Charlotte tells of the beginning of her female led family: meeting the man who would become her submissive husband.
I noticed that he responded well to being treated with kind authority. It was as if he could relax and be his natural sweet self when he felt that I had taken control. When he was told clearly what to do and what not to do and how to behave he stopped acting foolishly and provocatively and seemed to feel secure and comfortable with being subjected to authority. Many months before we began being romantically involved the situation that I not only in the study group but in general sort of looked after him and made sure he behaved reasonably well. We did not discus and agree on this, it just came natural and especially after I a few times had given him a good ticking off for things like not keeping his room tidy, not being punctual and not contributing to the study group as he was supposed it was easy to control him and moderate his behavior. He obviously needed the stern reprimands to be able to trust that I really was looking after him and when my authority first was established he felt safe and comfortable with being controlled.