Integrity - She has a set of values and sticks with them. I might not agree with the values (in which case we will probably not get along, but I can at least respect her).

Confidence - very sexy - if she really believes in herself, then she is not easily threatened, can “take the hits” and enjoy being herself.

Intelligence - not to be confused with education.

A good sense of humor - if you haven’t laughed during a session, you’re missing a lot of fun :-).

Physical appearance is not important. If I like a woman, I like looking at her no matter what she “really” looks like.

Shared fetishes are nice but as long as we are both willing to explore each other’s fetishes (without commitment to actually adopting them), then that’s enough. If all the other attributes are in place, then we should find enough common ground to have fun.

Cruelty? Not my style. Loving? Most definitely.

I believe in “equal but dominant.” We are equal partners in the relationship. She just happens to have a dominant role. She leads, I follow.

That’s it. The rest comes naturally./

In other words, are they creatively diabolical? (Like Me!)