In the early stages of a girlfriend led love affair, wife led marriage there’s often a mismatch of expectations and desires.
The submissive boyfriend or husband is ready to be – at least imagines he is – to be her compleat slave. The woman has just begun exploring.
Over time she’s likely to become more and more comfortable with exerting authority over her beloved. And her taste for sadistic games may well increase.
But he’s already pushing for more now. Expressing frustration and disappointment that she isn’t exerting more female dominance. Pushing someone to feel dominant is the last thing to do to make them feel empowered. And it may cause her to abandon being on top altogether.
If you’ve convinced the woman you love to begin taking control be grateful and patient. Make sure this new experience is comfortable.
Make her happy: you claim that is the goal don’t you?
Originally posted 2007-12-16 11:06:26.
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There is only one approach. Simply tell her being submissive gives you immense pleasure, and you want to obey her. Then forget about it. No pressure. She knows you like it, but she may not. When she finds there are never any arguments, she’ll like that part. If that’s all she gives you, then after some time period, if you are unhappy with that, then terminate the FLR aspect. I don’t see how that can be any strain on the relationship, since she controls the entire dynamics and evolution of the FLR aspects, if any. It’s the pressure the male puts on the woman which causes problems. She can understand English. You’ve told her you get submissive pleasure. Don’t tell her twice. She won’t have any problems with that. The only issues are will she embrace it and enjoy more and more of it, as much time goes by, or won’t she. And if she doesn’t, will it be worth it for the male to continue in that FLR, or go back to a vanilla relationship.
Is it really female led if the man is trying to convince his partner to control him? I read a post on a site a while ago from a man who really wanted his wife to cuckold him – once to see what it was like. She was very reluctant but he kept badgering her until she finally agreed. Well guess what? That’s it now she loves it and what he wanted to try once has become his lifestyle. Be careful what you wish for, it might sound like fun to relinquish all control but once its gone its gone for good and you might not like what you have been begging for, alot of this ideas are great in fantasy or role play but not to live.
These words are so true. For more than 12 months I have been trying to convince my wife to accept and develop a female led relationship. At timers it was more than I could dream for, but ultimately it ended in failure and a separation of ways. This is a dangerous game we play with significant – and often unwanted – consequences. Be wary of what you wish for. There’s a dark side to any fetish.