Perhaps a Gagged SAM
Smart Ass Masochist Defined
Smart Ass Masochist. These are masochists who don’t know how to simply
ask for what they want. Instead, they make a game of making tops and
others genuinely angry so they will get beaten up. They have a sick
need to inflame real rage in people. They are psychos, and just plain no
fun to play with.
SAMs are a big cause of guilt and hard feelings in the scene, and
especially out of the scene. Just because you go off on them like they
want you to doesn’t mean they will praise you after. NO. Often they
accuse their victims of being abusive bullies, and try to make them take
the whole blame for the violence that they provoked.
There are psychological masochists who like to be verbally abused, and
they have their SAM equivalent. You can see people like this trolling
for abuse all over the net.
Some people in the BDSM scene call themselves SAM, like it’s cute, like
calling yourself a pervert. Being a SAM is not like being an adorable
“brat”. Brats are fun: SAMs are not. Originally and properly, to be
called a SAM is a straight up insult. People, please use the term
correctly. It’s only slang, but we still don’t want it to become
meaningless from misuse.
SAM’s are not brats, but they aren’t necesarilly bad either. As long
as it is consentual, people can be sammy all they like. Brat has
connotations of cute, SAM doesn’t, so they are distinct in the positive
sense. But if someone wnats to do some verbal sparring during a scene, I
see no eason they shouldn’t, as long as the top knows about it and is
From an old discussion on Usenet.