I don’t see mascualinity as anything bad, I have known women (not dommes that I knew of) that have been turned off by masculainity whether it just be that they didn’t like hairy bodies or deep powerful voices etc. In fact I always thought these two women were more intimidated by masculine men then turned off by them.

I learned self-reliance and confidence in myself. I did not need the approval of others. Although confidence should be gender-neutral (I find it a very sexy trait in women), it does a lot to enhance a masculine image.

I’ve often said that the most macho thing I do is pee standing up and I don’t even manage that in the middle of the night.

And yet … a couple of years ago I tore a ligament in my elbow that required surgery. My right arm was immobilized for a period of three weeks. I could not shave (actually I was willing to risk it left handed, but used the temporary disability as an excuse). So I wound up growing a full beard.

I got numerous comments on the beard, mostly from women, and all positive. Mrs. Mule really likes it.

I see masculinity as something that lots of women are attracted to, but it’s not something I try to boost in order to make myself more attractive. It’s not that big an issue to me.