed spankophilia is characterized by a person becoming sexually aroused by the giving or receiving of spankings, or both. It seems to be related to, but not identical with other fetishes such as domination/submission play, bondage, sadomasochism and pygophilia (buttocks fetishism).


Do you think that punishment has a place in a F/m love affair? Serious punishment or play?

Generally fetishism is defined as a pathological assignment of sexual fixation, fantasies or behaviors toward an inanimate object such as an item of clothing (underclothing, high-heeled shoes, etc.) or to non-genital body parts such as the feet, but the definition also includes circumstances where a person experiences arousal from participating in activities not normally considered to be sexual in nature, like spanking.

According to psychology practitioners, there is a degree of fetishistic arousal in most “normal” individuals. Fetishistic arousal is generally considered a problem only when it interferes with normal sexual or social functioning or where sexual arousal is impossible without the object of the fetish.


Spanking drawing © Alazar

While I have very limited experience with erotic spankings, I do find the concept very erotic and arousing. I have spanked two past vanilla female sexual partners both over-the-knee and in conjunction with “doggie style” sexual intercourse. Both of them later told me that they didn’t find the over-the-knee spankings particularly arousing but both did very much feel that it contributed a great deal to their arousal when experienced in conjunction with penetrative sex. From my perspective I did not find giving spankings to be arousing, beyond simply the act of touching their bare bottoms which is not surprising since I consider the female bottom to be the single most erotic female body part. Yet fantasizing about being spanked is something I do find very arousing. Since I do experience sexual arousal from any number of stimuli I would assume that spankophilia is a benign fetish for me since it is only one of many things that I find arousing. I have never received an erotic spanking but have spanked myself at the direction of a dominant woman and I did find that to be an arousing experience. I feel that for me personally, it was the domination/submission dynamics of the situations involved that was most responsible for the feelings of arousal since I am not at all very masochistic and do not generally seek out opportunities to experience pain.


There is an ongoing debate in psychology circles about why a person might enjoy and find the idea of being spanked to be arousing, either actually receiving a spanking or through fantasizing about it. Some believe it caused by the person receiving or witnessing spankings during childhood, especially around the age of puberty. This idea corresponds to classical psychology theories. According to Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, sexual deviations are developed in childhood. The basis of his theory was that children may cope with a painful or traumatic experience by “eroticizing” it. Interestingly enough, I recently read an article concerning a survey conducted in the UK where 35% of the respondents who identified themselves as persons who found spanking to be erotic and sexually arousing, stated that they had never been spanked or witnessed a spanking, which seems to indicate rather clearly, that the Freud’s theory doesn’t provide an all inclusive explanation.

Another theory is that some people find spanking to be arousing because of the fact that physical pain is known to cause an endorphin rush for some individuals which causes spanking to be a pleasant experience, comparable to the effects of certain drugs. If the person is spanked hard and frequently (resulting in frequent and intense endorphin rushes) they may become “addicted” to spankings. Over time they come to associate spankings with not only pleasant but erotic feelings. Again not all submissives are masochistic, and so this theory to has its inherent limitations.

Thus far we have considered only erotic spankings, spankings used for the purpose of sexual play. With regards to submissive men and female led relationships, there is also disciplinary spanking. As a submissive man I find the idea of being spanked by a dominant female partner to be a normal and beneficial part of a female led relationship. Like anyone else I am at time prone to make mistakes and need correction. I need to be held accountable and a spanking could provide that accountability. If I failed in some way towards her by say being inadvertently inconsiderate or disrespectful to her or by failing by design or neglect to perform some assigned task, then I feel I would be most deserving of a spanking which would be a very practical means of making amends. As the dominant partner, she certainly would have the right to choose the kind of amends based on the nature of my offense that she felt best addressed and corrected the problem and if she chose to spank me over say simply accepting my heartfelt and sincere apology, then of course I would willingly submit to her decision. While this kind of spanking would not be enjoyable or pleasurable I doubt it would be sexually arousing either. In fact I have read numerous accounts from dominant women who regularly spank their submissive male partners in which all agreed, when done correctly, it is not at all a pleasant experience for the man and is very effective in eliminating the offending behaviors that precipitated the spankings.

I think disciplinary spanking appeals to me with respect to female led relationships on two levels. First, submitting to being spanked would provide a very strong image of her dominance over me and my submission to her. Second, being spanked would allow me to pay for my transgression in a tangible way which would make me feel better about the situation and would allow us to put the affront behind us and in the past so that we could go forward with my behavior appropriately modified. I would also love to experience the erotic variety as well, just to learn what the effects were with regard to arousal.

(From a defunct blog written by a man who used the name Joe.)

Originally posted 2013-04-20 11:44:49.