Comments on: 10 LFA / FLR Commandments For Submissive Men

By: maymay

maymay — Mon, 12 May 2008 12:04:09 +0000

These lists should be called “How to fuck up a D/s relationship.” Here’s a few better ideas that I call “How not to fuck up a D/s relationship.”

By: Eileen

Eileen — Mon, 05 May 2008 12:53:04 +0000

I think what annoys me most about these lists is that keeping up with a relationship like that would be a full time *job.* For me. The *top.*

Ask for my approval before doing anything, going anywhere or spending anything.

Ugh. No sane person has the time to make decisions for two adults.

By: aldozyd

aldozyd — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 21:51:52 +0000

i do not think these rules are for real life. talk to your spouse, try to come to an agreement when needed. i am allowed to say i’m the boss. why? because she said i could. i will always strive to keep wife/mistress happy-because if she is happy i may be happy–and vice versa.

By: Nigel

Nigel — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 08:59:34 +0000

I believe in general these rules make a start! Do they allow for emergencies? a “communications” safe-word may help. How does one define happiness in rule 1? Happiness is so subjective but one might argue that trying to fulfill that in a loved one is worthy!
However, I think rule 9 conflicts with rule 1! For example; If Mistress came to me and asked, “Does my bottom look fat in these jeans?”
Does one say, “Yes” in accordance with rule 9, to tell the truth all the time; Or “No” in accordance with rule 1, in dedication to the happiness of Mistress!

No mention of love, tenderness, understanding, compassion, thoughtfulness, caring, cherishing, kindness or affection? I may not be a “real” submissive but I know what service is and I do not need rules to share this gift or surrender to the WOMAN I love.

By: roo-roo

roo-roo — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 14:06:25 +0000

I got a good laugh out of this list. The “domme is always right” mentality is one way to end an otherwise solid relationship. On top of that, these rules make it sound like the man has no needs and that his fulfillment in the relationship is unimportant. That might work in some chat room, but in real life, it just doesn’t happen that way.