Many submissive males are enamored of images of personal dictatorship. They are so hungry for authority that perhaps unwittingly they forget that dominance and submission is a form of relationship.
Some D/s play is done in a fairly impersonal fashion. But the ‘malesubs’ I’m thinking of don’t think that cleanly. Their penis – yes! – is going “Dominate me! Dominate me!” They are looking for matri-fascism.
I think it is fair to say that many dominant women are looking for a guy to dominate – playfully or otherwise – are seeking friendship as well. Friendship – tenderness and the like – enhance dominance and submission. They don’t want to settle for less: probably will not settle for less.
If you are looking for an authoritarian relationship you need to think about offering your friendship as well as your obedience.
Originally posted 2007-12-29 15:46:21.
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I’d guess that you are right: most dominant women are indeed looking for friendship in addition to obedience. I’ve noticed that most dominant women tend to be the elder of their siblings (Generally, most cases- certainly not all dominant women.)
. Simultaneously dominant and controlling. That’s what I need.
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Their whole life they have not only had to take care of their younger sister/brother, but also control their behavior. I’m a younger brother. A proper, typical younger brother. I don’t enjoy the presence of my elder brother but I can see how I’d be completeeetely INSANE without the dude! And every woman I’ve ever loved in my life is an elder sibling
So I guess dominant women are control freaks but they’re friends who know what’s best for you better than yourself(they think
I totally agree with the author. Matri-fascism might be a dream but its not a realistic dream. My wife is quite clear that she wants to lead our marriage but she loves me for being a man who she can respect and with out that we would not have a marriage. Without a marriage or loving relationship neither party gets the majority of their needs satisfied. The only relationship that could come remotely come close to a complete dictatorship relationship could occur in your place of work where your boss does not require you to supply anything more that obedience but I have never found a boss like that.
Matri-fascism is the ideal. But considering real life, after 10,000 years of patriarchy, light dominance might be all we can get.