10 LFA / FLR Commandments For Submissive Men
On an abandoned FLR blog I ran across these “Ten Commandments for a husband in a Female Led Marriage” …
- Dedicate your life to my happiness and give me your uncompromising devotion.
- Put my pleasure, my needs and my wishes before your own and never grumble or moan about it.
- Obey my rules willingly and obey my commands immediately. Treat my suggestions as orders.
- Never argue with me. Give in to me in all things. Submit to my will and to my authority.
- Devote yourself to serving me, both in the bedroom and without.
- All chores that need to be done at home are your job unless I decide otherwise.
- Ask for my approval before doing anything, going anywhere or spending anything.
- Listen to me attentively when I speak to you.
- Confess all your transgressions to me and never, ever lie to me.
- Request punishment when you deserve it and willingly submit to all punishments that I apply.
The list was written by a male, not a female.
How do each of these strictures strike you? Are they just and fair? Are they too demanding? Can you imagine yourself seeking to live up to each and every one?
5 Responses “10 LFA / FLR Commandments For Submissive Men”
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I got a good laugh out of this list. The “domme is always right” mentality is one way to end an otherwise solid relationship. On top of that, these rules make it sound like the man has no needs and that his fulfillment in the relationship is unimportant. That might work in some chat room, but in real life, it just doesn’t happen that way.
I believe in general these rules make a start! Do they allow for emergencies? a “communications” safe-word may help. How does one define happiness in rule 1? Happiness is so subjective but one might argue that trying to fulfill that in a loved one is worthy!
However, I think rule 9 conflicts with rule 1! For example; If Mistress came to me and asked, “Does my bottom look fat in these jeans?”
Does one say, “Yes” in accordance with rule 9, to tell the truth all the time; Or “No” in accordance with rule 1, in dedication to the happiness of Mistress!
No mention of love, tenderness, understanding, compassion, thoughtfulness, caring, cherishing, kindness or affection? I may not be a “real” submissive but I know what service is and I do not need rules to share this gift or surrender to the WOMAN I love.
i do not think these rules are for real life. talk to your spouse, try to come to an agreement when needed. i am allowed to say i’m the boss. why? because she said i could. i will always strive to keep wife/mistress happy-because if she is happy i may be happy–and vice versa.
I think what annoys me most about these lists is that keeping up with a relationship like that would be a full time *job.* For me. The *top.*
Ask for my approval before doing anything, going anywhere or spending anything.
Ugh. No sane person has the time to make decisions for two adults.
These lists should be called “How to fuck up a D/s relationship.” Here’s a few better ideas that I call “How not to fuck up a D/s relationship.”