Female led discussions of male chastity regimens of assert that a man who is denied orgasms is in some way a better man.
- He is more likely to perform household chores.
- He is more affectionate, attentive.
- He is more submissive.
Some report that post-orgasm a supposedly submissive male will become rude or lazy.
Bad behavior after an orgasm is probably stealth or even unconscious topping from the bottom. It insures that he will be returned to enforced chastity, which he really desires.
But that desire is likely driven by the wish to feel her authority over him. And the intimacy of wearing a – CB6000 say – is a tangible form of control.
Originally posted 2008-05-02 12:30:46.
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love the idea of chastity belts for men. It would make pussy worship a mustl. My wife likes me dressed in drag and full bondage for the night. After servicing her orally she rolls over and leaves me in her boots, bras and panties with the rope around my feet and hands. In the morning I must service her again if I am to be released
As a young woman fairly new to FD I have been very keen to explore chastity with my boyfriend Bob. I restrict his orgasms to about one every 3 or 4 weeks. We,ve tried a proper belt but its not very satisfactory frankly and so far I’ve relied on simple kitchen string and the like; at leastyou can see if its been interfered with. Bob promises of course not to wank but everybody knows just how weak men are in this respect. The strengh of his erection tells you a lot as well as the increased agitation as time goes by. Our best run has been 6 weeks and I myself ame six times in one evening and got a big thrill out of seeing his tears of frustration and then just saying “No”. When I do allow it I insist its recycled. I have him lie on his back with his feet up against the wall so his cock is staring him in the face. It doesnt take long before its spurting out into his mouth where it can be swallowed and – according to my theory, used again as it were! We did this in a wood last summer with his legs up a tree trunk and as it dribbled off his nose I held his cock and told him to pee. “O please no Linda” he begged but Hey! you dont tell me what I want and dont want want and soon his full bladder was letting go, soaking his head. He explained afterwards its “difficult “when you;ve just shot your load. Difficult! I gave him difficult later with plenty of cane before tea (which invariably means more cane later).
Interestingly when I first started going out with boys in my early teens I liked nothing better than leaving them “High and Dry” after an evenings hetic snogging and feeling up. That was the expression we girls used to signify he really wanted it but didnt get it and we’d giggle about it.
I do not become any less submissive after “orgasm” because I know that my submission is a thing to be worked at and I consciously make an effort to show that I am still attentive and obedient.Just as She may fall asleep after Her and thus our orgasm I too will often fall asleep with Her even if I have been denied.Its so nice just to share a cuddle or spooning together after we have achived Her/our orgasm.
When it comes to my orgasm or more appropriately called release (the male orgasm or release being a distantly related poorer cousin to the proper Female orgasm) the time after may be as long and cuddly as when wwe get Her to where She wants to be or as little as a second depending on Her whim and needs.For instance I have been told after coming with a tap on the chest and a slap on the balls to get into the bathroom clean myself up and go downstairs and fetch Her a glass of water immediately .
I may want to lay back and savour my orgasm the first for weeks but Her immediate need is to slake Her thirst.I don’t think I take longer than another second or two to get up and stumble into the bathroom and then rush downstairs and back up again with water.
She understands full well why there is my tardiness by a couple of seconds.And knows I would rather lie there in Her arms face on her chest or on my back all blissed out but appreciates I make sure I still put Her first.She accepts my wanting to bask in the glow of my release is normal and that Her demands of me need not have to be met and that I could discuss with Her and ask for time to savour things.But it is I who wants to get up because She needs something.
My attitude at that moment may be one of dissapointment but not lack of submissiveness.I will go about things later or the next days in a contented glow from the joy She has given me.
As a baseline I’m of the tendancy that it shouldnt be absence of orgasm, but definatly handing over permission for any orgasm. Complete chastity is a tool but could be counterproductive as focused and controlled orgasm’s are another more useful tool to achieve and sustain male subjugation.
Excessive orgasm denial is self-defeating: after a certain period of time the man becomes habituated and the loss of orgasms has minimal emotional effect.
