Contract?

Do Your Need It In Writing?

Female Led Marriage Contract

Owner / slave contracts can be found all over the web.

Some are so broad as to verge on nullity: the submissive partner agrees to be respectful (i.e., a civil human being) and obedient. The dominant promises to be careful. And it is void at anytime for any reason (shouldn’t be anything else).

Some are just collections of slave rules. One of the best known is verbose, eerily specific, reflects the kink of just one person but roundup being reproduced all over the web because of its comparatively early publication date.

Generally these kinky regulatory documents are designed for lifestyle relationships in which the partners live together in a D/s context 24/7. Though they do seem to be growing in popularity with the long distance money mistresses: give the client something that feels tangible I guess.

Some couples use them as a way of distinguishing time spent in play space from the rest of their lives. They find it as a handy way of making a clean demarcation. And a few use them to provide excuses to play punishment games (I kind of like that one).

I think most couples feel that contracts are encumbrances, introducing an unwanted level of complexity to play. But if you call them agreements or guidelines they are less formidable.

Have you – do you – use a contract / agreement?

Would you like to? For clarity? Because it seems hot and sexy?

First Femdom Contract

As all students learn in their Femdom 101 class the word Masochism is derived from the name of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, the author of the first novel about female domination and sadism, Venus in Furs. Supposedly some of Venus in Furs was basied on Masoch’s relationship with Fanny Pistor.

Leopold von Sacher-Masoch with Madame Fanny Pistor
Leopold von Sacher-Masoch with Madame Fanny Pistor

Below is a a – doubtlessly horrible and possibly false – translation of the contract between Sacher-Masoch and Ms Piston. The first Femdom contract, perhaps the first consensual Dominant/submissive consensual relationship agreement.

Contract between Madame Fanny Pistor and Leopold von Sacher – Masoch. Masoch. Parole, Leopold von Sacher-Masoch parole, Leopold von Sacher-Masoch promises to be a slave of Madame Pistor and run promises to be a slave of Madame Pistor and run absolutely all his wishes and orders, and this for six absolutely all his wishes and orders, and this for six months. months.

On the contrary, Madame Fanny Pistor not require anything on the contrary, Madame Fanny Pistor not require anything dishonorable (which can make you lose your honor as a man and dishonorable (which can make you lose your honor as a man and citizen). citizen). It must also leave six hours a day for their addition, you should leave six hours a day for their work, and never look at his letters and writings. work, and never look at his letters and writings. Each violation for each infringement or negligence, or for each crime of lese-majesty, the mistress (Fanny or negligence, or for each crime of lese-majeste, the mistress (Fanny Pistor) will punish him according to his wishes his slave (Leopold von Pistor) will punish him according to his wishes his slave (Leopold von Sacher-Masoch). Sacher-Masoch). In summary, the subject will obey his sovereign in all, the subject will obey his sovereign with servile submission, please welcome gesture of a gift with servile submission, please welcome gesture of a gift wonderful and will not attempt to assert any claim to her wonderful love and will not attempt to assert any claim to her love no right to be her lover. no right to be her lover. Meanwhile Fanny Pistor is for its part is Fanny Pistor agrees to use skins as often as possible and agree to use skins as often as possible and all while she is cruel. all while she is cruel.

(Added later). ( At the expiry of six months, this interval the expiry of six months, this interval Deemed not servitude shall be made by the two bonded shall be deemed not made by the two parties, and they will not make any reference to what occurred. parties, and they will not make any reference to what occurred. Everything Everything has taken place must be forgotten, returning to the old has taken place will be forgotten, returning to the old relationship. relationship.

These six months need not be continuous, six months may suffer These need not be continuous, may suffer major disruptions, beginning and ending at the whim big breaks, beginning and ending at the whim of the sovereign. of the sovereign.

