Basically I wanted to say that taking on nearly 100% of the housework and yardwork, in combination with childcare and special needs care is quite exhausting. My wife works hard at her job, but I am now putting in literally 17-19 hours a day of non-stop work with no real breaks until late at night, trying to live a lifestyle of serving her. I’m not complaining. She is tired too. But taking on 100% of the housework, especially if you have other than 2 healthy adults in the household, is no joke.

It’s not the housework that’s been the issue - we’ve always shared that. It’s that my wife has been working full-time for a long time, and is very tired. In our marriage (13 years), there have only been two years that I have worked full-time and she has not, one for each of the kids, which is hardly a restful time for the mother. On the other hand, I have been a part-time worker or student for some of that time, and then I have been the home-carer for the kids more recently - but they are older now so it is much easier.

So, the way it has worked out hasn’t actually been very fair on her - not really my fault, just the way it went.

Next year we will hopefully be moving into a situation in which I can spoil her; she will not work and I will work full-time, and she can rest and be rewarded. I would happily serve her in this way and do most or all the housework, but probably not for more than about a year at most. Then I’d ask her to start helping me out around the house (and hope she said yes).

But she’ll probably want to go back to work by then, anyway. We’ll see.

My only other comment is that for a woman, a life of sitting about the house, shopping and waiting for the sub-hub to come home so she can boss him around doesn’t sound very rewarding in the long-term. It sounds like a great break from reality, or a ‘treat’ lifestyle, but what woman worth being served would want to live like this all the time?

Steve.

I wonder why more women do not enforce their natural superiority? They would be surprised how easily they could set this into motion.

Every d/s couple I know shares the housework. Or if they don’t live together, they do their own. A d/s relationship is still a relationship, which entails love and effort.

A few couples I know do incorporate housework as part of a role-play, but at least they admit that it’s a role-play.

I am not allowed to use the washing machine and dryer, nor am I allowed to use the dishwasher. She doesn’t like the way I “do” these things.

We both admit that I am superior when it comes to ironing and vacuuming (I have no problem lifting the end of the couch to vacuum under it). I’ve gotten very good at ironing just about anything. (Comes from years of ironing my military uniforms).

Otherwise schedule takes over. She gets home well before I do, so she cooks. (If we waited until I got home and cooked, we’d be eating at 9 PM). My job is the post-dinner cleanup (big dishes and cookware that does not go in the dishwasher), table, trash (Mrs. Mule doesn’t even know where the trash can is).

Elsewhere around the house, she does the gardening (plants the flowers), I do the blasting of the concrete that masquerades as soil around her and generally act as beast of burden.

She does most of the work in the pool (outdoors but very private), but I am the naked pool boy for tasks that require getting into the pool (at 68 degrees it’s a little chilly).

My only criticism is that she occasionally complains about certain aspects of housework instead of asking me to help. There are two things that will help this situation: 1) I have to know what it is she is trying to do, 2) I have to be there to see what she is doing.

Otherwise, I do not feel “trapped” by housework, and neither does she. It’s actually fun doing some of the chores together.