Comments on: Goddess, Please Ruin My Orgasms

By: nathanyl

nathanyl — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 03:57:16 +0000

I love it when my orgasms are “ruined” or minimised, I also love when we are having vanilla sex and shge will tell me to stop and make me sleep on the floor after she has had her orgasm. The possibilities are endless.

By: pete

pete — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 13:21:39 +0000

>Ruined orgasms is the key phrase bringing the most traffic from search >engines.

What do you mean? That the term “Ruined Orgasms” gets more hits than anything else? If so, you’re very wrong. Which, in turn, renders the meaning of your entire post wrong. It’s, frankly, poorly researched nonsense.

I am, and always have been, sub male. I find the incredible amount of fantasy masquerading as fact within femdom discussion frustrating and destructive. If people spoke honestly about their experiences and stopped pretending to be something from their imagination we’d have a much clearer idea of the meaning and potential of all of this stuff.

By: femsup

femsup — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 01:35:23 +0000

Sadiste you are onto a sure fire winner there.You get the satisfaction that you are giving him great sex.He gets sense of control because he was forbidden to come and you both get the pleasure of getting the beating/giving the beating or other punishment.
He gets to feel bad/good and you get to feel good/bad i.e.wickedly naughty.

By: Mule

Mule — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 10:22:16 +0000

There are two ways I can think of to ruin an orgasm.

The first, of course, is not to let the male have one at all.

The second is to make the experience unpleasurable. Any guy who has put hand to penis knows that you do not stop pumping on the first stroke. There has to be a certain amount of follow through or it just doesn’t feel right.

Then there are the psychological factors. Let the male know that you do not want him to cum. Tell him that you are disappointed with his lack of discipline.

Tell him that he needs training and supervision. Make him masturbate for you as you watch but not cum. If he does, just sigh, act disgusted, and say something like, “That was poor. I am disappointed in you. A real man could hold out. Bad boy. Clean that mess up and get out of my sight.” Then send him off to the corner or whatever.

If he does perform well, then reward him. Give him a lot of praise. In fact, the reward could be that you masturbate him to completion. “See, isn’t it better when I do it? You are not to do it without my supervision.” I think under the circumstances even a partial masturbation (stop on the first squirt as described above) might be enough. How you actually reward his is up to you.

Guilt and the need to please you will make masturbation and orgasm on his own unthinkable, and possibly even impossible.

By: maymay

maymay — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 07:19:30 +0000

A physically unsatisfying sensation can be immensely rewarding. It’s when the self-loathing reaches a peak and men feel ashamed to admit their desires for such things that this turns into something markedly unattractive.

I’m one example of a man who greatly enjoys being forced into having ruined, unsatisfying orgasms, but unlike many men I see writing about the topic I’m not inclined to deny the fact that that’s what I want.

By: Psmith

Psmith — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 09:49:23 +0000

You sound like my kind of girl.

By: Sadiste

Sadiste — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 06:22:17 +0000

Hmmm, MY fantasy is ordering a man not to come, then stimulating him until he can’t help it and has a fantastic orgasm… and then I get to punish him and make him feel bad for failing me!