Female Led Relationships

Many submissive males are enamored of images of personal dictatorship. They are so hungry for authority that perhaps unwittingly they forget that dominance and submission is a form of relationship.

Some D/s play is done in a fairly impersonal fashion. But the ‘malesubs’ I’m thinking of don’t think that cleanly. Their penis - yes! - is going “Dominate me! Dominate me!” They are looking for matri-fascism.

I think it is fair to say that many dominant women are looking for a guy to dominate - playfully or otherwise - are seeking friendship as well. Friendship - tenderness and the like - enhance dominance and submission. They don’t want to settle for less: probably will not settle for less.

If you are looking for an authoritarian relationship you need to think about offering your friendship as well as your obedience.