Dominatrix Hotties
Do you need for a woman to be of outstanding physical beauty before you can allow her to take control of you?
Probably not, at least from what I know of you who comment here. Or at least you don’t think so.
But I’ve certainly heard from men who consider ample breasts, a slim waist and a handsome face absolutely necessary.
While I don’t deny the necessity of physical ‘chemistry’ I suspect many of these guys are very likely to remain alone and frustrated.
Putting aside fantasies, what role, to what degree does physical beauty play a role in your hopes and expectations for a female led relationship or marriage?
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January 1st, 2008 at 7:18 pm
It seems to me that the more “casual” the relationship, the more emphasis is placed on physical standards of attractiveness. This makes perfect sense, really, but when it comes right down to it, I’m unsure of how to determine whether the sexual attraction is based on the looks or the dominance. There is clearly a requirement for both of these parts to be fulfilled (at least for me), but in my experience, differing combinations can make for differently fulfilling experiences.
Am I the only one who has occasional fantasies about submitting to unattractive partners? I doubt it. But I also fantasize about submitting to attractive partners, on the basis of their looks or otherwise.
Thanks for (yet another) thought-provoking subject to discuss.
January 2nd, 2008 at 8:52 am
I place the same amount of importance on looks as most ‘nillafolk. There’s got to be some physical attraction there, but I realize I’m not going to end up with a supermodel. But beauty is one of those things that’s hard to pin down, so it’s very fluid.
January 7th, 2008 at 8:44 pm
The fallback excuse as to why I don’t have a partner is “Oh you’re too picky”.
If I, as a submissive man, say “I want a partner who I find attractive physically and mentally”, then it’s assumed that I want a barbie-doll.
If you say that to a ‘nilla person they’ll say “well…duh”.
Yes, I want to be attracted to whomever I submit to, I know it limits my options obviously but how many Dommes would want to dominate a guy they weren’t attracted to?
So shoot me if I actually want to be turned on when I look up from my knees.
Sorry…feeling a bit defensive.
January 7th, 2008 at 8:50 pm
There are always going to be purists in almost everything including BDSM.
I suspect age may be a factor in this as well and older men much more likely to focus on the role and interaction independently of the surface qualities of the woman.
January 8th, 2008 at 8:50 pm
axe- I agree completely. For some people, it’s just about sensation; for them, anyone will do. But like any other relationship, if it’s more than just sensation, then there’s got to be some physical and emotional chemistry.
January 10th, 2008 at 10:56 am
“It’s all about sensation” or “you have to have chemistry” are not the only two options. Some people, myself included, find it pretty easy to develop chemistry with almost anyone we really like on a personality level. I might not find a certain guy hot or good-looking if I saw him on the street, but if I meet him at the club and get to know him a little bit, he might totally rock my world.
I’m not trying to make anyone defensive - just sayin’.
January 21st, 2008 at 5:28 pm
So much of sex is what is in someone’s head and helping people put on blindfolds actually and metaphorically so they can be who they are and let go enough to get to their true desires
September 11th, 2008 at 6:45 pm
Even when watching BDSM/CFNM/Ballbusting style clips on the net I actually get turned on by dominant women who look like normal everday women. I find watching women who look the housewives who drop their kids off at school every morning kick some guys balls or make fun of his small penis far more erotic than an obvious model who is just doing it for the money. I wish there was more normal women kinky stuff out there. I especially love it when they are dresseed normally as well.