There was the movie:
… when the friends discover the joys of sexy older women, they turn their passion into a hot business. Pairing young men with older, sex-starved women proves profitable –
…
You must be ready and willing to accept this reality if you are going to get romantically linked with an older woman. This is not to say that you will be asked to deal with these issues per sé ; rather you must realize that an older woman generally has more to worry about than that bushy-tailed co-ed at your dorm
Pros & Cons Of Dating Older Women
My idea of a cougar is a 40+ woman that has it going on and is a player. It’s an experienced woman, who is sexually confident, but all around confident in general.
Seems normal enough for F/m.
Originally posted 2008-06-15 19:52:14.
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It is quite easy.
Women are not interested in femdom nor in any form of kink.
They are sexually boring creatures.
As they get older, they accept kinkier activities such as femdom to keep their husbands or to get new lovers in the face of strong competition from younger, more attractive women.
That is a sadly sexist and hostile concept of female sexuality.
Actually it is submissive and masochistic men who are more likely to do whatever they can to attract and appeal to a dominant woman.
Hmmm I sense a man with difficulties fulfilling his fantasies. Not surprising though. With his attitude it is not wonder no dominant women is interested.
See a dominant women – older or not – knows what she wants. One of the things they don’t want it a self centered fantasy driven do-me-the-way-I-want-to-be-domeinated man. We have better things to do than wasting our time.
It was a cougar who introduced me to the femdom way! When I was 24 I started dating a 36 year old woman–or I should say she started dating me. Up to that point I had several girlfriends my age and I was used to getting my way sexually. I wasn’t abusive of course; I just didn’t know any better because that’s how males are taught to think about women and sex. Then I met Carol. After our 3rd date I tried to get her into bed and she rebuffed me by saying that it was too soon and she would let me know when she was ready. I tried again after our 4rd date a few days later and she said the same thing. The very next night I tried a 3rd time and success! She led me into her bedroom, started undressing me and got me into her bed. She then used scarves to tie my hands and feet to her bed, which was a first for me because I was used to being in charge in the bedroom but I thought “what the heck, I’ll let her and next time I’ll tie her up” Then she gagged my mouth and explained to me that sex is a gift from a woman to a man and the woman decides when and how to have sex, etc. and we would discuss this further in the morning. She left me naked tied and gagged the whole night. I was very embarrassed and humbled, especially after trying to get free and not having any luck. The scarves didn’t seem all that tight but I may as well have been in steel handcuffs–Carol really knew her knots!. The next morning we had a discussion about our budding relationship and she stated that she was going to lead the relationship and I could either accept it or we could part ways then and there. When I agreed to her demands, we had the most mind-blowing sex I ever had up until that point, with me still tied to her bed. We were together for almost two years in a totally female led relationship and she remains the most influential woman I have ever had in my life. I still run into her on occasion (we are on good terms) and it’s amazing just how sensual she is to me even though she is now almost 60 and has grey hair and has put on weight. I haven’t been in a femdom relationship since and in fact haven’t even been tied up but all the women in my life–including my wife–have benefitted from my time with Carol.
ALthough subtle in terms of BDSM and femdom another fun aspect of being with an older lady is when she may use you as a “trophy partner. Once an older lady I was with got me to do a striptease for her friends- her friends thought I was just a hired stripper not her BF. .
I married a woman 7 1/2 years older than me. I’m happiest when she demands I wear my CB3000 continously. She has slowly increased every year and this year i will have worn it about half the time. I love her even more when she is bossy.
Most of my Mistresses have been older women, I find older women more interesting in general than silly giggly girls. I think though apart from the typical school mistress fantasies that most boys have it is because my personality is somewhat “older” than my peer group so it just feels right.
Before my wife determined that I would become her maid, she was 48 years old. She was active beyond any younger women I had known and far, far more demanding and controlling. An older woman who enjoys her superiority and extending this over a man… is the best that there can possibly be.
Axe, there is a lot of evidence for your assertion that “most women seem to discover their dominance later in life.” It seems true in my observations.
However, I am of a different generation. Women of my age were exposed to “women’s liberation” in the 1960′s and did not wind up as housewives like our parents did. They worked, and had their own careers and identified themselves with something other than homemaker and mother.
Mrs. Mule certainly fits this bill. However, being “mom” still has a big influence on a woman’s life. Even being “dad” had a big influence on my life. Your life revolves around your children. Your friends are chosen by your children (inevitably the parents of their classmates). You feel the obligation to be their coaches, chauffeurs, tutors, and various other roles, which although are fun, demand time and concentration.
I think it was I who suffered more from the “empty nest” syndrome when the kids went off to college.
The point is, when the kids start going out on their own, parents find that they have more time to think about themselves and rediscover themselves. In the case of Mrs. Mule and me, we were married in our very early 20′s (she was 20 I was barely 22) so our personalities were not completely developed, including our sexuality.
Being able to semi-retire from parenthood allowed us both to explore ourselves and take the next step in our maturing process. I think our case is fairly typical of people of our generation. So it was not unusual for a woman of 40 or 50 to suddenly “find herself” after putting herself on hold for 20 years of being “mom.”
I am not so sure if this theory holds any validity for the generations who followed us. For one thing, information is much more readily available in this “information age.” The social revolution that started in the 1960′s is more complete, and although there are individual holdouts, stereotypes based on gender or race or whatever isn’t acceptable in mainstream anymore. It’s a lot easier to be who you want to be than it was in 1950.
My observations are based on Mrs. Mule and several other women I know. They are all approximately my age. I would like to hear from those with a different experience.
Joscelin has officially declared me to be “the pale.” You know, the pale that dating anyone older than me would be going beyond. I’m not really old enough to be a cougar, but yeah. Finding dominant women his age (24) is difficult.
Most women seem to discover their dominance later in life. Few women have it as part of who they are from the start. At least from the dominant women I’ve talked to.
It seems only natural that many younger guys will look for a dominant woman and then realize that it’s easier to find one other than they are.
I know two submissive men who are with other women for that very reason and they seem very happy.
So how do you find such a woman?