Lifestyle Submissive Male Rules & Regulations

By Mistress Christianna

1. The submale must always practice traditional courtesy which men have shown Women in polite society, whether in private or public. Stand when She enters the room. Sit (or kneel) as soon as She is seated.

2. Be totally attentive: open doors, wait at table so that She begins eating first, always ask permission to leave Her presence.

3. The submale should never speak unless spoken to, or unless anticipating the needs of his Mistress.

4. The submissive will never sit with legs spread or slouch in a way typical of untrained males. Good posture and decorum is a sign of respect.

5. The submale will never stare at a Woman without Her permission. Unless the Woman seeks eye-contact, the submissive will keep his eyes lowered at all times.

6. When walking with his Mistress, or any Woman, the submissive will keep his gait in step with hers, which usually means taking smaller steps. The submale should always be at least a step behind; but not too far, because he must open all doors.

7. Respect is shown by a submissive as long as he never fails to forget his lowly role in life. The submissive must always be pleasant, never argue and never pout.

THE submale’s NAME

8. The submale should be given a new name by his Mistress to symbolize his submissive state. If the submale is a sissy, it should be a feminine name. Other names may be “made up” words that sound humiliating or which are amusing or pleasing to the Mistress; for example, names typical of pet dogs or cats.

THE submale’s BODY

9. A submale surrenders control to his Mistress. He surrenders control of his body, how he spends his time, how he dresses, what he eats, where he sleeps, the friends or acquaintances he is allowed to keep. In all aspects, the Mistress controls the submale.

10. Because a submale’s purpose is to please his Mistress, more than anything else She owns, he must learn to control his response to sexual stimulation for the greater enjoyment of his Mistress. his orgasm is the only that the submale has left to control for himself. Failure to control his orgasm is disobedience. Disobedience requires punishment.

11. If the Mistress prefers simply to torment the submale and deny him release, then the submale must control himself to provide Her than pleasure. He must dedicate himself to abstinence and thank his Mistress humbly for removing the pleasure of ejaculation, thus allowing him to dedicate his lost pleasure to Her.

12. If the Mistress demands satisfaction through sexual intercourse, the submale must be able to control effectively his own orgasm so that it is timed to the pleasure of his Mistress. His purpose is not to please himself but to please Her.

13. In all cases, the submale must remember that his orgasm does not belong to him — his orgasm belongs to his Mistress. It is Hers to use, however she sees fit.

14. The submale should be as clean-shaven as the Mistress requires: from the top of his head to his toes, body hair should be present only if the Mistress allows it.

15. The submale may wear long hair, styled to imitate the superior styles of Women, only if the Mistress permits.

16. The submale may never touch his own genitals without the permission of his Mistress. When washing, he must use a washcloth or brush, never his hands.

17. The submale will allow himself to be pierced or tattooed as required by his Mistress, if safely and professionally done.


18. The submale is the personal property of the Mistress. his possessions are Her possessions.

19. The submissive should always be saving to purchase “big ticket” items that his Mistress wants to buy. This means the submale is always on a strict allowance, kept by his Mistress.


20. Feminization is training in submission. Wearing items of Feminine attire separates the submissive from and puts him outside of the world of the macho male. Wearing feminine attire doesn’t make the male like a Woman; this is impossible.

21. Standard attire is pink or white panties, an extra-absorbent pad (normally used by those suffering from incontinence), and panty hose worn under male clothing.

22. Whether a woman knows what the submissive is wearing or not, feminization pushes the submissive closer to the company of women and away from the company of men. This is good for the submale, because it creates greater opportunities for him to be of help to Women, to serve them, and to model his behavior on their own superior behavior.

23. Feminine items can also be used as punishment — corsets, girdles and foundations. These should be selected by the Mistress for maximum discomfort.

24. If the submale is a sissy or TV, very feminine clothing should be reserved for rewards; drudge clothing — plain white panties, plain lingerie, housecoats, aprons, etc. — should be required as normal attire.

25. The submale should never buy his own clothing without the guidance of his Mistress. He should buy what pleases her, not what he likes.


26. The submissive will use only Feminine hygiene products: soaps, shampoos, lotions, deodorants, etc. and will be clean and properly groomed at all times.

27. The submale will submit to enemas, or self-administer enemas, on demand by the Mistress.

28. When urinating, the submale will always sit on the toilet; no exceptions.

29. For good health, the submissive will enroll in a dance aerobics class. As an alternative, the submale will prepare his own dance aerobics routine and perform it for his Mistress for Her amusement.

30. The submale must diet as required to maintain a correct weight for his height and should drink at least six 12-ounce glasses of water each day.

