Male Chastity is Sexy

Chastity is one of the most popular topics in female led relationships.

While men often boast of how much better being forbidden orgasms – sometimes even erections – makes them that really isn’t the issue.

It is almost always the man who introduces chastity. The man who seduces his wife or girlfriend into having him wear a male chastity belt. After all women normally bond with men assuming there will be mutual orgasms arrived at in fairly conventional ways.

Really it is the man who seeks to find expression for his submissive desires in the loss of orgasms. It is his thrill. One that women easily adapt to. Either because their spouse or lover is sexually lazy or selfish or because they assume him a slave to them already.

But I think men should admit that for them is a hot part of voluntary erotic slavehood: there’s no shame in liking it. They enjoy feeling the woman as keyholder’s power. And how good sex feels when it is allowed.

No need to dress up something done for fun as a kind of solemn morality play.

Originally posted 2007-12-22 17:16:08.

How do you feel about it, what do you think?

Comments

  1. roo-roo says

    Well said. Chastity is just plain hot. There’s no need to justify it.

    Some people just have a hard time admitting they actually like something. Maybe it’s shame, not coming to terms with their own kinks, or maybe they want to believe in that whole “it’s all about her” propaganda.

  2. says

    That is, indeed, well said. Nevertheless, there is a certain distinction that I think is important between wanting something you want and wanting something you don’t want. Many more men seem to find the notion of enforced chastity much hotter than simply being chastised. That, in itself, deserves some recognition. It doesn’t change or negate anything you have said here, but many men sometimes feel as though liking enforced chastity is somehow not the same as liking non-enforced chastity, and of course, they are mistaken.

  3. Roe says

    I’m a male and there is some truth to your claim that men normally initiate the chastity device fantasy. However, I found the fantasy much better than the reality. In the middle of the night, laying there awake at 3 am in the morning beside my woman, unable to sleep after a week in prison the reality was more than I could handle. When I woke my woman up telling her that I couldn’t take it anymore, I was devastated to hear her say she was adding more days because I broke the rules. I played by the rules to get free, but I didn’t find being submissive much fun. Climbing the walls wanting relief quit being fun on day one, after a week … well, I don’t plan to do it again.

  4. Sovereign says

    My SO found a more effective way to enforce chastity. Periodically, when she knew how long it had been since I’d had release, she’d put me in a condom and make me perform intercourse for her. Then, when I’d come, she’d take the condom off and put the whole thing on a gram-scale. If I’d had an unauthorized release, my spending would be light and she’d punish me depending on just how light I was. The mental component of knowing I could effect my own release was powerful, because I also knew that, if I did, she’d find out the next time she announced a random ‘fidelity test.’ and my spending was below weight.

  5. dee says

    I went from a long term relationship with a professionallifestyle dominatrix that controlled my orgasms to a relationship with a woman friend that eventually led to a 15 tear relationship that saw us live together and to one that allowed the two of us to enjoy my submissive side. She was never a dominatrix and did not engage in “games” with me, but she was the boss. She accepted me for who I was and I had to ask her to take control of when I would have orgasms. She did this, but she did this for me, not so much for herself. I loved being controlled. Even though we lived together we were never intimate, but did have an incredibly open relationship. This relationship lasted until she passed away at too young an age.

  6. Anonymous says

    Male Chastity is very sexy for me. I like to have total control. My husband is more submissive and don’t masturbate.
    He can concentrate for my needs. I like steel chastity belts. CS 100 is my favorite.
    Sandra

  7. HubbieInChastity24/7 says

    To Roe:
    You listed all of the reasons why I find chastity hot. At 3am, when I’m awakened by the feel of my cock straining inside my cage, all I can do is to wrap myself all around the woman who holds my key. When she says, “Awww, aren’t you the sweet snugly boy”. I say, “I’m so horny for you I feel like I’m going to explode!”
    She will answer, “Yes, I know. I like you this way. You’ll live. Now be my good boy and try to go back to sleep.”

    I just lie there for a while, snuggling while my body trembles and quivers in what my wife calls my “girl type near orgasms.”

  8. says

    I think there is a huge misunderstanding going around, and it’s pretty unavoidable.

    See, some people play on a hugely mental level. The “ideology of female superiority” is just another turn-on in that case. “Believing” in female domination, even using religious vocabulary, is part of the game. Of course, it may sometimes cross over into actual belief, or something where the involved parties can’t really tell whether it is “just a game” or more than that.

    So I think that a discussion board about those matters should really be divided into two sections: One for discussing the reality of bdsm, and another for delving happily into fantasy femdom paradise as deep as possible.

  9. says

    Well said!

    However, in this context:

    >their spouse or lover is sexually lazy or selfish

    is a GOOD thing.

    A Femdom relationship is still a relationship. If she quite likes sex without PIV, and I like chastity, then we are happy.

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