Strap-On Sex

Strap-on play is big on power exchange, male humiliation in female led lore. It is the Foucaultian line that penetration is domination: demonstration of superiority.

For many gay and bisexual men who (unlike Foucault) aren’t D/s bottoms this is an opinion from the planet Pluto.

The prostate gland likes being massaged: it simply feels good. Some gay male bottoms have physical orgasms when penetrated by a gifted top.

If it weren’t for the perceived power exchange in anal sex vanilla men could have a good time if their girlfriends and wives used strap-on dildos.

I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t enjoy feeling submissive. Just laughing at the conventional men who are missing potential pleasure.

Added later:

A DVD that has proven a successful and reliable way to introduce strap-on sex to wives and girlfriends is Carol Queen’s Bend Over Boyfriend .

Originally posted 2008-03-15 15:00:43.

Comments

  1. Aphrodite's Slave says

    I consider myself attracted to D/s, though my gf doesn’t feel quite confortable about it. Nevertheless, we have had anal play often, and we just bought a strap-on. It’s just discovering new pleasure, and we both like it.

  2. cbtmarie says

    I began incuding strapon’s in our play time several years ago. Initially, I used the strapon to add new dimesnions of control over my hubby. Now, I enjoy the strapon for the physical pleasure it can give me as well. I have two strapon harnesses. Each has a different sized attachement that I pick depending on my mood.

    My hubby has learned to really enjoy my ministrations and almost always expereinces intense “anal” orgasm as well as traditonal orgasm. Lately, I have begun to ride him to near orgasm (anal or regular) and then stop. For me, this has become another form of denial that I use to keep my needs foremost in hubby’s thoughts and deeds.

    Two words of suggestion, “lube” and “silicone”. If you’re new to this, do yourself and your sub a favor and use lots of lube. I use liquid silk. Also, avoid the non-silicon dongs at all costs.

    A a final suggestion, I learned from trial and erros, do not try to use a Feeldoe or Nexus – while they appear to provide stimulus for the wopman, they haven’t for me. They also require very difficult positions for newbies.

  3. femsup says

    Right on with both of you and the origional poster.It can be another way of experiencing pleasure and does not neccesarily mean tha just because you are being penetrated you are the submissive.If you think about it this is insulting to a dominant Womyn as when She engulfs you She is not being submissive.

  4. jade kim says

    oh do i love this topic. most males i know would never let a woman fuck them in the ass…but you know what? when they finally get around to it they love it. i can’t think of anything better than slipping on my strap-on over my jeans then having my male rub his hand on my crotch..feeling my hard fake cock underneath. this gets him so hot and me too. what in the world is wrong with changing roles when it is so much fun..Jade

    • handsomepervert326 says

      Hi there, I have a question though . Why is that when fiction and written novels stop it is always so hard to find anyone (and I refer to females) willing to take a serious action? I am not gay, not even bi, never tried anal before ( I have only found out about strapons on the Net..) and yet I believe that I would love to meet a dominant female ( but NOT a professional) and get fucked furiousely in the ass. I’d want someone who really enjoyed dominating (and perhaps even humiliating men). Young, milf, skinny or fat… it doesn’t matter! I believe the all core satisfaction to be the loss of power and the unnatural enthusiasm that drives a girl to madness while penetrating and so governating a man. But then again, why girls are so hideously getting stiff on this? Why don’t they ever make a move on guy in that direction? Do we always have to take initiative here? Even when switching roles??!!! … or is that they do not like it at all? I mean fucking guys in the ass?
      I love fucking gilrs in the ass. I love every inches I give to them. The all know that you are aiming to sadistically hurt them and yet still getting pleasure from it. Domination. Sadism. It must be the same for them. Isn’t it?

  5. strapon guy says

    I love the feeling of being taken with a strapon, I’m not submissive but a no holes barred , no limits , try anything sexual relationship is a wonderful thing!

  6. wilma says

    I also love the intense feelings of pleasure I get from being taken with a strapon dildo. I am bi-sexual but I do not like to deal with males it gets too complicated. my wife is not able to be as dominate as I want her to be. She tries and does use the strapon dildo on me.

  7. wilma says

    When I read some of the other comments I noticed no one mentioned how important hygine is to fun strapon play. Other than the pain some people experience when they are penetrated for the first time, the next most common complaint is the fear of having an unwanted experience with fecal matter. I have both douche containers and the old syringe set to make sure I am ready to have a clean and enjoyable strapon session. Oh by the way, for those of you who are into that, never mind.

