Mistresses Spanking Men
There is nothing unnatural about a woman spanking a man. Or disciplining and punishing him by whatever method the woman prefers.
Spanking reaffirms her superiority and the male’s duty to obey.
It always bugs men when someone links heterosexual male submission to being polite to women.
Still a dominant woman is in a privileged position and can require special courtesies, hommages, gestures from the men who serve them. What special touches or extra acts of politeness do you expect (or require)?
Originally posted 2015-05-06 23:16:49.
Terms like Domme and Mistress are only merely tolerated by some dominant women.
Labels for self-identification seem to be chosen in large part because of the feelings they evoke for an individual. Like “Mistress” – some people love the label, some hate it. The same with “slave”. Me, if I have to put a label on me I’ll call myself a dom, but not a domme. Not that I think domme is a bad label, it just doesn’t work for me personally.
Yeah, I have felt forced to use it myself now and then, but I still don’t like it. “Domme” is especially awkward since people can’t agree on how to pronounce it in speech. I have heard people defending _Dom_, _Dome_, _Dom-may_, and _Dome-may_. May I respectfully suggest we just drop its use completely? It’s not a useful word if it only adds to the confusion, IMHO.
Why not just go back to *Dame*? Dame is a cool word, that already has a solidly accepted definition:
dame (d³m) n. 1. Used as a courtesy title for a woman in authority or a mistress of a household. 2.a. A married woman; a matron. b. An elderly woman. 3. Slang. A woman. 4. Chiefly British. a. A woman holding a nonhereditary title conferred by a sovereign in recognition of personal merit or service to the country. b. The wife or widow of a knight. c. Used as the title for such a woman. [Middle English, from Old French, from Latin domina, feminine of dominus, lord, master.]
Any woman who rules her own household is a Dame; that’s the number one definition! An especially outstanding Dame, or one who is a leader among Dames would be called a Grand Dame. An exemplary Dame might be called a Great Dame. 🙂 Used in a sentence: “She’s more than a Grand Dame, she’s a Great Dame!”
Other poisoned terms which IMHO should be retired: “Dominatrix” (dominatrice). Too closely associated with the pro scene to be useful in identifying a non-pro dominant woman. “Domina” also is used so much by pros that I think all non-pros should just let them have it and call it a day.
It is disturbing that to identify a woman who is not available for rent we have to call her a non-anything, like she is lacking in some way. A dominant woman, a sadistic woman, and a woman who is a BDSM top are firmly, positively, something definite which is not cute and girlish. A woman who is a bondage master, that is, a master of the art, can certainly be called a master. The term mistress is tainted, but I tolerate it because of its antiquity. The word mistress is not going away, and I’m OK about that.
If people want a respectful term for someone who is really wise and respected, then how about something like Mahatma? That is a word which can be used for either men or women, either tops or bottoms, who are knowledgeable and venerated. That’s the kind of word we really need right now, IMHO, as much as we need the kind of people we’d attach it to. What we don’t need is more frilly pink labels to pin onto glorious, terrifying, Amazonian dominant DAMES.
Originally posted 2015-04-15 02:13:55.
Many submissive guys seem to think women role off the femdom assembly line complete with corset, thigh-high boots and riding crop. The effect of porn working on their perpetual psychic meltdown.
What makes you distinctive? Do you see yourself as special, different, good in some aspect of your life? Elegance, skill at bondage, measured sadism or more humane qualities (which I’m not going to list because I know that would insure they be chosen). Something quirky, highly individual?
It is only human to think we are good at some things.
You’ve discovered that dominating men is something you enjoy. Perhaps feel you need to do. How, you wonder, should you go about being a dominant woman.
That depends on you. As an individual you will evolve your own habits and style.
Fitting F/m Into Your Life
And there are many other possibilities. Don’t let someone sell you on being who you aren’t.
Some women are dominant without being sadistic. Others are pure female sadists who enjoy inflicting pain but don’t care for Mistress/slave roles.
At the beginning your guide is what you think and fantasize about. Over time your habits and practices will be shaped by what you have discovered actually gives you the most satisfaction.
Rather than worrying about being perfect at the very beginning, just relax and enjoy the ride.
Originally posted 2015-02-11 21:21:27.
Worship the Divine Feminine
Women are living Goddesses. Men are born to serve and adore the superior gender.
Give thanks that she permits you to worship her. That see even allows you to be in her presence.
Men should never think of themselves. Males humble your hearts, kneel, bow your heads, pray to her.
Fear Mistress Owner’s Judgment
Women judge men. Their superior intelligence and intuition enable them to see all the weaknesses and failings of the lesser gender.
Mistress Owners discipline and punish men. Every day a man should be punished for the error of being born male.
Every momentary lapse of respect must be punished. Tardiness, inattention, self-involvement require correction and chastisement.
There is no escape from womankind’s judgement. It is a sin to even think of trying to evade the penalties for your incorrect thoughts and inadequate actions.
Mistress’ Untouchable Breasts
Mistress knows that you admire her body. That you would give anything just to touch her for a second. But you are not worthy.
She wants you to crave her caress and would die for a kiss. But you are a man.
Desperate with arousal, your groin ache. Your pain amuses her. As always, your suffering is her entertainment.
Look in the mirror – would you want that man’s hands on your body?
You might find the story of the man who bought a CB-3000 as a Christmas present for his wife interesting.
I have no proposals for arcane and bizarre F/m Christmas rituals. Why should there be any?
This post is to direct you to a small collection of Femdom Christmas Cartoons. A new illustration be added every day for the next several days.
Mistress: The most common honorific for the head of a female led relationship. A submissive man’s Mistress is the arbiter, decider, ruler of his life Controls his behavior including his sexuality. The guides him with tenderness and discipline. He repays her with obedience adoration and love. He worships her as teh focus of his life.
More drawings of dominant women by Leone Frollo.