During my first marriage we spent a great deal of time exploring and living the female led lifestyle. It included domestic servitude, whips, clothespins, and later I encourage her to enforce chastity. Chastity training made servicing my Mistress exciting. We tried various devices, but most didn’t work. So it was on the honor system, and I kept my promise that would not cum without permission. The longest chastity period for me was two months. But my wife/Mistress greatly enjoyed receiving oral sex. I would eat her pussy three or four times a week. Man, when you are into four weeks of chastity, it is mind blowing to watch her erupt on your tongue, knowing that you will not be getting anything. You know chastity training was not really that big twenty years ago. Today it is common place. My wife was quite an enforcer of my chastity. She never felt sorry for me. Usually she would erupt into orgasm, I would kiss her on the cheek, tuck her in and she would go off to sleep. In chastity it was a constant high. Frustrating but erotic. (I can still feel those punishment sessions with her. She’d yank those clothespins off my penis and balls and I became jelly. And when she used the whip, no vanilla here. she’d swing full force and I’d be dancing and pleading. ) But it was in chastity that I was the better slave
Who can trust men who can’t even spell masturbate?
When I was a teenager, we used to do ‘master baiting’ at our rather snobby school by getting them into conversations so we didnt have to do any work!
My chastity started when I gave a CB-2000 to my Wife to be as a Xmass gag gift. I found out they really do work, and ever since she has been requiring me to wear it more every year.
That was seven years ago and four years ago we graduated to a CB-3000 that fits my smaller size better.
When she has me locked up I am a much better husband. I think more about what I say and I do more household chores.
I used to masterbate allot, but because every year she made me wear the CB-3000 more I have not been able to masterbate as much.
My Wife knows that I do not obey or cater to her after I have ejaculated and that includes masterbating. I think this partly the reason she has been requiring me to be locked up more and more.
In the next few years I will probably join those husbands whose Wives keep them locked up all the time.
I agree with the comment above, although I must admit I was not always “a good husband.” I was, in truth, constantly seeking satisfaction either in masturbation, paid sexual encounters or extra marital affairs for the majority of my now near 20 year marriage. Last year, in the aftermath of getting caught, I did a google search on how to save a marriage, and links on male chastity and the CB6000 popped up. I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that submissiveness and orgasm control didn’t turn me on, but then I did something surprising: I told my wife. And guess what: she was into it. It was by far the best leap of faith I ever made, and I feel twice as good about it because I asked her to keep me in a male chastity device to sincerely save my marriage. If you’re reading this and in a similar position to where I was listen good: it works. I’ve been locked in a CB6000 for 6 months, and only have orgasms when my wife allows it, and I’ve never been happier. It’s a lovely intimate secret we share, and I’ve never felt better. I’m pretty sure she would say the same about herself. Life is a funny thing, isn’t it?
As a happily married man, I introduced my wife to male chastity. If paying more attention to her needs makes me a better man then I’m happy with that. I think she is a better woman while I am in my MCD. She has blossomed with intimacy. She loves a full-body massage from me, help with bathing, dressing, etc. I love giving those things to her and she has become less tense regarding sexual interaction. I can’t say I deserve to be locked up. I’ve always been a good husband and she has always been a good wife. We have always loved each other (23 years of marriage). The male chastity is another ingredient for our happiness. At least for me, I love helping her to orgasm after orgasm even though I am not getting one. I love her happiness and pleasure. For those wives who have a husband that needs to “shape up or ship out”, forced male chastity is certainly worth a try. It might work. However, some men are just selfish and lazy. Find a new man.
Well yes, this is the weakest time for the male, just after he cums for his worshiped female. It is important to be patient as it only takes hours or a day and sometimes minutes for the male to recharge and become submissive again.
Sometimes more stimulation helps. I often give him some time with his penis out and when he seems ready I cage it and let him lick my asshole to recharge his energy. Males are different but mine seems to respond best when I allow him to eat my asshole.
Sounds familiar it is good tohear how your Wifes sexuality has become yours.We as males should look first and foremost to our lovers pleasure.
It seems though that She finds your sexual needs a chore and that She and now you find it convenient and practical to spend only 15-20 seconds on your orgasm.
However I am sure there are many more Womyn who find prolonging and teasing and generally driving their men wild with lust more fulfilling.It is really down to our Womyn to decide what is best for all of us in the relationship.
Your work around the home might be more important and thus extended play with your genitals might impinge upon it.She is wise about both your needs.
My dominant wife and I have been living a femdom lifestyle for 35 years (as of this coming August). She pretty much calls all the shots in every aspect of our life and relationship. Things have changed and evolved over the years, but not the basics. Even from the first, she was not into penis/vagina sex and except for when she wanted our (two) children, I have not been permitted this.