31. The submale must submit to eating only “submale food” selected by his Mistress whenever she requires it.


32. When a meal is over the submale must be quick to clear the table and wash the dishes.

33. The submale must always give his Mistress the first choice of everything — She picks the section of the paper to read first, the channel on TV to watch, the restaurant to go to, the movie to see, the friends to entertain, etc.

34. The submissive must always keep his own quarters spotless, as directed by the Mistress. All furnishings and interior decoration will follow Her taste.

35. The submale will perform all household chores for the Mistress, to include:

  • sweep and vacuum all floors and carpets
  • mop and was all floors
  • dust and polish all furniture
  • make the beds every day
  • wash and fold all clothing and linens
  • iron
  • handwash all lingerie
  • scrub bathrooms
  • clean kitchen
  • cook simple meals; assist in all cooking
  • wash dishes and put them away
  • set the table
  • shop for groceries and put them away
  • take out trash and sort recycled items
  • run all errands as directed
  • perform yard work; plant flowers as directed

A Mother’s Advise to a Daughter Who is Getting Married

By Joanne Dunne

Daughter dear if you listen to me.
Your married life pleasant can be.
A perfect marriage daughter dear.
Is one where he will only shed a tear.

Rule him with an iron hand.
Only you will command.
Keep him under strict control.
Serving you will be his only role.

Humiliate him before your friends.
For his mistakes he must make amends.
Spank him morning, noon, and night.
It will keep him on the path that’s right.

Dress him in sexy lingerie.
It’s sure to brighten up your day.
Make him cook, and clean the house.
To prove that he is a loving spouse.

Keep him locked in chastity.
Sexual plesure is only for thee.
Take yourself a lover or two.
Tease him with what you won’t let him do.

Sit upon his upturned face.
That is for him a proper place.
Let him service you orally.
Giving tou pleasure is his duty.

Put him in a frilly dress.
As he kneels for your caress.
Him with a strap-on you’ll fuck.
His reward for being your sissy cuck.

Make him kneel and worship your feet.
As with a whip his ass you beat.
Treat his as your lowly slave.
Only he will be bound by the wedding ring.
This is how you should behave.

{My most sincere thanks to Joanne for sending this.]

Ruined Orgasm Stories III

Denying Men Sexual Pleasure

More tales of manipulating male sexuality.

Prostate Massage

have been in chastity since the CB2000 came out. It was largely unsatisfactory as my scrotum was too tight and bunched up. A long period of ball stretching did wonders and by the time the CB3000 appeared, I could wear it for quite long periods. All my ejaculations are supervised and controlled by my wife and I am only permitted if I have been a very good boy in the preceeding month. If I have been less than satisfactory, I will be given a ruined orgasm, which to me is worse than no orgasm at all. I am secured (handcuffed behind my back), and leaned over a low hassock on the coffee table. The wife uses her gloved finger to massage my prostate while very slowly pulling/stroking my penis. As soon as she feels any contractions internally, she stops the massage and releases my penis. After a few cycles of this, I am desperate to cum, but she has become an expert in judging how close to the edge she can bring me without triggering an actual ejaculation. Eventually, just at one of my impending orgasms, she will release my penis and keep slowly massaging my prostate. A few globs of semen will dribble out in a totally ruined ejaculation onto the saucer below me. After I stop dripping, she repeats the sequence over and over. It usually takes five or six cycles of this until my dribbling has emptied me completely and no more semen can be produced. The frustration can be incredible and I am often “humping the air”, (to her amusement)desperately trying to get any stimulation at all when she ceases her massage and stroking. Of course, when it’s all over, she “recycles” what has dripped into the saucer.

Denying Her Slave

M’lady enjoys stroking Her cock to the brink of orgasm and denying Her slave the oppurtunity to have an orgasm, and repeats this process of stroking and teasing until Her slave is going crazy with frustration and begging to even be milked even though he knows that he will be even more frustrated after he feels Her cum dribble from Her cock…

Trained to Hate Orgasms

i have recently got into ruined orgasms after years of enforced orgasm control both self and from my Mistress, i have been trained to hate cuming and g ofor long periods with no orgasm whilst masturbating every day, i have such an empty feeling after cuming and a ruined orgasm adds to the feeling of worthlessness and reduces the feeling of male worth, i usually asl to cum straight into my own mouth when i do cum properly its the only reason i can see for a full ejaculation. ruining the orgasm also maintains the sexual frustration whilst removing the full feeling i enjoy so much.

Forbidden to Move

My girlfriend has trained me to remain completely still while she milks my cock, teases my balls and nipples, and anus. I cannot react in any way, and must continue to have normal conversation with her, or makes me tell her how submissive i feel and how my cock belongs to my mistress. The whole time she keeps me on the brink of orgasm, not knowing if she will let me cum. Sometimes, after being denied orgasm, I am ordered to sleep behind behind mistress in the spooning position with my cock inside her, but I cannot move.