Signed in confirmation of the contract, participants: Signed, for confirmation of the contract, participants:

Fanny Pistor Leopold von Sacher-Masoch AGREEMENT BETWEEN THE CONTRACT BETWEEN Masoch and Masoch and WANDA WANDA DUNAJEW VON VON DUNAJEW

Slave mine: My Slave:

The conditions under Which you accept as a slave and I stand by my side are: The conditions under which you accept as a slave and I stand by my side are:

Absolute Renunciation of all point to your self. Absolute renunciation of all point to your self.

Outside the mine, you have no will. Outside the mine, you have no will.

You are in my hands a blind instrument running all my orders without question. You are in my hands a blind instrument running all my orders without question. In case you forget to be my slave and obey me not at all absolutely, I have the right to punish and correct to my taste, but Him ye dare complain. In case you forget to be my slave and obey me not at all absolutely, I have the right to punish and correct to my taste, but Him ye dare complain.

Everything that I offer you a pleasant and happy will be a grace for me, and you should not only thank welcome. Everything that I offer you a pleasant and happy will be a grace for me, and you should not only thank welcome. In your eyes, I will always act without error and I have no obligation. In your eyes, I will act always without error and I have no obligation.

You will be neither a son nor a brother or a friend, you will not be more than my slave lying in the dust. You will be neither a son nor a brother or a friend, you will not be more than my slave lying in the dust.

Just as your body, your soul belongs to me, and also, if you suffer a lot, you will have to submit to my authority as your feelings and your sentiments. Just as your body, your soul belongs to me, and also, if you suffer a lot, you will have to submit to my authority as your feelings and your sentiments.

The greatest cruelty is permitted me, and if you mutilate you will have to endure without complaint. The greatest cruelty is permitted me, and if you mutilate you will have to endure without complaint. You will have to work for me as a slave and if I surrender to the superfluous leaving you in a hardship, pisoteándoos, you shall kiss, without a murmur, the foot that trample you. You will have to work for me as a slave and if I surrender to the superfluous leaving you in a hardship, pisoteándoos, you shall kiss, without a murmur, the foot that tramples you.

I may say good-bye at any time, but you have no right to leave against my will, and if you come to escape you are to recognize the power and right of Torturaren to death, under every imaginable torment. I may say good-bye at any time, but you have no right to leave against my will, and if you come to escape you are to recognize the power and right of Torturaren to death, under every imaginable torment.

Apart from me you have nothing for you I’m all, your life, your future, your happiness, your misfortune, your torment and your joy. Apart from me you have nothing for you I’m all, your life, your future, your happiness, your misfortune, your torment and your joy.

You must run as I require, Whether good or bad, and if I call for a crime you you shall turn you into a criminal to obey my will. You must run as I require, whether good or bad, and if I call for a crime you you shall turn you into a criminal to obey my will.

Your honor is mine, your blood, your spirit and working capacity. Your honor is mine, your blood, your spirit and working capacity.

If you become unable to bear my domination and your chains become too heavy, will need to kill yourselves, you will never release you. If you become unable to bear my domination and your chains become too heavy, will need to kill yourselves, you will never release you.

I force myself, on my word of honor to be the slave of Madame Wanda von Dunajew, as it requires, and submit without resistance to what she imposed.

Originally posted 2010-01-08 07:00:45.

Rules for Male Slaves: Common Sense

By bootlicker.

Far better than a “legally enforceable contract” (which cannot exist under U.S. law, though it might elsewhere) is the willing agreement of a slave to serve its Owner. Like a successful sale, this arrangement depends on mutual consent and satisfaction. The couple can have a set of rules written down, if they wish. But perhaps even better is for the Owner to have full freedom to make the rules, change them at will, and enforce them as She pleases, and for Her slave to trust and accept Her will completely. That is, after all, the true essence of slavery and submission: there is just one rule, Obedience (for the slave) and Command (for the Owner). All the rest is just details. It’s probably good to have a way to discuss things if necessary. A safeword will trigger a conference: the rules may say that durng this conference, the slave may freely ask or suggest, but the Owner has the final say on what will be done. It all comes down to trust. If the slave trusts its Owner, then it will accept Her decision — on anything. After all, an Owner wants to keep Her property in good working order and serviceable, or there is no point in the whole business. In the worst case, if She does cause the death of Her slave, She will eventually be caught up by police and tried for murder … all that is worth avoiding, so She has a motivation to make sure that Her slave stays alive and well. On the other hand, if both have chosen well, the slave will be motivated to serve as expected, to avoid any more pain than he will certainly endure by the sheer nature of the relationship.

