There are many paths to FLR.
Some people come by it though the internet. Others are introduced by another person. Some people see it in print and media, and yet others come to it all on their own.
What’s your story?
Originally posted 2008-08-27 18:52:06.
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My mother was a very dominant woman within our family and although I was also quite a strong willed kid her mark was left on me.
As I grew older and became more able to admit to myself that I like strong willed women so my life has changed. With my present wife, who is very comfortable with her domiant personality, I could be totally open about my feelings too. It has taken me a good part of my life to get to where I should have been all along but now that I both acknowledge my submissiveness and live in a marriage that is let by a beautiful and domiant woman, my life has at last become perfect.
Ron, thank you for posting. Maybe we can do some CPR on this group.
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I do think our initial role models have a big effect on our choices later in life.
My mom wasn’t dominant, and many of the girls (including my older sister) with whom I grew up weren’t either. However, the girls were very active, go-getter, take charge type people. Seeing girls in charge was normal for me. So this makes my acceptance of an FLR easier.
The female domination part? Well, I’m still working on that.
Mule, It all sounds so easy when you try to explain how you came to be who you are now. Despite having dreamt, fantasised and downright yearned to meet a truly dominant woman, when I met her I discovered something very disturbing, I found it difficult to be as submissive towards her as she desired.
I have now been married to this wonderful woman for 5 years and fortunately she has always been patient with the difference between my wishes and what i delivered in our marriage. This patience has paid off for both of us though, with ever increasing speed I am more and more capable of accepting her demands or orders without all my emotional insecurities causing me to rebel.
As I have made progress in this direction so too has our relationship become deeper and more substantial. She is now getting her needs satisfied and I am beginning to live all my years of dreams in real life. I still have a way to go but even the changes I have managed to make within myself has made me a much more content and happy person.
Oops, just realised I haven’t really answered the question. I have always been fascinated by stronger women and being their play thing in some way. It all started when I was about 10 or so, my fantasies were quite tame mostly centereing around modeling for females or female photographers whilst I was nude. I also enjoyed the idea of serving women in some way, I was always intrigued by the idea of me being naked while they remained clothed. It was quite some time before I got to do anything for real or even over the phone (this was pre interenet).
I guess for me its not really a 24/7 thing. I enjoy the role playing and I love strong, intelligent women. Most of the dominant women I have been with haven’t had much experience although they quickly learn! They enjoy being able to play the part and dominat and abuse me and then when the game is over we go back to being “normal”. Although I have to admit that after I have been dominated it is difficult to feel “equal” around a woman who has just humiliated or abused me in some way. So in some ways it is a lifestyle when I am around certain women even when we are not actively “playing”.
I’ll try to get this thread going.
I grew up in the 1950’s. Women had a submissive place in society in those days (even in America). There was no internet so sources of materials that addressed the potential sexual aspects of FLR were not available to developing young boys. Even Playboy didn’t touch on the issues.
“Women’s Liberation” came along in the 1960’s and that filled in the gap on the non-sexual aspects of FLR, but by that time I was hooked.
My development was mixed. I had childhood sexual fantasies that involved girls being in charge, but I didn’t have any interest in girls until I was almost 15. When I did develop this interest in girls, the sexual dominance was not part of it.
In an era when boys allegedly were in charge of the relationships: they decided which girl to ask out on a date, what to do on the date, etc., I couldn’t buy into that model.
I considered it an honor if a girl would go out with me. I saw it that it was the girl’s choice as to who to date, and sometimes got in trouble for “stealing” someone’s girlfriend. I couldn’t understand this concept. It was her choice, not mine.
I was always attractive to confident, active, go-getter type girls. In the 1960’s there were few of these, so consequently, I dated relatively few girls. I married the best of them.
I was married for several years before I even came across the term “female domination.” Female supremacy (which I have never bought into) and FLR (which I do buy into), were still decades away.
So I have to say that I came to FLR on my own.