Tell me about your ruined orgasms.

Originally posted 2012-04-23 07:22:06.

Ruined Orgasm Stories I

In 2006 I wrote a note about the F/m practice of ruining a man’s orgasm. It has continued to draw comments over the years. I thought I’d share some of those comments with you over a fes posts here on Female Led Relationships.

Chastity Control on a Sissy Sub

I have practised Chastity Control on my sissy sub for two years. There nothing funnier than ruining his orgasm after hes waited two months for it. I basically restrain him so he cant move, then masturbatedhim. At the moment he cums, I squeeze the base of his cock HARD between my thumb and finger. This complete ruins the orgasm, stopping the muscle contractions, and leaving and the semen to dribble out. This I follow with a stiff whipping, and the cock restraint is placed straight back on. This is usually enough to produce some very pleasing tears of pain and frustration, and of course, total obedience for two more months.

Punished for an Erect Penis

If I ever arrive for a spanking with an erection, I am told to get a towel and return for a milking. She calmly lowers my panties just enough to remove my hard penis, which is stroked methodically and without much talk in a very businesslike manner. The moment any spasm is detected, she lets go. My hands are behind my back and I ejaculate in a most unsatisfactory display of stupid male behavior. I almost dance around as my penis is looking for something…anything…to touch, but, alas, none is forthcoming. When I’ve stopped dripping, (I’ve messed the towel, of course), she simply pulls my panties back up. When I’d normally have them lowered for the bare bottom part of my spanking, instead, they’re pulled up into my bottom crack, leaving my bottom exposed for the spanking I’ve earned, but now my penis and other private parts are encased in the nylong panties. My penis is VERY sensitive and spankings are more painful just after a milking….and, of course, being milked is a humiliating way to start my punishment.

Ruin Orgasms Repeatedly

A side benefit to ruining an orgasm is the mistress is able to do it more than once, since a satisfying orgasm has not been reached. I love to combine a ruined orgasm with some kind of pain, esp. ballbusting. Not only does the male not receive an orgasm when his body expects it, but testicular pain is substituted. Paddling the testicles with my fingers as he’d dribbling out his ruined orgasm is very amusing for me.

Explicity Fantasy

Fantasize: After a ruined orgasm the slave has a short time limit to acheive ogasm. Of course the mistresses limit is always seconds to short. OR She ties the base of his penis tightly, after full erection & watches with amusemsnt as the poor thing pounds away until she is satisfied with its colour.

Femdom Male Chastity Contract: An Example


Example Femdom Chastity Contract: You Should Always Write Your Own.


1. To train the Submale to not disrespect his Mistress Owner by masturbating
2. To train the Submale quality over quantity with his sexual releases
3. To affirm the Submales submissive nature to his Mistress Owner and satisfy his desire to be kept chaste while learning to get his pleasure only from Her pleasure.


1. Chastity Device – A tool which locks in place and uses confinement or discomfort to prevent a male from engaging in sexual intercourse, masturbation, or having erections
1. This contract will be in effect for (1) year
2. At any time the contract may become permanent if agreed to by Mistress Owner and Submale
3. The contract may be cancelled at any time, but only at the sole discretion of the Mistress Owner
4. This contract and its option for a permanent extension remain in effect regardless of the status of the marriage

Responsibilities of the Submale:

1. To provide honest and complete information to his Mistress Owner on the most effective chastity devices available, both now and in the future
2. To assist in measuring and fitting of the devices to ensure proper fit and security
3. To have his genitals pierced as needed for any devices selected by his Mistress Owner
4. To submit full control of his sexual organs to his Mistress Owner for the length of this agreement
5. To keep the chastity device clean and in proper working order and immediately report any problem with the device to his Mistress Owner
6. To immediately report any unauthorized ejaculation to his Mistress Owner
7. To provide pleasure to his Mistress Owner on a regular basis without expecting any reciprocation
8. To never expect he will be unlocked only because his Mistress Owner wishes to be intimate
9. To never expect an orgasm only because his Mistress Owner wishes to unlock his chastity device
10. To never hesitate or complain if he is relocked in his chastity device without any relief
11. To acknowledge that there are no guaranteed orgasms and his Mistress Owner may choose to not remove the chastity device for the duration of this agreement
12. To always thank his Mistress Owner for any opportunity to provide her sexual gratification because his sole focus should be to provide his Mistress Owner pleasure and happiness
13. To understand his genitals are no longer his property or his concern, and that his Mistress Owner may do with him sexually as she sees fit, whenever she sees fit- or nothing at all
14. To always remember “This is what you asked for”

Responsibilities of the Mistress Owner:

