Comments on: FLR / LFA Blogs : A Caution

By: Shadowlady

Shadowlady — Wed, 05 May 2010 13:17:31 +0000

Totally agree with you there. These fantasy blogs create havoc if in the hands of fantasy focused male. Don’t get me wrong, nothing wrong with a bit of fantasy. As long as you recognize it as such.
I am involved in FLR fora and the number of women who are willing to try FLR/kink but are pushed by their loving ‘slaves’ to become overnight pro-domme in the flesh are numerous. All that hapens then is disappointment on both sides.
The women as she feels a failure to live up to his fantasy women (newsflash there is a reason she is a fantasy – she does not exist!) and he is not behaving like she feels a dub should. Obeying her wishes instead of forcing his wishes on her.
The man as he feels that his fantasy is not what he expected it to be. He feels he has to pull the cart to make it happen. He feels alone and left standing trying to make things work.
End result if often people no longer communicating and being very unhappy, whereas with communication and differentiating between fantasy, kink and FLR a lot of issues could have been avoided

By: F-P

F-P — Thu, 06 Sep 2007 19:41:51 +0000

Agree absolutely. Most of these women (& men) writing sound like men writing their fantasies.

Among other things, I doubt if that many women are interested in spending so many hours getting massages and other activities described by the bloggers.

By: nigel

nigel — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 09:31:27 +0000

Yes, kudos!

but I also believe that any D/s relationship is something one explores with one’s partner and no two relationships will be exaclty the same even though they share similar practices. Therefore online ideas, insights and sharing, needs the final verdict of each other!