Comments on: Enforced Chastity Makes for a Better Man

By: femsup

femsup — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 23:18:12 +0000

Sounds familiar it is good tohear how your Wifes sexuality has become yours.We as males should look first and foremost to our lovers pleasure.
It seems though that She finds your sexual needs a chore and that She and now you find it convenient and practical to spend only 15-20 seconds on your orgasm.
However I am sure there are many more Womyn who find prolonging and teasing and generally driving their men wild with lust more fulfilling.It is really down to our Womyn to decide what is best for all of us in the relationship.
Your work around the home might be more important and thus extended play with your genitals might impinge upon it.She is wise about both your needs.

By: Sounds Familiar

Sounds Familiar — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 20:31:43 +0000

My dominant wife and I have been living a femdom lifestyle for 35 years (as of this coming August). She pretty much calls all the shots in every aspect of our life and relationship. Things have changed and evolved over the years, but not the basics. Even from the first, she was not into penis/vagina sex and except for when she wanted our (two) children, I have not been permitted this.

She is, and has always been more into oral sex and various toys. At first, she was not averse to giving me a hand job, but that has changed over the years. With the advent of PCs and the internet, she has changed her outlook on what a relationship should be. She decides what I do in our normal daily routines, what chores or duties I must keeep up on a regular basis, and literally anythig that comes up unexpectedly.

I am now in chastity (Loris tube #6 with PA security) and am so used to it now that I don’t even think about so-called “normal sex” anymore. Sex for her is what she wishes, when she wishes, and for how long she wishes. I am allowed occasional “releases”, but only on her whim and when she decides. Ususally it entails removeal of my tube and a quick application of a vibrator/massager to my flaccid penis. I am usually on my hands and knees and there is a saucer or bowl under me. Ejaculation is almost always within 15-20 seconds and then I have to immediately lick everything up. The tube goes right back on.

I am so conditioned to this that I can’t envision any other lifestyle, especially at our age now.

By: All For Her

All For Her — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 14:56:36 +0000

Maybe it’s just me, but I never was one to fall asleep after orgasm. To me it revitalizes, usually. I want to get up and go! Then again, back when I was younger and smoked pot I was never one to sit around and be high, I usually would start cleaning or go out for a walk or do SOMETHING!
Anyway, for us OC/OD is my kink. My wife has fun with it, but I think as long as she was getting off as much as she wanted she wouldn’t care whether I came or not. She has admitted that she enjoys making me cum sometimes, so I usually don’t go longer than 2 or 3 weeks without, but honestly at that point I’m getting off on not cumming, so when my wife tells me to cum it’s actually a submissive act for me to do it. At least, that’s how I feel about it currently. I find that my feeling about control/denial evolve and change as time goes on.

By: Mule

Mule — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:18:00 +0000

I agree with roo-roo on this one (that shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone who knows us both).

You don’t “make” anyone do anything they don’t want to do. You can’t “make” a woman dominate you and you can’t “make” a man a better submissive by orgasm control. Yes, you can force people to the point where they will go through the motions, but we are talking about safe, sane and consensual here. Forcing people to your will is a sickness.

MCDs are toys, not tools. At my age enforced chastity is meaningless. I don’t have “the urge” to have an orgasm. I have them when I want them. But even in my earlier days, it should have been enough for Mrs. Mule to say, “don’t do it” (provided we agreed that this is a game we want to play) — being physically restrained is no challenge, controlling myself mentally - that’s the real challenge. Who do I love more, Mrs. Mule or me?

There is, no doubt, a physiological reaction that happens after ejaculation. However based on what I am reading, the reaction must differ greatly from man to man.

For me post-orgasmic reactions are that I feel very “warm and cuddly” and to an extent giddy. I am physically drained. Yes, I could jump up and run 5 miles (barring my bum knee) but I also feel like I just ran 5 miles. Feeling lazy or rude just isn’t there.

By: cybelline1

cybelline1 — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 12:39:28 +0000

Speaking fom experience, I wanted to add a different twist. I have been using cyproterone - a medication that drastically reduces testosterone. it is far superior to any other anti androgen. I use between 12 to 25 mg per day and my testosterone measures out at between 17 and 40, which is remarkably low. I am able to orgasm but my genital equiment does not work like it used to. I would not be able to reach or enter a natal female’s genitalia because there is no erection. But greater than any of this - my attitude does not leave me with any desire to do so. My desire is for relationship and intimacy but sex itself not very attractive. I believe many sub males would really enjoy and benefit from this approach it validates their desire for intimacy without all the impatient, inappropriate misbehavior. Cyproterone is available online costs around 67.00 for a 90 day supply.

By: doris

doris — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 21:18:23 +0000

Without reservation, I agree.

When my wife has controlled my infrequent orgasm, I have been attentive, interested, alert. Absolutely.

By: Enoch Soames

Enoch Soames — Tue, 06 May 2008 14:16:00 +0000

If I remember correctly orgasms cause the release of prolactin and that chemical is the culprit.

How a guy behaves right after an orgasm depends on many things: his character, the nature of the relationship, how demanding his day has been, his overall health.