A short extract from an essay by Laura Goodwin:
Not all, but certainly most of the heterosexual dominant women I’ve known want a guy who’s got a lot on the ball. They want to be impressed, and BTW, they want to be made to feel special: to be courted. Sub males have a slightly different script to follow when courting a dominant woman, but it’s not *that* different. …
It is important to be honest about your strengths and weaknesses, if she asks, but keep a *little* mystery, will ya? Don’t dump your whole life story, especially in your first conversation/letter. You are trying to get to know her a little, and let her get to know you. If you get a clear, unmistakable sign from her that to her you could possibly be more than a friend, _and_ if you like her, *then* you turn on the charm and do your darnedest to win her over.
Lots of men and women who meet through ads or S/M support groups make the mistake of rushing off to have dinner together. This is wrong. First, take a walk together. If that doesn’t quickly become tiresome, then you may get coffee, even lunch together. Then you stop! Then you go home! Send her a note of thanks for the fine company, call on the phone to ask if you may visit again, and leave it up to her. If she doesn’t encourage you, give up!
Whole essay: Courting A Dominant Woman