Comments on: What Does Loving Female Authority Mean?

By: Macbeth

Macbeth — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 20:01:37 +0000

All very interesting. I think what most of us are saying is that loving female authority is about loving and serving a woman who has the sub’s best interests in mind. This also gets a bit into control, as in who is controlling whom. There are stories all over the web about male subs undergoing severe hardship for their Mistress. Months or years in a chastity belt, caged in the basement for long lengths of time, etc. I’m thinking that only a terribly imbalanced individual would submit to that kind of treatment. To me, that is NOT LFA. In my experience, even though we signed that “standard” contract that’s also all over the web, we knew it could not and would not be strictly adhered to. A, I wouldn’t have stood for it and, B, she couldn’t have gone through with it because she loved me. In fact, unfortunately for me, she resigned from her role completely because she thought it was making me too submissive out in the real world of work, jobs and money. I suspect she may have had other reasons as well but she did not make me privy to any of them.To me, in LFA, you first have to get to know the other person well enough to even suggest such a lifestyle. She knew I liked the occasional nipple clamp or a few swats with a riding crop but she also knew I was not a “pain slut,” so she actually didn’t give me all the corporal punishment I wanted because she couldn’t bear the thought of really hurting me. So LFA seems to be a liquid contract that changes from day to day as life comes at you and as needs and desires change. And oh how I wish I was back in that kind of relationship. We are married and still together but where we used to spend a lot of time communicating with each other and having fun with the lifestyle, now we hardly say anything to each other and unfortunately, certainly nothing of any consequence. And we haven’t touched each other in well over a year now. How unfortunate.

By: femsup

femsup — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 00:24:58 +0000

I like to think about Loving Female Authority as being about stewardship.
She is in benign control of things because it makes us both happy.This does not mean I cannot question things.But it does mean we give greater weight to Her opinions.

It means less arguements and more harmony.She often will have my best interests at heart even above Her own sometimes.If a task needs doing that I normally do and I am very tired She will do it because She knows that I should not overtax myself.

I might want to do it and forgo rest or sleep but She will know better.

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 03:49:44 +0000

Loving female authority can mean whaterver two people want it to mean in their relationship. For me, as a service submissive, it means exactly what it says. She loves me, and won’t punish me or hurt me, but I will never do anything again without her permission, and I will obey her totally, instantly and permanently.

She knows what is good for me, and my life, interests, entertainment, learning, and activities will always be decided by her. She loves me, but she regards anything she wants as more important than everything I want, and she loves that life. If I love playing golf, but she would prefer that I’m home to get her drinks while she watches TV for the half an hour that day that she’ll be home, then she’ll naturally forbid me to play golf. That will always be her reaction. She won’t even think about it.

Nor will she ever desire to repeat herself, or listen to an argument. If she wants my opini
on, she will ask for it. If she doesn’t, then she will expect to be obeyed immediately and enthusiastically.

Most of our life, she won’t need to say anything. I will learn what she expects of me in terms of everyday routines, and she won’t expect ever to need to tell me to clean, or do laundry, or any other domestic task. She will tell me what to cook and serve for dinner any evening, but not that it’s my job to cook and serve dinner. We both know that I will always cook and serve all the meals, unless she says otherwise.

She will decide what clothes I will wear, what I will eat in restaurants, what TV I can/will watch, what books I can/will read, when/if I can use the computer, and what sites I can/will go to; and time I will go to bed and get up. She may often ask me what my preferences are in a situation, but if she doesn’t, she isn’t interested in hearing one word about them, and if she ever encounters any resistance or bending of her rules, she will definitely punish me, to correct that attitude immediately. She can get along fine if for a week or two, I can’t watch any TV, use the computer, have no allowance, and go to bed right after finishing the dinner dishes. I will definitely learn to be very obedient with a loving mistress like that.

By: Mule

Mule — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 11:59:43 +0000

To those of you who have read my other postings, this will be no new revelation.

There are three components here loving, female, and authority.

Mrs. Mule and I have a very loving relationship. It is based on mutual trust and respect that comes from open and honest communications.

Female: Mrs. Mule is a child of the 1960′s “women’s liberation movement.” Unlike a lot of other feminists, she is not a man hater, nor does she deny her own femininity. She is a very confident and strong person, and very much a WOMAN.

Authority: Mrs. Mule is not a dominatrix, however, she has no problem taking charge and running with any problem. This was a trait that attracted me to women even as a teen.

Mrs. Mule is not dominating, but she does accept my submission. I love doing things for her, because I love her. The only thing that “ruins” the fantasy is that she does so many nice things back .

I have told Mrs. Mule all my fantasies. She understands what I like and those things with which she is comfortable, she will do for me because, she loves me too. She knows that I have written kinky stories. She knows I know kinky people and has even met some of them herself. And she approves even if she does not participate herself.

All I can say is that to be able to trust someone so much that you can be completely vulnerable before her and know that she will take care of you and protect you is very reassuring. It is a demonstration of our love for each other.

By: axe

axe — Sat, 29 Dec 2007 02:20:52 +0000

This is a very good question. I’ve often imagined how my ideal relationship dynamic would be and I don’t imagine the stereotype dominatrix.

I think it would be quite difficult to be in a long term relationship with the stereotype dominatrix. It’s just unrealistic…for me.

I imagine lovingly taking her coat off when she gets home from work, bringing her tea, breakfast in bed. Her guidance to help be become a better “pet” and person.

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