1. To select one or more chastity devices for Her Submale
2. To assist in measuring and fitting of the devices to ensure proper fit and security
3. Establish a “Training Period” to get Her Submale accustomed to wearing chastity devices of increasing security for increasing amounts of time to experiment with work, exercise, sleep, comfort, etc. This training does not count toward the (1) year chastity period
4. To inform Her Submale of his chastity “Start Date” and decide on his initial confinement period, making sure it is long enough to “break” Her Submale of his masturbation habit
5. To be the sole decision maker on when and if Her Submale is ever allowed to be unlocked from the chastity device and/or have an orgasm
6. To be strict and vigilant in her efforts to keep Her Submale in chastity by watching for signs of his cheating and keeping all keys to the chastity device secure and well hidden
7. To tease Her Submale often to maximize his excitement level between possible releases
8. To not be manipulated by Her Submale in any way- and only remove the chastity device for Her own pleasure, enjoyment, or amusement
9. To never feel obligated to grant Her Submale an orgasm even if She wishes to remove the device for activities and then lock him back up when those activities are done
10. To use prolonged chastity to improve any aspect of Her Submale’s behavior she sees fit
11. To use prolonged chastity and teasing to assist in negotiating any modifications to and/or the permanent extension of this agreement
12. To never disclose when or how She intends to grant Submale an orgasm
13. To never under any circumstances allow him to masturbate or stimulate his own penis
14. To always keep Submale guessing even if it means telling him he is going to have an orgasm and stimulating him to almost-orgasm or ruined-orgasm and then locking him back up
15. To always remember he is in a chastity device for his own good
16. To allow the device to be removed for certain medical visits, which She may accompany
17. To not impose any requirements that could negatively impact the Submale’s work status
18. To not use the chastity device to manipulate any ordinary household joint decisions
19. To adhere to and strictly enforce all Mandatory Penalties listed below (All minimums)
20. To always remember “This is what he asked for”

Mandatory Penalties:

1. Nagging or otherwise being a pest about initiating intimacy by the Submale will result in an automatic 10 Day Minimum confinement (Polite and respectful offers for a massage or something similar are always fine)
2. Whining, complaining or asking questions about when is the next removal from the chastity device by the Submale will result in an automatic 30 Day Minimum confinement
3. Refusing to perform or receive any intimate act directed by the Mistress Owner, while locked in chastity or not, will result in an automatic confinement period equal to the length of time it takes for the Mistress Owner to enjoy 50 orgasms of her own, however long that may be
4. An unsuccessful attempting to tamper with or defeat the chastity device by the Submale will result in an automatic 60 Day Minimum confinement
5. A successful attempting to tamper with or defeat the chastity device by the Submale will result in reassessment of the device security and an automatic 90 Day Minimum confinement once reestablished


1. This agreement may be modified from time to time as the Mistress Owner sees fit and as the Submale agrees to.

Acceptance of Initial (1) Year Period:

__________________ _____ _______________________ _____
Mistress Owner Date Submale Date

Acceptance of permanent extension:
___________________ _____ _______________________ _____
Mistress Owner Date Submale Date

Male Slaves Locked in Cages When Sold

Matriarchal civilizations often reach a stage where men become the property of women. Males become the owned slaves of females.

For various reasons the female slave owners will need to acquire and dispose of slave men. Slave brokers and used slave dealers find buyers and sellers and when necessary arrange the transport of male slaves.

Slaves who are sold to owners in distant towns and nations are always caged for shipment.


To save money the slave man be shipped by the cheapest and hence the slowest means possible. Slave men spend days, even weeks locked in their cages. Gagged to keep them silent. Minimally nourished to minimize problems of waste disposal.


If the new owner is an extreme disciplinarian or the slave has a record of inappropriate actions the cages often have spiked floors and roofs. When the slave meets its new owner it is completely docile.


There are inevitably slave men that are sold several times during their lives. Cramped cages become their second homes.

Sissymale Erections: Should They Be Permitted?

What ever resides in the depths of a sissy male’s heart and soul the creature was born male. It has a penis. During the early stages of feminization should the sissy’s penis be permitted to become erect?

Sissy males in variably locked in chastity devices. They have chaste, sometimes permanently denied lives. Allowing the sissy’s cock to hangout exposed is part of the feminized males humiliation: the organ is a subject of mockery and sarcastic pity. Allowing the penis space to become large and solid gives sissy memories that will magnify his frustration once his ‘manhood’ is locked behind steel and Lucite.

The available and erect penis permits special training. If its penis swells punish the sissy. Whip the sissy’s penis. But clamps on it. Teach him that an unwanted erection brings punishment. How a Mistress Owner will smile as the sissy stops having erections: fear of punishment leaves the sissy impotent.

Their is no better lesson to teach the sissy his lowly status as the least slave of woman.