Femdom: A Fun Game with Risks

By bootlicker.

Any game that people play is fun precisely because it is a game. That applies to chess, football, tennis and bdsm. Real (i.e., non-consentual) slavery is not fun, and it’s not a game. It is bullying; it is assault, it is, potentially, murder. The key is consent — which the Canadian police, for example, don’t understand. That’s not to say that consent cannot be perpetual. A person can even lose his rational ability to think “no,” just as an addict can lose the ability to quit drinking or taking drugs. That’s where consent goes over the line. Like an addict, you surrender your decision-making authority temporarily (though that may be a long time, it should be finite) to your Owner. She, of course, has a duty (I suggest) to know your limits, and to stay within them. That’s part of the bargain; it’s like government. You trade a part of your freedom for benefits, and the right to review the social contract now and again. In BDSM, you may trade virtually all your freedom for a finite time period, ceding all decision to your Owner until next week, next year or whenever. This is what keeps it a game, a recreation, a contract. In fact, it’s rational (I suggest) even to cede the right to set the review date to your Owner, and rely on Her good sense — just as you rely on Her not causing you physical injury in the course of recreational pain. No, it doesn’t work 100% of the time, and neither does football. People do get hurt, sometimes badly. That’s probably because there’s no safe-word in football (and there’s a parallel: a big part of Femdom BDSM, at least for me, is “proving” yourself, being macho, being strong, just as in football). On the other side of the coin, the human DNA contains, I think, a “cruelty gene” that we repress with varying degrees of success. Being a Female Dominant gives that impulse a release, and is probably good for Her. Women are moulded by our society to be “nice” and they tend to sublimate in bitchiness or cattiness. However, Female Domination lets all that frustration out, along with annoyance at “the stupid things men do” (which no one can list anyway!). So if a submissive (read “romantic”) male wishes to show his strength and toughness, at the same time he shows his sacrificial devotion to the Woman he loves, why not? She, at the same time, vents Her frustrations, has fun teasing the man She loves and giving him sexual pleasure (albeit mixed with pain) whilst enjoying hot and heightened sex Herself. Part of the contract is that She decides, on the basis of Her personal pleasure, what kind of activities (“services”) Her temporary male slave will perform for Her. Another proven psychological factor is that for a human in the throes of sexual passion, pain and pleasure cross over (within some limits, of course, as already discussed). That is why a whipping feels “wonderful” in the context of sex, why “love-bites” are part of the fun. So for this male sub, it is a pleasure (not to mention a privilege) to lick my Owner’s boots and toes in a show of devotion and surrender, and to be allowed to lick certain sensitive parts of Her beautiful body in other ways that bring Her joy. In the midst of that passion, to feel Her whip is not only gratifying to my sense of devotion, but just plain exciting (for both of us)!

Do You Need a Contract?

Within the BDSM community slave contracts are a common topic. Many have been written. Some quite bad. And nobody knows how many such contracts have been lived up to.

Within the perhaps less kinky and demanding realm of female led relationships should both parties perhaps craft some set of rule and regulations? Written statements of the roles including obligations both male and female have?

Such formal agreements could be considered a second set of wedding vows.

The real danger with such summaries, like many attempt at regulation is in unnecessary specificity, cumbersome complexity. But some may benefit by establishing boundaries clearly at the beginning. And any contract can be amended.

Earlier: Interspousal Agreements.

Originally posted 2008-04-30 13:49:22.

Sample Slave Contract

Slave contracts are controversial. Some naïve kinky folk take them too literally and seriously.

It would be a mistake to base a D/s relationship on a contract. But many couples find the explicit statement of expectation, boundaries – the “rules” – genuinely helpful.

Below is one of the standard BDSM slave contracts that has been floating around for ages, probably predating the web.

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