Strap-On Sex
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Strap-on play is big on power exchange, male humiliation in female led lore. It is the Foucaultian line that penetration is domination: demonstration of superiority.
For many gay and bisexual men who (unlike Foucault) aren’t D/s bottoms this is an opinion from the planet Pluto.
The prostate gland likes being massaged: it simply feels good. Some gay male bottoms have physical orgasms when penetrated by a gifted top.
If it weren’t for the perceived power exchange in anal sex vanilla men could have a good time if their girlfriends and wives used strap-on dildos.
I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t enjoy feeling submissive. Just laughing at the conventional men who are missing potential pleasure.
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March 29th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
I consider myself attracted to D/s, though my gf doesn’t feel quite confortable about it. Nevertheless, we have had anal play often, and we just bought a strap-on. It’s just discovering new pleasure, and we both like it.
April 18th, 2008 at 4:16 pm
I began incuding strapon’s in our play time several years ago. Initially, I used the strapon to add new dimesnions of control over my hubby. Now, I enjoy the strapon for the physical pleasure it can give me as well. I have two strapon harnesses. Each has a different sized attachement that I pick depending on my mood.
My hubby has learned to really enjoy my ministrations and almost always expereinces intense “anal” orgasm as well as traditonal orgasm. Lately, I have begun to ride him to near orgasm (anal or regular) and then stop. For me, this has become another form of denial that I use to keep my needs foremost in hubby’s thoughts and deeds.
Two words of suggestion, “lube” and “silicone”. If you’re new to this, do yourself and your sub a favor and use lots of lube. I use liquid silk. Also, avoid the non-silicon dongs at all costs.
A a final suggestion, I learned from trial and erros, do not try to use a Feeldoe or Nexus - while they appear to provide stimulus for the wopman, they haven’t for me. They also require very difficult positions for newbies.
August 3rd, 2008 at 8:15 pm
Right on with both of you and the origional poster.It can be another way of experiencing pleasure and does not neccesarily mean tha just because you are being penetrated you are the submissive.If you think about it this is insulting to a dominant Womyn as when She engulfs you She is not being submissive.
August 3rd, 2008 at 8:16 pm
Like CBT Marie’s comment that it is just another tool in playing with orgasm control and denial.