Female Led Relationships

Robert asks:

I am in a very happy marriage for three years. My wife locked me up in a chastity belt since our wedding day. I have been orgasm denial for the past three years, never entered my wife at all. I have accepted that I will never inter her, nor have an orgasm again for the rest of my life. She sees other men, and I clean her out orally.

We have talked about having a family for the past six months now, and our wedding anniversary is coming up in one month. I am thinking about offering to my wife, as a anniversary present, to be knocked up by another man so she can have a baby and start our family.

My question to you is, would my anniversary present to my wife be reasonable, and am I wrong in my willingness to have my wife get pregnant by another man??

I would like to know what your thoughts are on this.
Robert

The past several decades have thankfully seen huge changes in gender perceptions and relationships. Even the average American isn’t quite as silly as in the past. No one (openly) laughs at the idea of female engineers nowadays.

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Mule in response to my request:

One topic I would like to see is a discussion of when FLR first entered one’s life.

It has been a part of mine for as long as I can remember. There was actually a time in my life when I thought that girls were superior to us boys.

I have tons of theories as to why FLR can happen early in life and why female supremacy at certain stages in life might actually be fact.

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That the “Mistress / Wife” isn’t sufficiently demanding and bossy or enough of a disciplinarian is a common complaint among men in the early stages of attempting to establish a female led marriage.

This is inadvertent honesty. If the woman doesn’t want to be more than so assertive, controlling or punishing and the relationship is all about her pleasure then what could be the complaint?

The reality is that the submissive husband wants his jollies.

There’s no shame in that. But it is hypocritical to say it is all about her when it is at least as much about you.

Be honest that dominance and submission has to be mutual to work. The truth will diminish confusion and minimize feelings of hurt and neglect.

Many of the female led relationship blogs have grown silent. The husband met frustration and failure in his effort to convince his wife to take the reins of the marriage in her hands and treat him as vassal and subject.

Some of these tales were very sad. The man would acquire, say, a CB2000 and sought to get his wife to become his chastity keyholder. Sometimes the wife might oblige but only in unimpassioned, barely interested fashion. Only to please him when he wanted control of his sexuality to please her.

Or he’d buy a collar only to discover that she remained dead to the symbolism.

The wife would be at best tolerant; at worst disgusted in the change she saw in the man she married.

He’d try waiting on her hand and foot, hoping to win her over to loving female authority by stealth submission. There are people out there who preach that as sure means of conversion. Indeed the rhetoric of FLR at times can be terrifyingly pious as if it were a religion like Scientology.

That a woman can be converted to FLR if you only find the right method is as foolish as the idea that a lesbian hasn’t met the right man.

I could never think of any way to comfort or advise these men.

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Ideally a female supremacist wife who keeps your cock locked up in a CB6000 when is isn’t ruining your wife.

That is what the recent Google search stats suggest many hoping to find here.

Ruined orgasms if I remember what I’ve read involve masturbation where the pressure of the hand is removed just prior to ejaculation diminishing the thrill. Sounds like an esoteric art to me but certainly deliciously cruel in intent. Though some may regard forced orgasmless ejaculation using a device like the Aneros prostate massage something nearly the same.

There’s also another kind of milking that is rather the opposite of the ruined orgasm. Forcing a man to masturbate repeatedly – or perhaps masturbating him – until his penis begins to hurt. Another interesting form of erotic torment.

Oh, the mighty phallus: please it, confine it, hurt it – funny how it is so often the center of attention.

Barbara Ehrenreich commenting on a New York Times article by Susan Faludi:

I share Faludi’s glee — up to a point. Surely no one will ever dare argue that women lack the temperament for political combat. But by running a racially-tinged campaign, lying about her foreign policy experience, and repeatedly seeming to favor McCain over her Democratic opponent, Clinton didn’t just break through the “glass floor,” she set a new low for floors in general, and would, if she could have got within arm’s reach, have rubbed the broken glass into Obama’s face.

…

Hillary Clinton smashed the myth of innate female moral superiority in the worst possible way — by demonstrating female moral inferiority. We didn’t really need her racial innuendos and free-floating bellicosity to establish that women aren’t wimps. As a generation of young feminists realizes, the values once thought to be uniquely and genetically female — such as compassion and an aversion to violence — can be found in either sex, and sometimes it’s a man who best upholds them.