She is, and has always been more into oral sex and various toys. At first, she was not averse to giving me a hand job, but that has changed over the years. With the advent of PCs and the internet, she has changed her outlook on what a relationship should be. She decides what I do in our normal daily routines, what chores or duties I must keeep up on a regular basis, and literally anythig that comes up unexpectedly.
I am now in chastity (Loris tube #6 with PA security) and am so used to it now that I don’t even think about so-called “normal sex” anymore. Sex for her is what she wishes, when she wishes, and for how long she wishes. I am allowed occasional “releases”, but only on her whim and when she decides. Ususally it entails removeal of my tube and a quick application of a vibrator/massager to my flaccid penis. I am usually on my hands and knees and there is a saucer or bowl under me. Ejaculation is almost always within 15-20 seconds and then I have to immediately lick everything up. The tube goes right back on.
I am so conditioned to this that I can’t envision any other lifestyle, especially at our age now.
Maybe it’s just me, but I never was one to fall asleep after orgasm. To me it revitalizes, usually. I want to get up and go! Then again, back when I was younger and smoked pot I was never one to sit around and be high, I usually would start cleaning or go out for a walk or do SOMETHING!
Anyway, for us OC/OD is my kink. My wife has fun with it, but I think as long as she was getting off as much as she wanted she wouldn’t care whether I came or not. She has admitted that she enjoys making me cum sometimes, so I usually don’t go longer than 2 or 3 weeks without, but honestly at that point I’m getting off on not cumming, so when my wife tells me to cum it’s actually a submissive act for me to do it. At least, that’s how I feel about it currently. I find that my feeling about control/denial evolve and change as time goes on.
I agree with roo-roo on this one (that shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone who knows us both).
You don’t “make” anyone do anything they don’t want to do. You can’t “make” a woman dominate you and you can’t “make” a man a better submissive by orgasm control. Yes, you can force people to the point where they will go through the motions, but we are talking about safe, sane and consensual here. Forcing people to your will is a sickness.
MCDs are toys, not tools. At my age enforced chastity is meaningless. I don’t have “the urge” to have an orgasm. I have them when I want them. But even in my earlier days, it should have been enough for Mrs. Mule to say, “don’t do it” (provided we agreed that this is a game we want to play) — being physically restrained is no challenge, controlling myself mentally – that’s the real challenge. Who do I love more, Mrs. Mule or me?
There is, no doubt, a physiological reaction that happens after ejaculation. However based on what I am reading, the reaction must differ greatly from man to man.
For me post-orgasmic reactions are that I feel very “warm and cuddly” and to an extent giddy. I am physically drained. Yes, I could jump up and run 5 miles (barring my bum knee) but I also feel like I just ran 5 miles. Feeling lazy or rude just isn’t there.
Speaking fom experience, I wanted to add a different twist. I have been using cyproterone – a medication that drastically reduces testosterone. it is far superior to any other anti androgen. I use between 12 to 25 mg per day and my testosterone measures out at between 17 and 40, which is remarkably low. I am able to orgasm but my genital equiment does not work like it used to. I would not be able to reach or enter a natal female’s genitalia because there is no erection. But greater than any of this – my attitude does not leave me with any desire to do so. My desire is for relationship and intimacy but sex itself not very attractive. I believe many sub males would really enjoy and benefit from this approach it validates their desire for intimacy without all the impatient, inappropriate misbehavior. Cyproterone is available online costs around 67.00 for a 90 day supply.
I just dont like this idea that testosterone is a bad thing in a man. We agree that my wife should lead our relationship because she is a better leader than I would be but I have absolutely no intention of messing up my system with artifical hormonal rubbish and becoming a desexed subbie zombie. Men are entitled to pleasure but they need to learn some skills and self control. See my above post about tantric orgasms. I think thats the way to go. By the way, I love being submissive but there is nothing wrong with being dominant as well, so long as we realise we are role playing. Its the dance of energy, the learning to enjoy heightened pleasure and, yes, intimacy, that we need and it is that which excites. I love my erections and so does my wife and dont want to be defined by anyone’s rules, least of all the ‘rules’ of the D/s police!!!
Without reservation, I agree.
When my wife has controlled my infrequent orgasm, I have been attentive, interested, alert. Absolutely.
If I remember correctly orgasms cause the release of prolactin and that chemical is the culprit.
