I was reading something by a female led husband, the details are forgotten.
Now this man had arranged to visit and do something with a pal. He’d forgotten to tell his “Mistress Wife.” When he did tell her she objected. She had other plans for that night. But she told him the choice was up to him.
He cancelled his plans so he could do as she wished.
His summation was that naturally she knew what was best that she was “always right.”
What she wanted to do was nothing special. It could have been done any day or night in the week at any time.
There was no superior judgment in operation.
It isn’t that I’d ever fault someone for wanting to please their spouse. It has nothing to do with being led by anybody.
But there was nothing about her preference that can be called ‘right.’
Why couldn’t the man simply say he did it to please her, to make her happy. Why did he have to pretend it was some sort of wisdom.
It seems a terrible burden to have to be always objectively correct rather than the person who must come first.
Why bother with fanciful fibs?
Originally posted 2008-02-09 18:34:33.
No related posts.
Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.
I think the male simply gets pleasure from obeying the wife/girlfriend. It’s not a question of “right” or “wisdon”, but merely of submissive pleasure, where the male enjoys the idee that the least important thing to the female is more important than the most important thing to the male. I find that incredibly exciting, as a submissive male, as an inherent aspect of a slavery relationship. It has nothing to do with right and wrong, or wisdon. It’s just incredible pleasure. Males and females are equally wise, and neither gender is supreme, generally, but in a relationship, a submissive male has no interest in equality, or fairness. He wants exactly the opposite, however he characterizes it. He obtains far more pleasure from giving up his golf at her whim than from playing golf, since he so loves being subordinate to his wife. Women should clearly understand that.
I think it was from Her Househusband Life and he wanted to be with a golfer golfing.The freind a male was not the most repsonsible and would posibly corrupt him and have a bad influence on him.
So She was right if he wants to accept that She knows best what is good from him and wants to stop this other irrespnsible male from ruining both his and Her life.
A wise woman you are, Dev.
One of the keys to the success of the relationship between Mrs. Mule and me is that we fight well. There is nothing wrong with confrontation. We respect each other and we come to an agreeable conclusion.
There is no “right” or “wrong.” However, there are times when one of our opinions doesn’t make sense. We are both willing to acknowledge this fact. It’s easy to admit when you are “wrong” when the other side doesn’t gloat over it. We get over it and on with it. We have too many other good things going on in our lives to fixate on what we had in the past disagreed on.
So Mrs. Mule is never wrong. We agree to do what she wants to do, and that is often what I want to do.
It’s really important to me that my slave boyfriend argues with me when he thinks I’m wrong. And he does. We both acknowledge that, within his limits, I can choose to have my decision prevail even if he does think I’m wrong, but so far it’s never come to this. And I want to keep learning and growing by being challenged.
A lot of this “rightness” reeks of righteousness. Hmm. I wonder why…?