F/m as Lifestyle or Play Style
Guys:
Do you want a woman to totally subjugate you (ala Elise Sutton) or simply a bedroom dominatrix (Dominant Divas)?
Gals:*
Do you want to regulate a man’s life or limit things to tease and denial and other kinky fun?
Or is there some mysterious middle ground?
( * My first and probably last use of that word.)
Originally posted 2008-03-04 12:38:17.
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How does a male with total serious intent to obey find a woman who is interested in the female led relationships that passive men like myself seek so dearly? I placed an ad on craigslist and got one semi interested reply. An ad in Yahoo personals and nothing came my way.. Does anyone have any ideas where I can find a combatible Woman who will use me for all I’m worth and be the loving bitch she can be? I love assertive women who make me don in women’s attire and humiliate me. Why is it so hard to find a person like this?
Ally
Have you tried CollarMe.Com or a paid membership at Alt.com?
What kind of profile have you written. You might look at http://www.femdomdating.com
I guess (?) we are somewhere inbetween. I can, in theory, make Joscelin do whatever I want whenever I want, as long as it doesn’t interfere with his job or other work (like school or whatever). In practice, I have to be sensitive to his schedule and needs.
The idea that we’d only do kink in the bedroom is OK with me but disheartening to him. It makes him feel misunderstood and not valued for what he really is. And since I find it convenient and sometimes hot to do the 24/7 thing, that’s what we do. But that doesn’t mean I am ordering him around or controlling him 24/7 – it just means that I can (subject to various limits).
i love 24/7 all the way. why lift a finger around the house? sub-husband does ALL the work while i do anything i please.
I like the middle ground, I prefer to role play mostly however even when not role playing to have a woman sometimes off teh cuff just slap me or make me do something for her is fun. I have no interest in being a full time slave ala Elise Sutton though.
I’ll take what’s behind door number 3. For me female domination (AKA the bedroom dominatrix) is definitely a part-time fantasy gig.
However, the relationship that Mrs. Mule and I have is full-time. In many areas of this relationship, she is the leader.
“Led” is the key word in “Female Led Relationships.” Mrs. Mule has a great leadership style. In the “real world” others look to her for leadership, so why shouldn’t I? It’s not about dominance and submission. It’s not about anyone being totally in charge. It’s about setting a course and having someone follow it.
It’s all about that delicious middle ground. 24/7 is too much like work. But, I don’t want to stop being the dominant that I am when I leave the bedroom.
Axe,
It is really quite wonderful – albeit surprising – that you don’t know of Elise Sutton.
I’m somewhere in between the two, as are most others I know. I don’t want to be with someone who is a total control freak; I’ve got my own life. I can’t be with someone who prevents me from living it. On the other hand, I look for more than a vanilla relationship with occasional play.
While I’m not familiar with the “Elise Sutton” approach, I’d have to experience it to know if it was for me or not.
I do know I’d like more than just kink in the bedroom, to be with someone who’s comfortable with me serving her outside as well…at least to some point.