How a guy behaves right after an orgasm depends on many things: his character, the nature of the relationship, how demanding his day has been, his overall health.
Yes, the “drop” does happen, and it is hormonal, but it’s not an excuse to be rude. It’s real, but it’s not an excuse to treat others badly. Just because someone’s hormones are “off”, that doesn’t give that person carte blanche to be nasty, whether we’re talking about post-orgasm drop or pms.
Um, isn’t it a well-known, biologically supported fact that men experience a chemical “drop” after an orgasm, which easily explains the “rude” and “lazy” behavior, and which is quite temporary, lasting at most ten to fifteen minutes, and has nothing at all to do with SAM-like behavior?
Why am I the first person on this comment log to point that out?
You dont get that feeling if you can suck the orgasm up your spine as you come. Aim for your heart! What you’ll find is that a) you wont feel drained,pissed off and want to go to sleep
b) you’ll be all loved up for your lovely partner.
When you get really good at this, you might experience an orgasm where you cum but the sperm doesnt and you get a whole body orgasm. Its only happened to me once but it was amazing
Howard: you are describing what is often called a tantric orgasm – having an orgasm without ejaculating.
Yes, exactly, Enoch. As I see it, the main problem is that men are obsessed with masturbation and driven to ejaculation and it is this that is the problem in relationships. If we experience orgasm in tantric ways, we do not need to have our beloved put us in chastity, (even though the power trip involved in having her take total charge of our vajra – a tibetan word for the cock that we have picked up from our tantra teacher – is so intoxicating and exciting!).
So, shouldnt men learn to start to take more responsibility for controlling their own orgasm so that we can develop better sexual relationships?
Yes, indeed, Enoch. We’ve learnt it from having a tantra teacher, who has helped me learn a lot about my energy and how to work with it. Sure it is exciting and intoxicating to have your wife put you in chastity but really, we men need to learn that there is more to sex than just jerking off frantically and cumming as quick as we can. Ive learnt to enjoy holding on to the energy and this means that we pleasure each other sometimes for hours. Of course the down side is that you never get anything else done and there is no ‘end point’ to sex since there is no rolling over and going to sleep for the man! I’m 56 now and I have huge solid erections that I love but they wouldnt be if I hadnt learnt some of these tantric techniques. Mind you, I still love the game of asking my wife for permission to cum and I love it when she says ‘later’.
I like making Joscelin come (I love my lover’s orgasms), and I like not letting him come. It’s all good.
I find he is a bit more ardent when he hasn’t come in a little while, and a bit space-seeking right after orgasm, but none of that is too strange. I bristle at the thought of doing orgasm control for some ulterior motive like making someone more attentive. I like it for its own sake.
A male chastity device is very important in an FLR, i ought to know, my Dominant Wife of 10 years has kept me locked in one since before our wedding. As john said, my orgasm is a privilege that is earned, usually i get to have one every 4-6 weeks, but occasionally when i haven’t been the submissive my Wife demands, i’ve had to go up to 4 months without an orgasm. Talk about behavior modification. And while i agree with F-P about orgasm diminishing submissiveness, the submissiveness quickly returns when i am locked back up in the CB-3000 immediately after cleaning up after my orgasm, knowing that the next one is dependent on my Wife and Her evaluation of my behavior. This is highly erotic for both my Wife and me, She relishes having this control over me, i love that She has that complete control over me and my orgasms, and we wouldn’t have it any other way.
I disagree with the last two paragraphs. IMO, the whole submission is driven by the sub’s erotic feelings. When these are temporarily lessened by orgasm, the submissive attitude lessens as well.
John, not everyone falls into that one-size-fits-all approach. For some, it’s a mutually enjoyable experience. It doesn’t have to be a tool; it can be *fun*. Besides, if the man is submissive, why would the woman have to be manipulative like that rather than being honest and actually communicating? And it may come as a shock, but some dommes actually like giving the sub orgasms.
Hello John,
I have no argument exactly with that perspective. My point was that it isn’t always necessarily that straightforward.
Orgasm is a pleasure and privilege for submissive men. Enforced chastity is nothing more than a ‘tool’ for the dominant to use to regulate and control when he is rewarded.
-john
If chastity genuinely changes the sub’s behavior, I have to question why. Is there bad communication between them? Is the sub trying to manipulate her into being more dominant by acting bratty when he’s allowed orgasm? When submission comes from the heart, chastity won’t change who you are.