That men enjoy wearing panties or other articles of feminine attire is probably a very widespread fetish: exceeding the realms of female domination and loving female authority.
Luckily for submissive guys it is one that women are easily persuaded to accommodate and even come to enjoy.
But adopting women’s undergarments, lingerie shouldn’t be so often treated as assuming tokens of inferiority. If you think about it that is like saying women wear the clothing they do because they are inferior.
Just be glad she lets you wear high heels, panties and the like. You have found a spouse willing to accept your atypical needs. Just be happy.
It is like the toilet: people should use it in the fashion best suited to their anatomy. Some of us sit on it because we like to read.