I’ve had in the back of my mind now how notions of female superiority can be thought of as idealistic. People do want entities, personalities they can admire, worship. They create that most famous figment of the imagination, God. And become the devotees of men who can kick and through rubber objects across fields.
I myself can see a certain beauty in the idealization of the feminine, in woman worship. It is a romantic – in both senses – beauty. But beauty really isn’t truth, sad to say.
Some of this began with the literary genre courtly love. And what really was courtly love. Rich and powerful people Christianizing sexual frustration and adultery. King Arthur was a cuckold. Courtly love was a form of culture produced for entertainment. Powerful men could hardly let politics and military affairs languish while they tried living their erotic fantasies.
In later times a woman’s imagined purity was directly tied to the idea that women weren’t as intellectually capable or emotionally strong as men. Really it was a pedestal of inferiority.
I like the feelings of woman worship as much as anyone. I’m guilty of liking the pleasure afforded by lending a false luster to people to whom I’m attracted. And in the form of female supremacy it makes for great homemade porn.
But idealizing even the best and brightest is always a mistake. It demands they be who they aren’t. Being out of touch with reality is one of the most common sources of misery afforded the bourgeoisie (poor people need food and health care).
And if you project the imaginary construct of female superiority on a woman you care for you do her a great disservice. Women like to be seen as who they are, not as men fantasize them to be.
Enjoy these feelings as an imaginative act if you will. But don’t forego clarity and actuality.
Originally posted 2009-05-09 09:52:11.