    • Enoch Soames says

      Are you asking is if all women will understand is your pleasure in it? Or do you think women will think it the only way to have sex?

  8. Sergio says

    What I want to say and if for example my wife would strapon on me? I would look forward to it … but me that strapon and what her reaction?

    • Enoch Soames says

      Are you asking what her reaction to the idea of sodomizing you with a strap-on dildo would be? Her response would be individual to her and you know her. We don’t. What do you think your wife’s response to your interest in being anally penetrated would be?

      If you are wanting to introduce the idea of strap-on sex you might get a copy of the book and DVD Bend Over Boyfriend .

  9. Anonymous says

    Thank you. I Already ordered the book and dvd Bend Over. Now and only to have the opurtonidade to show her and to have courage for that.
    Tanks ENOCK

    • WD says

      Check out Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men. It’s more recent and has hotter couples.

  10. Thea says

    Usually I wait until my males sac is heavy with cum, this is usually about 2 weeks. I then remove his chastity device and fuck the cum out of him. Sometimes I have him hold a gold gifting bowl to expel his subservient lust seed into which he then enjoys humbly offering to me while I am standing and he is on his knees head looking down in submission and raising the male offering.

    Depending on my mood and if he has sufficiently pleased me I sometimes drink it which is very rewarding for a male. Second to this is allowing him to place it on my goddess body and massage it in with a foot massage.

    Other times it pleases me to make him drink it or have him throw it in the toilet or garbage. Either way he understands what a privileged it is for him to be able to even give me his seed. Any good male realizes this and will do just about anything to be allowed this opportunity. From bringing home a paycheck, utility around the house, hard labor with his muscles or worshiping my body, it just depends on what I find the male useful for.

  11. markiee says

    My wife takes me when ever she wants. Sometimes it’s with me being bent over the couch, other times I’m in the dipper position and she looks into my eyes as she milks me dry.

  12. jack says

    i want to try the strap on sex i am not gay and i just want my wife to try it with me. she is willing to use the vibrators but not the strap ons how do i get her to work with me see after she does her thing i do mine to her that is how id like it to work

  13. wicked1 says

    My girlfriend used to always talk about wanting to fuck me with a strapon. I used to not show much interest in it. So one day I texted her and said I picked one up for her and she to hurry up and get home with it. So I hurried and got home, but when I got there she acted like I was crazy for getting it. Does she really want it? Is she maybe going through a state of fantasy denialor what? I bought it back in January and it’s never been used. Every time I talk about it she gets angry. Is the strapon out of the question now. Can anyone advise me about this situation?

  14. faceunderu says

    As one who has been used in this way, I can say that for me there is no greater enjoyment that to have a Woman with a strapon use my anus for Her pleasure, for the following reasons.

    1. Size, the bigger the better, I have had a 9″ by 2″ inside me.

    2. it never goes soft.

    3. and best of all Women the much longer to reach orgasm than men do.

    faceunderu, a Woman’s toilet.

  15. faceunderu says

    An expansion of my previous post.

    The “Girls night in”, evenings continued at fairly regular intervals of approximately 4 to 6 weeks, sometimes the date chosen was that of a nurses birthdays. On one such occasion, the birthday was that of a nurse, who is a Lesbian, and the present She received from Her lover was a strap on dildo. She said “I can’t wait to use it, but not here”, at this point my owner said, “Why not here, would you like to use it on my slave”. Oh, may I She said, and without more a do put on Her brand new toy, and ordered me to bend over.

    Although I have been penetrated anally by men, It is no where near as enjoyable as when it is done by a Woman with a strapon. Firstly Women take much longer to reach orgasm, and also the strapon never goes soft, and is normally larger than most men. This is also a role reversal which both of us enjoy. My mistress insists that I do not use an enema, so that after She has finished, She can further humiliate me by putting it into my mouth, and ordering me to lick it spotlessly clean, thereby forcing me to swallow my own excrement.

    Faceunderu, a Woman’s toilet.

  16. WD says

    I yearn to be anally taken by a woman wearing a strap-on dildo. I am a straight man with a strong anal fetish, and most of my fantasies have been fulfilled except this one. My wife likes to bend me over or have me on my back with my knees lifted so she can get at my anus. She goes wild licking my anus and inserting lubricated fingers. She knows how desperate I get to be penetrated and have my prostate stimulated from inside. She has also spanked me hard and repeatedly, sometimes with me bend over a piece of furniture, even tied up. The one thing she won’t do is stick dildos up my ass or take me with a strap-on. She says the idea of sex toys disgusts her. I am obsessed with the idea of strap-on sex and hope to experience it one day.

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