Hillary’s Gift to Women

(I’m not one to argue with what people are searching Google for.)

Which is more sadistic: plain enforced chastity or ruined orgasms.

Enforced chastity simple means that you aren’t allowed to have an orgasm (which may or may not include orgasmless ejaculation via prostate massage, aka, male milking).

Or …

Ruined orgasms: a man is brought to the initial stage of orgasm but in such a way that it isn’t satisfying. I think the most common technique I’ve seen described is to remove the pressure and friction on the penis the moment the orgasm begins. So the neurological thrill is minimal.

Which is more sadistic?

Sounds like a femmdom fantasy from a female led relationships blog:

… says [Elizabeth] Halverson made him feel like a “houseboy.” … He says she asked him, “Do you want to worship me from near or afar?”

And:

Another time, she allegedly had her husband sworn in so that she could ask him under oath whether he had completed chores at home.

Judge allegedly napped, made bailiff rub her feet

This is not a very busy site but readership has picked up recently. That is why on Sunday and Tuesday I reran a random batch of early posts. Regrettably weblog format sites live and die by their front page.

Various aspects of my current life militate against my having adequate time to invest here. And honestly some of my other sites are greater importance to me, e.g., Fetish Meme. So I solicit you the readers and visitors to make suggestions or even contributions.

Are there topics and themes you’d like to see raised here? Then leave a comment on this entry or use the contact form.

Alternately you could write something for me to publish. Even if you have a blog guest posting is a common way to draw traffic to your own blog. You can use the contact form to submit a note or essay. I won’t mind even if your viewpoint is antithetical to mine. I’m more drawn to stimulating than persuading.

My own feelings about the practices of feminization and sissyfication are very mixed.

There seems to be an indigestible core of sexism in making anything feminine or womanly humiliating if it is done or worn by a male. Why should wearing a dress or lingerie be a mark of inferiority, a chastisement or even humbling?

But I do understand that for some men who are barely able to deal with parts of themselves it may offer a limited release. Men who

• Experience some degree of gender dysphoria or are closeted transvestites
• Men who are not able to cope with their sexual orientation, cannot accept that they are bisexual and have find men sexually attractive.

Having to sit to urinate as a form of submission strikes me as especially laughable. I often do that so that I can read at the same time.

Are you a sissy?

A few years ago a noted physicist equated popular science books and elementary science education with telling lies to children. Since most people don’t know the specialized mathematics, arcane measurements and abstruse tests behind most advanced scientific theories they after reading a book or taking a couple of science courses are under the sad impression that they know far, far more than they do.

Take this:

To create a male, a copy of the Female template, the Mother’s body must recognise the broken chromosome present within the male’s sperm which has entered Her body. A Woman’s chromosomes are XX. Two perfectly formed shapes which convey Her characteristics to the fetus. The male’s chromosomes can either be XX (thus ensuring a Female birth) or XY (conferring his damage to the fetus and causing a male). An X chromosome has all four “limbs” stemming form the central nexus. The Y has three limbs stemming form the center, the fourth one having been sheared off. A Y is nothing more than a broken or damaged, mutated X. It is the male of the species which confers sex to the offspring because damage results from damage, not from Perfection. Once the damaged chromosome is identified, the Female body bathes the developing fetus in hormones which halt the development of Female characteristics and force the formation of the inferior male structures.

“You *are* the Weakest Link! Goodbye!” and the baby is consigned to the role Nature designed for it. Observe the human body and you will see that the male form contains within it the structures of the Female, but mutated, withered and/or altered.

Many people repeat this weird balderdash and variations because it - in their minds - justifies zany theories of female supremacy.

One can only imagine what a gifted geneticist like Richard Dawkins would think of he encountered this.

Being forced to fellate another man is a common female led sex fantasy.

For men anyway. And a few women.

If nothing else it lets closeted bisexual men express their real, hidden sexuality.

Does forced cocksucking excite you? Repel you?

Obviously two gay women engaging in D/s makes nonsense of female superiority.

And what of two gay men? Are their passions unworthy and untrue? How about loving queer authority?

Female supremacy may make for hot wanking and is best left to that.