Femdom is a word often avoided by those engaged in female led relationships. Indeed the very popularity of the term female led relationships stems from a desire to evade the clichés often conjured up by Femdom. For many the latter has become too deeply enmeshed in associations with pornographic websites like the Other World Kingdom.
But most female led relationships nonetheless engage in many of the same practices as those engaged in Femdom as lifestyle or play.
Femdom is short for “female domination.” Not female dominant. Writing “a Femdom” is a solecism.
Originally posted 2007-07-24 16:15:08.
A female led relationship is simply that: a relationship that is led by a female. There are plenty of relationships where one partner dominates and there is nothing sexual about it.
Female domination can also be, technically non-sexual. No manipulation or even seeing of the genitals is required. But the same can be said of fetishes. Something that is not directly related to sexuality causes a sexual response.
Female domination can be a part of a female dominated relationship, but it is not a necessary part.
Likewise, one can hire a woman to “perform” female domination. I wouldn’t call this a female led relationship.
Female domination and female led relationships have a large overlap, but they are two distinct things.
Well, but there is almosst nothing on the Internet that is truly
Female/Led yet NON PORNOGRAPHIC
Making a search on Google is very hard if you are not looking for all
the commercial crap out there…
PLEASE, continue doing things, and start getting out of only blogs also…
No argument here at all. There are few good resources on the web.
Femdom can be sensationalized for the uneducated; there’s money to be made selling wank-off material. So there are a flood of sites out there that pander to these debased cravings. They are cheap, poorly done and have little relation to the real world.
This forum and a few others struggle to get the word out. Thanks to our posters for supporting it.
I totally agree with the contributors here. In our marriage our arrangement is that my wife leads or is the boss, as she says, this has absolutely nothing to do with our sexuality. We of course have a healthy sexual relationship which contains unconventional elements but no BDSM or related activities.
Having said that, when my wife chooses to use her “boss” prerogative and hands down an order I find her inordinately attractive. This is what attracted me to her the first time I met her. Our friends all acknowledge that she is the boss in our marriage but she never humiliates me with her status over me. In fact I like to think of us as a normal couple who are deeply in love but she is the more dominant of the two of us.